The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, far away and near smell, is annoying is the face is big and there is no self-awareness.
It is precisely because they do not know how to take a good measure and do not leave a suitable distance, two people who obviously have no contradictions and conflicts will also be tied up because of the proximity of the distance.
In particular, the mother-in-law also came to help, really came to squeeze her son, robbed the rich and helped the poor, which no one could accept such a fact.
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01, the son-preference mother-in-law, take the initiative to take care of the granddaughter
Xiao Yan may not have thought that her mother-in-law, who had just given birth to a daughter on the front foot and preferred sons to daughters, took the initiative to take a stand on the back foot, saying that she would ask Miao to take care of her granddaughter so that Xiao Yan and her husband could work and earn money with peace of mind.
Although the mother-in-law seemed to have some utilitarian intentions, xiao Yan slowly accepted her mother-in-law when she took care of her daughter's affairs in every detail. Later, the mother-in-law lived in Xiao Yan's house for a long time.
After taking maternity leave, Xiao Yan went back to work, leaving her mother-in-law alone at home with the child. That is, from that time on, the mother-in-law often began to cry and complain about poverty, and under the guise of taking care of her granddaughter, she asked Xiao Yan and her husband for money.
Xiao Yan thought that she and her husband were busy at work and couldn't take care of their children, so every time her mother-in-law wanted as much as she wanted. At that time, she did not carefully calculate the account, anyway, the milk powder was gone, the diaper was gone, and the mother-in-law asked for money, each time it was one or two thousand.
But the more times, Xiao Yan tasted some different tastes. According to the amount of milk of the daughter, only 4 cans of milk powder are used at most a month, but the mother-in-law asks her for 6 cans of milk powder money every time, and says that the child eats well to grow fast. Not to mention other overhead.
02, the mother-in-law spends 10,000 yuan a month
Xiao Yan did not personally take the child, and naturally accepted her mother-in-law's words. But the number of times the mother-in-law asked for money was more, and Xiao Yan had to keep an eye on it. With such attention, she really discovered her mother-in-law's selfishness and small actions.
She had calculated an account from beginning to end, and since her mother-in-law had arrived, she had calculated every transfer clearly. After calculating this, she found that she gave her mother-in-law ten thousand yuan a month, which did not include family expenses and utility fees.
Xiao Yan was a little angry, and when her mother-in-law asked for money again, Xiao Yan asked her mother-in-law to explain the expenses clearly. As a result, the mother-in-law said for half a day, and she couldn't say why. Even later, when I was forced to be anxious, my mother-in-law was still a little anxious: I was kind enough to help you with your children, and you were still wary of me. If you are not satisfied, take your own children.
The mother-in-law's words immediately made Xiao Yanyan stop and did not dare to mention the matter of money again. It wasn't until the little uncle came to the house as a guest, and the mother-in-law carried Xiao Yan's back to give money to the little uncle, Xiao Yan's anger was completely ignited.
Xiao Yan asked her mother-in-law, where did the more than 10,000 yuan per month go? The mother-in-law is still stubborn and refuses to confess. Xiao Yan did not force her, and directly said that she saw the little uncle come to the house to get money, and the mother-in-law's face was suddenly red and white.
03, daughter-in-law to catch people: spend 10,000 a month, I can't afford it
After ten minutes of stalemate between the two sides, the mother-in-law had to lose the battle and confess everything truthfully. It turned out that when she first came to take her granddaughter, she was not willing. It is true that the daughter-in-law is too strong and domineering, and the younger son is also a strict wife, and the mother-in-law has to ask for perfection and take the initiative to help take the granddaughter.
After the mother-in-law came to the house, she was also more honest at the beginning, and she was bent on taking her granddaughter well. Coupled with the generous hand of the eldest son and the eldest daughter-in-law, who has never withheld her, the mother-in-law is more willing.
It's just that all this, after the little uncle came to the house to cry poor, all became the past. When the mother-in-law took the child at their house, the sister-in-law hated the mother-in-law for getting in the way. But when the mother-in-law came to help the brother-in-law with the child, the sister-in-law began to be extremely red again.
So the sister-in-law asked her uncle to come to the house to cry for money, and said that the economic pressure of raising two sons was too great. Since the mother-in-law does not help with the child, it always has to be subsidized by money.
The mother-in-law is already partial to the little uncle and grandson, the little uncle so crying, the mother-in-law is completely soft and compromised, every month the eldest son's family expenses are deducted, and then subsidized to the younger son.
Hearing this, Xiao Yan suddenly didn't know what to say. When the sister-in-law drove away the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law was still aggrieved, crying and crying, but now that only half a year has passed, the mother-in-law has forgotten the pain of the scar and began to be soft-hearted.
But no matter how soft and compromised her mother-in-law was, Xiao Yan didn't want to indulge her anymore. She directly packed up her mother-in-law's luggage and drove people away: spend 10,000 yuan a month, please can't afford it, you still look for your young son to retire.
The husband interceded for her mother-in-law in various ways and said good things, but Xiao Yan did not have a soft heart. She would rather send the child back to her mother's house and let her parents take care of her, rather than continue to help her mother-in-law raise her little uncle's family of four.
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