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Yesterday, I chatted with my colleagues about the recent hit drama "Dear Little Child".
She said that a mother-in-law like Gao Caiping, although she has shortcomings, but her heart is straight and fast, she is kind and kind, and she is very easy to get along with.
And although she has no culture and speaks with a big grin, she is really distressed about her daughter-in-law and granddaughter. It's not like some people will only be hypocritical and hang their pain on the child's lips.
Probably feeling my surprised gaze, my colleague said depressedly that her mother-in-law had always helped her husband's brother's family with children, and her daughter-in-law could only let her mother bring them.
Originally, she didn't think there was any problem, and every three or five minutes she would take her daughter to her husband's brother's house to play. On the surface, it seems that a large family is lively and lively.
However, a while ago, she realized that her mother-in-law's daughter-in-law was only a superficial pain, and her bones were still the most painful for the son of the concubine's family.
It turned out that her mother-in-law had returned to her hometown to serve the old woman who had been sick for more than ten days. During the period, there were relatives who did the wedding event, and her mother-in-law, as an elder, wanted to attend, so she rushed back to attend the wedding.
At that time, when her daughter-in-law saw her grandmother, she ran over happily to hug her. The mother-in-law didn't even extend her hand, so she said, "Grandma has a cold, don't dare to hold it, for fear of infecting you." “
As a result, just after this side was finished, her concubine came with her son, and the mother-in-law immediately said with a smile on her face, "Come and let Grandma hug, oh, eat fat again, Grandma is almost unable to hold... Did you miss Grandma..."
Looking at the lost daughter, and listening to the mother-in-law hugging and kissing the little nephew, she deeply felt what is hypocrisy.
Alas, the same is thicker than water, but some old people will just favor one grandchild, while other children are perfunctory, that is, there is no practical action.
Therefore, sometimes you really can't look at what you say, the key is to see how to do it. And those grandparents who really hurt their children, most of them will have these 2 performances.
Always want to give the best to the child
In fact, whether you love a person or not, it is all in the details. Maybe they don't have great skills, but they always want to leave the best for their children.
They may not have a good pension and savings, but they are willing to spend money on their grandchildren. For example, they will remember the child's birthday and buy a small cake or a toy car;
When rushing to the market, I will pay attention to whether there are children's hats for sale, or beautiful small clothes and shoes; when I see what other children have in their hands, I always want to buy one for my grandchildren...
When they go out to eat, they will use plastic bags or toilet paper to pack two candies and a handful of melon seeds and peanuts. When I got home, I saw my grandchildren and took them out of my pocket like a treasure.
Even if they don't live together, every time they see a child, they will secretly stuff money and take out a lot of good food from the cupboard.
Can't stand children getting sick and being bullied
When you really love someone, you always worry that he will be hurt.
After the child is sick, some elderly people who usually shout Bao'er may not even make a phone call. And those grandparents who really hurt their grandchildren are overwhelmed, but they can't help but feel pain.
Like the grandmother in Dear Little Kids, she hadn't seen her granddaughter in four years. Hearing that the child was seriously ill, she immediately went to the hospital and hugged her granddaughter and cried "My Grass".
Then rush to do the matching, no one can stop. She didn't have much culture, but she felt that this would save her Hehe sooner.
When the child is bullied, they hate not being able to tear each other apart on the spot and get angry for their own children. Friends said that when she was a child, she was chased and pecked by the big rooster raised by the family, and she was also pecked out of the blood.
The next morning, she never heard the rooster crow again. At noon, there was a big pot of chicken soup on the dinner table.
Finally, I would like to say that the elderly who really love their children will not say it directly with their mouths, but silently pay and subconsciously protect.
If you are lucky enough to meet, please be grateful; if you accidentally encounter an eccentric elderly person, just stay away, do not plant the seeds of complaints for children.
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