Affection and love are with you
Everyone's understanding of happiness is different, some people think that being rich and carefree is happiness, and some people think that family harmony is harmonious. The happiness of a family is happiness, in fact, there has not been a specific concept of the meaning of happiness from ancient times to the present.
But it is undeniable that going well will make everyone feel a strong sense of happiness unconsciously.
For women after marriage, the greatest happiness is the harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
01 Because of deep love, I neglected my family situation
Kiki and her boyfriend Li Wang met through work, Kiki is a salesman of a company, and Li Wang is one of her customers, because the two usually communicate more on work issues, one after another, the two have developed into a couple.
After becoming a couple, Li Wang took Kiki to meet his parents, after all, the age of the two was not small at that time, although there was not much improvement in their careers, but since they had met a good person, it was better to start a family first.
When Kiki first met her mother-in-law, her impression of her was quite good, after all, when Kiki stepped into Li Wang's door, she was warmly received from her mother-in-law.
If Kiki can have the ability to predict the future, I believe that at that time, she will not be confused by the superficial "enthusiasm" of her mother-in-law.
Soon, the marriage between the two was determined, and on the day of the two people's great joy, Kiki wore a white wedding dress and married Li Wang in a beautiful scenery.
Kiki knew from the beginning that Li Wang's family conditions were average, but she did not dislike Li Wang because of it, because the two had cooperated for so many years, and they already had a certain understanding of each other, moreover, Kiki's original family was relatively rich, so she was not so picky about Li Wang's family conditions.
It can be said that Kiki married into Li Wang's family because of love.
02 After marriage, I found that my mother-in-law was very partial
Kiki had thought that she should get the favor of her mother-in-law when she married Li Wang unconditionally, but the development of things was always somewhat unexpected.
At first, there was no discord between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, until by chance, when Kiki heard the neighbors say that the mother-in-law showed off to others because she did not mention anything when she got married, Kiki's good feelings for her mother-in-law instantly decreased a lot.
Kiki also knows in her heart that since she has been married, it is difficult to avoid some mother-in-law contradictions, so when she learns that her mother-in-law is showing off behind her back, Kiki also laughs and does not bother with her mother-in-law, as long as she and her husband are happy, everything else will go with him.
Although she thought so in her heart, after sensing her mother-in-law's eccentricity, all the self-comfort in Kiki's heart fell apart.
The thing is, husband Li Wang has a sister of similar age, she was married at a very early age, because she was young when she got married, she did not know how to consider the factors of reality, so for so many years, life was more difficult.
Since Kiki married into this family, she often found that her mother-in-law received her sister-in-law, and she went to her sister-in-law's house every three or five minutes, bringing many things with her.
Kiki understands her mother-in-law, after all, as her own biological daughter, she can't bear to see her daughter suffering in someone else's home.
But the occurrence of one thing made Kiki feel that her mother-in-law was really eccentric.
03 The mother-in-law's inaction made the daughter-in-law feel very angry
Kiki needed to go out for a while because of work, and Li Wang was also very busy during that time, so the husband and wife discussed and planned to put the child's home at the mother-in-law's house for a period of time.
According to normal circumstances, the grandchild wants to come to her own home, and as a grandmother, she is naturally very happy, but when Kiki told her mother-in-law about this decision, the mother-in-law refused this request on the grounds that she did not have time.
In desperation, Kiki had to entrust the child to the care of her parents.
After a while, Kiki heard from others that during the time when she was on a business trip, her mother-in-law had been at her sister-in-law's house, helping her take care of the children.
Since then, the relationship between Kiki and her mother-in-law has once become a situation of mutual indifference.
And Li Wang saw this situation on the side, and there was nothing he could do.
It is precisely because there is a gap between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, so since then, there have always been some incompatibility between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law has said when she is outside: Sure enough, the daughter-in-law is an outsider, and she will not understand the difficulties of the mother-in-law at all.
When Kiki heard these words, she decided that she could no longer hide herself, and she went directly to her mother-in-law's house, making all this clear and saying: Mom, don't you think you are too eccentric? Hearing Kiki's words, the mother-in-law thought that the daughter-in-law was jealous of her daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law immediately said: Can my own daughter not be in pain?
Kiki said, "Well, wait until you're old and see what you do."
After saying this, Kiki didn't bother to reason with her mother-in-law and left directly.
The mother-in-law obviously did not realize the seriousness of the problem, and still took care of herself and treated her daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law differently in her own way.
A few years passed, and the day when the mother-in-law finally grew old, as her daughter who relied on her the most, did not appear in front of her in time, but waited for her to eat and drink, and it was her daughter-in-law who she never paid attention to.
It was not until this moment that the mother-in-law understood the true meaning of the words of the daughter-in-law.
Conclusion: As a mother-in-law, for daughters and daughters-in-law, they should be treated equally and should not be biased on either side. If due to their own differential treatment, it is easy to cause unnecessary family conflicts, for the elderly in the family, they should be clear and understand.
The harmonious relationship between family members will feel heartfelt happiness, happiness is the foundation of a complete family, and it is also one of the ultimate factors for maintaining family stability.