The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as a difficult problem to solve for thousands of years, is always a headache and helplessness.
In the final analysis, it is because the difference in social roles between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is related to the usual time between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Although the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is unavoidable, as long as we pay attention to our words and deeds in our daily relationship, we can still alleviate it.
Especially as a daughter-in-law, if you want to close the relationship with your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should pay more attention to your words and deeds, know what words can be said and what you can't say, and you must think twice before speaking, avoid saying some unpleasant words. In marriage, a truly intelligent woman will never say these 4 things in front of her mother-in-law!
1. Show off your success
As a daughter-in-law, no matter how capable you are outside and how successful your career is, in the family, in the eyes of your mother-in-law, you are a woman, the daughter-in-law of her son, and you cannot change the reality that her son is the dominant family.
If you always show off your success in front of your mother-in-law, your mother-in-law will feel uncomfortable in her heart, and she will feel that you look down on their family, look down on his son, and feel that you are deliberately insulting them and embarrassing them. Naturally, it will not give you a good face.
2, preaching, accusing the husband
In the eyes of all parents, they feel that their children are the best and the best, even if their sons do have shortcomings, it should be their own criticism and education, how can not be the turn of others to discipline, not to mention, you are only her wife, there is no parenting grace for her husband, so the mother-in-law feels that you are not qualified to say that your son is not.
As a daughter-in-law, if the real husband has a lot of bad places, you want to preach and accuse, you should also be closed door between the two couples, and can not be in front of the mother-in-law, otherwise, it will only cause the mother-in-law's disgust, naturally in the future get along, to make you a trip.
3, instruct the husband to do this and that
Between husband and wife, it is very normal for women to let their husbands do something, after all, in modern families, women have a lot of things to worry about, it is really not easy, men as husbands, have the responsibility to share with their wives.
But even so, a woman can't just do this and that in front of her mother-in-law. After all, the husband is the son of the mother-in-law's pet, usually bitter and tired, and did not let the son do this and that. Naturally, the mother-in-law is very disgusted by your call to her son.
4. Help your mother's family
In the eyes of your mother-in-law, you are married into their family, that is, the people of their family, you are a family. And your mother-in-law's family, although it has raised you, filial piety to parents is the right thing to do, but after all, now that you are married, you should focus on your in-laws' family and cannot take everything to your mother's house.
Therefore, as a woman, don't move in front of your mother-in-law and say that you have helped your mother-in-law. First of all, these are really nothing to show off, and secondly, after you say it in front of your mother-in-law, it will make your mother-in-law think that you eat inside and outside, causing your mother-in-law to be dissatisfied, and even look down on your mother-in-law's family.
Smart women know that no matter how you help your mother-in-law's family and how much you help your mother-in-law's family, as long as you do it yourself, there is no need to tell your mother-in-law and provoke the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Emotional Message:
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always a topic that cannot be bypassed. As a woman, if you want a happy and warm family and a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should do a good job.
In the usual relationship with the mother-in-law, know which behaviors and words are not conducive to the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what should be said, what should not be said, to know how to measure, not to be willful, not to lose your temper, because only in this way can you get the love of the mother-in-law, can you really ease the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and truly create an atmosphere of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's family.