There is an old saying between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, ten years to see the mother-in-law and ten years to see the daughter-in-law, a sentence that tells the essence of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's relationship, two "relatives" who are not related by blood, because they love the same man, they have to live under the same roof, and if they want to have a good relationship, they have to pay each other, but the order of payment is orderly.
Mother-in-law to pay first, because she is the most powerful person in the family, daughter-in-law has just arrived, life is not familiar, want to take root at home, you need to have the help and mention of the mother-in-law, this is also the mother-in-law's richest time, more than fifty years old, good health, son married to start a family, there is no family trivia shackles, it is the time to enjoy life.
At this time, the daughter-in-law, but is experiencing the twists and turns of life, marriage needs to run in, to extend the offspring for the family, from the woman to the mother, the excessive role plus energy and economic difficulties, inevitably there is loss and grievance, at this time the mother-in-law should take the handle, and the daughter-in-law to spend time in life, help her to see the child bigger, this is ten years to see the mother-in-law.
After that, it was ten years to see the daughter-in-law, but what the daughter-in-law's performance was to the mother-in-law, completely depending on what "cause" the mother-in-law planted, just like building a house, the foundation was unstable, the building would be more and more crooked, and it would collapse sooner or later.
Therefore, the quality of the mother-in-law's elderly life depends on how the first ten years of pay, with a high probability, a good mother-in-law has a good daughter-in-law, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to compare hearts to hearts, and therefore, many mothers-in-law give daughters-in-law children, just for the filial piety of future daughters-in-law.
But with the passage of time, there is an interesting phenomenon, more and more mothers-in-law participate in the matter of taking a baby, but they have not exchanged the satisfaction of the daughter-in-law. A mother told the secret.
The mother-in-law "fake baby" gave me a headache
Bao Ma Anna gave birth to a child for a year, because of the pressure of her husband, she went to work when her daughter was half a year old, but recently after work met the neighbors, they always had a look of want to talk and stop, look at her eyes also dodge, once, downstairs Zhang Aunt told her, how much money does not matter, the key is to take their own children, who is not as good as the mother.
Anna left a heart eye, once specially returned home from work early, but found that the mother-in-law and the child were not there, went downstairs to look for it, someone told her that the mother-in-law took the child in the chess and card room, Anna rushed over, only to find that the mother-in-law was playing cards with several old people, and the child was sitting on the ground playing with a rope around his waist.
Of course, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were not happy and dispersed, Anna knew that when she could not see, the mother-in-law was so with the baby, and the mother-in-law said that her son was also brought up like this, what is this?
Anna remembered that when the child was young, the mother-in-law came to see the baby every day, but it was after breakfast, the husband went to work, Anna was hungry and waited for the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law came, I wanted to be able to eat.
But the mother-in-law was grinding and rubbing at home, brushing a few bowls and telling her that she was going to go to the market to buy some food, and this time, it was eleven o'clock when she came back, and she casually made some food for Anna, which took over the child for half an hour.
At noon, the child wanted to go to bed, the mother-in-law took the opportunity to go out again, Anna had to clean up the housework herself, wash the child's small clothes, wait until more than four o'clock in the afternoon, the mother-in-law came back, and then it was cooking again, and the husband returned.
The mother-in-law complained about how tired this day was, went home early, the rest of the time is Anna with the baby, tired when she will complain, the result of the husband still feels that she is pretentious, my mother helps you every day, how tired can you be?
Anna only vaguely understood at this time, the mother-in-law this is to come to help ah, purely to cope with the time, false in the name of the baby, but did not help much, in the eyes of the husband and outsiders, the old man paid a lot, all advised her to honor the mother-in-law in the future, to be a good daughter-in-law.
The current situation of the old man's "fake baby", netizens said "all in the middle"
1. Play with your phone
Now the old man playing mobile phone is also addictive, an old man with two children the way is actually one person a mobile phone, three people lying on the bed, grandma to watch one, two children to watch one together, time is lost, but can mobile phones replace adults to take care of children?
2. Chat
An old man sat on the ground crying, I don't know who to call, said a blink of an eye, the child is gone, the comments of netizens are very wonderful, some people think that the old man with the baby is hard.
But more people say that if grandma is obsessed with the child, can the child be lost? Nowadays, many elderly people get together, either look at the mobile phone or chat, let the children play on the side, sometimes the children go out very far, they have not yet noticed, so with the baby, are you at ease?
3. Let it go
There are also old people with babies, children climb or lie on the ground, they don't care, as long as the children don't cry or make trouble, young people are off work, they put clean clothes on the children, many children are two years old or can't talk, the old people just care about the child's food and drink, the rest has nothing to do with themselves.
The inefficient way of taking the baby also indirectly leads to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
In fact, the responsibilities and obligations of the elderly do not include bringing babies to the younger generations, so accusing them of taking the baby is itself untenable. But any problem, detached from reality, is idealism, in the young people need help, the old people can do their best, appropriate help with the baby, this is a fact that most people agree.
The daughter-in-law also has no obligation to support the in-laws, the son has, the daughter-in-law is only to assist in the maintenance, but in reality, which son can not rely on his wife, independent filial piety? Not to mention that there are many men who push the responsibility of filial piety to their wives, which creates the reality that the in-laws have to count on their daughters-in-law.
So from this level, with the baby and the daughter-in-law's filial piety can be equated, the elderly with the baby, but also for the pension to increase the chip, and therefore, many old people feel that with the baby, the daughter-in-law to do filial piety, which also makes many mothers shout to be moral kidnapping, inefficient with the baby, there is no substantial help to the daughter-in-law with the baby, but it may be counterproductive, thus triggering the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and therefore, the old man either does not bring, to bring to try to bring well, is also a way to deal with things.
Who can justifiably say that the old man does not have to bring a baby to the junior, nor does he need the gratitude and filial piety of the daughter-in-law? I think that the only parents who can get out of this strange circle are the parents who have cultivated their sons to be particularly excellent, and his understanding, independence, and filial piety are the biggest chips for parents.