"My mother has lived in my house for 10 years, and my daughter-in-law has no complaints" Mother-in-law is under one roof, and she should pay attention to 3 points

Danshanya also wrote in "Mother-in-law's Plan against Daughter-in-Law": "If anyone can come up with a wonderful solution to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he should be awarded the Nobel Prize." ”

Whether it is Liu Lanzhi, who "took off her skirt and took off her silk shoes and lifted herself to Qingchi" in the middle school textbook "Peacock Southeast Flying", and Jiao Zhongqing, who "wandered under the garden tree and hung herself on the southeast branch", or Lu You Tangwan, who was beaten by her mother with a stick during the Southern Song Dynasty and wrote "Baotou Phoenix", they are all victims of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

In ancient times, filial piety was greater than heaven, children must be filial to their parents, responsive to their parents' needs, and must not have the slightest resistance, so once the mother-in-law can not tolerate the daughter-in-law, marriage is often incurable. Moreover, once a woman is swept out of the house, it is difficult to be like the situation in which Liu Lanzhi was asked to marry by a famous and prestigious family mentioned in "Peacock Southeast Flying".

In modern times, the situation is much better, and many people will take a method to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, that is, to keep a distance, far away and smelly.

Once people are old, they are prone to nagging problems, as long as they see something that is not pleasing to the eye, they can't control their mouths, and they will chant endlessly until the people who are nagged do things exactly according to their ideas and do things exactly according to their expectations.

More words will be lost, the speaker has no intention of listening, more picky, not to mention the mother-in-law, even if it is mother and son, there will be contradictions.

Therefore, if the mother-in-law does not live under the eaves of a roof and cannot see each other's problems, she will not be able to blame each other and hurt the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

However, there are also many families where the mother-in-law lives with the daughter-in-law, such as the mother-in-law to help with the baby, the elderly lose the ability to live alone, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live under a roof, picky about each other, it is easy to make the family jump.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot get along harmoniously, the impact is great, and it is easy to wash away the marriage.

I once read a sentence in a book: "Marriage is the union of two families, and some contradictions do not arise just because they live together, and there must be no contradictions without living together." The most important point between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to correct their role positioning. ”

Whether it is a mother-in-law, a daughter-in-law, or a man, they must correct their role positioning in order to make the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along harmoniously.

"My mother has lived in my house for 10 years, my daughter-in-law has no complaints, I always have a feeling, that is, my daughter-in-law is my mother's birth, I was picked up by my mother." 」

Mr. Deng's tone of voice was sour and slippery, sounding like he was eating his daughter-in-law's vinegar, but others could also hear that he was showing off his family atmosphere. Mr. Deng shared his marriage experience and told us that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are under one roof, and we should pay attention to 3 points.

Mother-in-law should understand that you are not the mother-in-law of your daughter-in-law, so your mother can teach her, you can only teach your son;

"My mother is 74 years old this year, people her age have lived a long period of hard life, so life is very frugal, seeing my daughter-in-law often collect packages, things are not used up to throw away, in fact, it is quite angry." 」

Seeing the daughter-in-law turn on the air conditioner all night in the summer and the electricity bill every month, Mr. Deng's mother will be in pain; seeing the fruit that the daughter-in-law bites and feels that it is not sweet and thrown into the trash can, Mr. Deng's mother will not be too happy.

However, Mr. Deng's mother is very smart, never counting her daughter-in-law in public, accusing her of losing the family, but nagging her son from time to time, so that they should pay attention to saving money and not wasting, in case of emergency.

"My mother encountered things that she was not accustomed to, and she tried her best not to nag my daughter-in-law, but she really couldn't look at it anymore, so she nagged me, and if I felt inappropriate, I went to talk to my daughter-in-law." It's an art. Mothers teach their sons and daughters, it is natural, if you make a mistake, you can only be honestly scolded, under normal circumstances, you will not directly push back it! Couples have unpleasant eyes, it can also be said that it is your other half, and the communication should be communicated. However, it is not appropriate for you to scold someone else's daughter. ”

After the husband and wife talked, Mr. Deng's wife also corrected some problems, such as saving some unnecessary expenses, opening and closing the door as little as possible not to disturb the elderly.

As a mother-in-law, if there is something to do, you can go to your son as much as possible and let your son communicate with your daughter-in-law. If your son approves of his daughter-in-law's approach, then only you are the one who adapts to this small family.

As a daughter-in-law, you must understand: after all, it is your husband's mother, and the filial piety that should be fulfilled must still be fulfilled;

As a daughter-in-law, Mr. Deng's wife is not bad, which can be seen from the fact that she can let her mother-in-law live at home for the elderly.

In fact, Mr. Deng's daughter-in-law is very filial to the mother-in-law, when going out shopping, she will remember to buy some things for her mother-in-law to buy, and when she has time, she will accompany her mother-in-law to go out with her husband to relax, the mother-in-law's stomach can't stand spicy, but Mr. Deng's wife loves to eat spicy, so when she cooks, she will make a small dish that is not spicy for her mother-in-law to eat.

The mother-in-law was sick and hospitalized, and although Mr. Deng's wife did not personally serve, the nurse was carefully selected and asked many people who had used it. As soon as she had time, she would visit her mother-in-law.

"I am very grateful to my wife, so filial piety to my mother, my wife replied to me, the reason why she is so filial to my mother is because of three points."

First of all, it is Mr. Deng's mother, one of the people her husband cares about the most, looking at her husband's face, she can be good to her mother-in-law, so as not to make her husband unhappy.

Secondly, the mother-in-law is not bad, rarely adds to her blockage, and also helps her bring a child, which should be repaid. As long as the mother-in-law does not block her and let her live here, she has no opinion, and she does not have to worry about the mother-in-law getting older and living alone.

In the end, Mr. Deng is also very filial to her parents, Mr. Deng has done a good job of loving The House and Wu, if she can't do it, she is not a qualified wife.

As Tu Lei said: "If the daughter-in-law loves your husband, then love Wu and Wu, why bother if you are wronged, that is your lover's mother." ”

To love a person, we must learn to love Wu and Wu, treat his relatives kindly, and accept his relatives.

As a man, you must understand that these two women are because you have become a mother-in-law and live under one roof, and there is a contradiction, and you can only coax it.

"My mother is reasonable, my wife is very sensible, and I am also very powerful!"

When the mother is dissatisfied with the daughter-in-law, she will complain to her son, and Mr. Deng will try to coax the mother: "Mom, I know that you are reluctant to spend money and feel wasteful, but we try to make money, is not it so that we can enjoy life?" Money is dead and can't be taken away, what is the cost not spent? As for the children, they have to study hard, work hard to make money, and can't nibble on the old. ”

"Mom, my wife is the youngest child in the family, and the only daughter, she was pampered by her parents to grow up, and sometimes her temper is a little bigger. She's a nice guy, you know, don't bother with her. ”

If the wife sees that there is something wrong with the mother-in-law, Mr. Deng will be a microphone and tell the mother that it is his opinion, and on the other hand, he must coax the wife to let the wife also understand the old man as much as possible.

Mr. Deng's greatest luck is to meet a mother-in-law who is reasonable and can understand each other, but some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not agree with each other, cannot control their mouths, and can quarrel without a word.

Advice to be a mother-in-law, if you really can't control your mouth, it is inevitable to nag, follow the principle of far fragrance and near smell, do not squeeze to your son and daughter-in-law.

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