Do you remember that when you were in middle school, you studied a text called "Peacock Flying Southeast"?
Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi originally lived a life of raising eyebrows and loving each other deeply, but Liu Lanzhi was not tolerated by Jiao Zhongqing's mother, and Jiao Zhongqing's mother was unreasonable, with "This woman is rude and acts on her own." I was indignant for a long time, and Ru was free" forced Jiao Zhongqing to abandon Liu Lanzhi on the grounds of rebellion.
Not long after Liu Lanzhi returned home, she was asked to marry, and she had to agree to the marriage under the pressure of her brother. Seeing that there was no possibility of reunion with Jiao Zhongqing, the two people met in despair and martyrdom, one lifted himself to Qingchi, and the other hung himself on the southeast branch, resulting in tragedy.
Although in modern times, we have mastered the autonomy of marriage, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still a straw that crushes marriage and can still hinder family happiness.
As a saying on the Internet is good: a good mother-in-law relationship is not necessarily helpful to maintain the marriage; a bad mother-in-law relationship is definitely the last straw that overwhelms the marriage.
Xiao Qiqi really didn't understand what some in-laws thought, why did they have to embarrass their daughter-in-law, beat mandarin ducks with sticks, and ruin their son's small family? Could it be that if a son divorces his daughter-in-law and his grandchildren have no complete home, can they reap the benefits?
Just like Jiao Zhongqing's mother in "Peacock Southeast Flying", she beat the Mandarin Duck with a stick and forced her son to divorce his daughter-in-law Liu Lanzhi to marry another girl, and as a result, the son and daughter-in-law were martyred, leaving her alone in the world, she became the culprit who killed her son, will her heart feel better? What should she do when she is old?
"To embarrass my daughter-in-law is not to add to the blockage of others, but to add to the blockage of myself, I will not do this kind of thing, I have two sons, two daughters-in-law recognize me, filial piety to me, I will be very comfortable." 」 Aunt Zheng, a neighbor, told me about her experience as a mother-in-law, and also saw that those mothers-in-law who had nothing to do to add to the blockage for their sons and daughters-in-law were not pleasing to the eyes.
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Aunt Zheng is 70 years old this year, the eldest son is 44 years old, and the younger son is 40 years old, all of whom have started a family.
Aunt Zheng and her husband worked hard and diligently to raise their two sons to college. When the two people fell in love freely and took their girlfriend home, Aunt Zheng did not have the slightest objection, and agreed to the marriage with a sentence of "you like it, anyway, it is not me that you marry your daughter-in-law".
When the younger son married his daughter-in-law, the woman's parents asked for very little dowry, but asked the two families to pay together to buy a house. In order to prevent the eldest daughter-in-law from being unhappy, Aunt Zheng sold the house in the county town of her hometown, divided the money into two parts, bought a house for the younger son, and gave the eldest son a sum of money to the family.
After that, the eldest daughter-in-law and the younger daughter-in-law both put forward the request to let Aunt Zheng bring the baby, and the two families lived farther away, one was a grandson and the other was a granddaughter, which made Aunt Zheng feel embarrassed.
"My wife planned to go to the eldest daughter-in-law's house, saying that the grandson was important, and the granddaughter did not bring it, and I scolded her. Do you dare to do this without making your daughter-in-law angry? Who can tolerate their baby being looked down upon? What happened to the granddaughter? My granddaughter doesn't have my son's surname Ding? ”
In the end, with the efforts of Aunt Zheng, the two families reached an agreement, Aunt Zheng went to take her granddaughter to the age of six, and her wife went to take her grandson to the age of six, and then the two families lived together again.
When Aunt Zheng took her granddaughter, her wife suggested to her that she urge her to have a child, so that the eldest daughter-in-law could have another grandson, and she was scared back: "How do you know that the second child is a grandson?" No one can say for sure! You shut me up and don't mention it again. Whether we are born or not, it is not a matter of our old two, that is the matter of their husband and wife. ”
When others lamented that Aunt Zheng was hard, in order to separate her grandchildren from her wife, and said that Aunt Zheng's daughter-in-law was blessed, Aunt Zheng shook her head: "No, I am helping my son, otherwise, my daughter-in-law will have to resign and take the baby, so that the heavy responsibility of supporting the family will not crush my son?" ”
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In addition to the consciousness of taking her grandson to help her son reduce the burden, Aunt Zheng also has a principle, that is, she is hospitalized and calls her son to serve.
Two years ago, Aunt Zheng was sick and hospitalized, her condition was more serious, she could not get out of bed, and she could not take care of herself. Although there is a wife to accompany, but the wife is clumsy and careless, it is not that piece of material at all.
So Aunt Zheng called her sons and asked them to take care of themselves, either to take a leave of absence or to hire a nurse.
The wife was dissatisfied and accused Aunt Zheng of being too weak to summon her daughter-in-law: "Since ancient times, has it not always been the duty of a daughter-in-law to serve a mother-in-law? Sons are all men, where can this be? The daughter-in-law's salary is not high, you can resign to take care of you, you are good to find it again! ”
Aunt Zheng was unceremonious and scolded her wife again: "You are reluctant to use your own son to make it so smooth to summon other people's girlfriends?" The daughter-in-law is not born to us, and it is not filial piety to let the father and mother be honored, and we are filial to us? Where did you get your face? If you continue like this, you will offend your daughter-in-law, and you will not go to your son's house. ”
However, in the end, it was the daughter-in-law who contributed. The daughter-in-law handled the transfer procedures for Aunt Zheng, took Aunt Zheng to her to facilitate care, and the eldest daughter-in-law packaged Aunt Zheng's treatment fees and sent a lot of nutritional products.
Today, Aunt Zheng is 70 years old and enjoys her old age in her hometown, in fact, the two daughters-in-law have invited them to retire many times, and Aunt Zheng has refused on the grounds that she is old and nostalgic for her homeland.
"They haven't retired yet, so I don't bother them, and when I'm eighty or ninety and can't move, I'll go to them, or they'll find me a better nursing home, which is also very comfortable." 」
The new writer Gong Gaofeng wrote in "Father's BlackFish": "Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are natural enemies of each other, do not know how the Creator designed, a generation of mother-in-law and a generation of daughters-in-law, children and grandchildren are infinitely poor." ”
In order to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we must meet two points: first, there is a man who can be a man who knows how to reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, does not pull a bias, and can act as a lubricant for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law; second, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are reasonable and are willing to pay and make concessions for this small family.
These two conditions are indispensable, even if men are good, they cannot get along with each other when they meet completely unreasonable mothers or daughters-in-law who have no gratitude and filial piety.
When people reach old age and become in-laws, please remember that only when the daughter-in-law is comfortable, your son will not be blocked, and your grandchildren will have a happy little home. They are all happy, and only then do they have the energy and heart to honor you.
Why is it so painful to ruin your sons and grandchildren for your own selfishness, and then, the retribution bounces back to you, ruins your old age, and everyone is a loser?
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