Ji Xianlin wrote in his essay "Eternal Regret": "No matter what reputation, what status, what happiness, and what honor in the world, it is not as good as staying by the mother's side." ”
Filial piety is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation and the most important virtue since ancient times. In ancient times, children who did not honor were severely punished, let alone embarked on career paths, and even imprisoned and exiled. The king wants his subjects to die, and the subjects have to die. The Father wants the Son to die, and the Son has to die, and the filial piety at that time is foolish filial piety, complete obedience.
In today's society, filial piety has also kept pace with the times, and what is required is filial piety to parents. The so-called filial piety to parents means that children should respect their parents from the bottom of their hearts, meet the reasonable requirements of their parents, and protect their parents' old age as much as possible.
Go home more, have time to accompany their own side, is the requirements of many parents for their children, this requirement is not excessive, very reasonable, companionship, is the longest confession of affection.
Regarding companionship, the Reader says this: Companionship is warm, and it means that in this world, someone is willing to give you the most beautiful thing, that is, time.
However, accompanying your parents does not mean blindly staying by your parents' side, let alone letting you carry the banner of accompanying your parents and go home to eat the old age, which is the filial piety of which door?
The May Day holiday is coming, which is a rare opportunity to accompany parents, but for some parents, the New Year's Festival is all in the midst of robbery.
For example, for Aunt Zhou, 61 years old this year, her son's family of 4 went home for the holiday: "Adults are lazy, small is difficult to manage, I pay money to make a lot of efforts, too much guilt, it is not as good as the old two, idle and relaxed." ”
01. In the beginning, we can't stand the lonely old age, and always want them to be with us;
Aunt Zhou's son is 36 years old this year, working in the provincial city, has a son and a daughter, and a family of 4 lives in the provincial city.
"Ever since I had a son and became a mother, I have been around him, working with his father to make money, providing him with a good life as much as possible, and saving money to marry him." We must stare at him to learn, urge him to be self-motivated, and hope that he can become a talent and be able to support himself, so that we can rest assured. When he got married, we spent nearly $400,000 on the bride price, the wedding room, the money for the wedding, the honeymoon trip, and all this money hollowed out our old money. ”
This is not over, after the grandchildren were born, Aunt Zhou waited for the daughter-in-law to confinement and helped take care of the grandchildren, until the grandson turned 4 years old, the pressure with the baby was greatly reduced, and the daughter-in-law was eager to leave.
When it comes to the daughter-in-law's hope that they will return to their hometown, Aunt Zhou is quite dissatisfied: "Isn't this crossing the river and demolishing the bridge?" When my mother-in-law was alive, she could have been with us until she left the world, and she was served by us, so how did she get to them and use us up, so they wanted us to go? ”
Although she was not happy, Aunt Zhou did not want to embarrass her sons and did not want them to quarrel, so she had to pack up her things and return to her hometown with her wife.
After returning to her hometown, Aunt Zhou was very uncomfortable with the life of only their two old families at first, feeling that there was nothing to do, did not know what to do, and had to call her son all the time. In fact, she didn't want to say anything, just wanted to hear her son's voice. However, the son and daughter-in-law began to complain about her, saying that she had disturbed their work and told her not to call, and Aunt Zhou felt ashamed and had to try not to disturb her children and grandchildren as much as possible and press her thoughts.
02. My son was spoiled by me, returned home like a grandfather, has been hiding upstairs to play mobile phone, come back and not come back is no difference;
Since Aunt Zhou misses her children and grandchildren so much, and may day comes, this is a good opportunity to reunite with her children and grandchildren, why doesn't Aunt Zhou want them to come back? Only because the son's family of 4 came back, it was not so much to fulfill filial piety, but to nibble on the old man and add blockage to Aunt Zhou.
During this year's Spring Festival, my son's family of 4 returned to their hometown and stayed in their hometown for 10 days, but Aunt Zhou was not happy at all that week, but she was angry when she mentioned this matter.
"They arrived on the twenty-sixth day of the first lunar month, left on the sixth day of the first lunar month, and stayed at home for 10 days, but I don't think my son is much different from not coming back, because I can only see him at dinner, and even, for a few days, I have to be served."
Aunt Zhou's son spends most of his time upstairs doing one thing, which is playing games.
Aunt Zhou called him to help with the work, to dismantle and wash the heavy quilt, and the son did not hear it, and shouted in a hurry, "You can't let me rest?" Do you know how tired I usually am at work? It's hard to take a vacation, and you let me work. ”
When relatives come to the house, Aunt Zhou also needs three urges and four invitations to let her son reluctantly come down to see relatives, and she is still absent-minded, which makes Aunt Zhou feel very embarrassed.
When the son returned for ten days, not only did he not do housework, but he was not even interested in accompanying his parents for a while, so his companionship was of no quality, and he was also angry with Aunt Zhou.
03. The daughter-in-law is very sensitive, the grandchildren can't scold, really, too tired;
"His own sons can't shout, let alone other people's daughters?" My daughter-in-law is particularly sensitive, saying that she cannot be scolded, saying that I am eccentric and double standard, where can I afford to provoke? ”
Aunt Zhou wanted to clean the kitchen and bathroom at home, hoping that the daughter-in-law would help, and the daughter-in-law was angry: "The son is not willing to use it, and the daughter-in-law will use it to death!" ”
Aunt Zhou prepared to Chinese New Year's Eve rice, and when cooking, she forgot the habit of her daughter-in-law not eating garlic, and put garlic in several dishes, one of which happened to be what her daughter-in-law loved to eat, and her daughter-in-law was also angry: "Mom, did you mean to find trouble for me?" ”
Aunt Zhou inadvertently found that her daughter-in-law spent 10,000 yuan to buy New Year goods for her parents through online shopping, and she was so distressed that she was in a hurry, and just after saying two words, her daughter-in-law cried: "In order to honor you, I gave up the opportunity to go back to my mother's house, can't I buy something for my parents?" I'm marrying your son, not selling it to your family. ”
Aunt Zhou can't do anything not only with her daughter-in-law, but also with her grandchildren. Grandchildren are mischievous, picky eaters, running around, Aunt Zhou scolds, let alone fight, otherwise, the daughter-in-law will be angry.
After sending away her son's family of 4 and looking at the empty home, Aunt Zhou suddenly felt that only the old two had a good life, so she did not want her children and grandchildren to return.
04. Parents are old, be considerate of them, and have the ability to do more things for them, which is the duty of children.
Zeng Ziyi: Filial piety has three, the great filial piety respects relatives, followed by humiliation, and the next can be raised.
The act of filial piety can be divided into three levels, the highest is that words, deeds and hearts can respect parents, rather than talking casually when parents do not think about themselves, or even saying harsh words to hurt their parents; Secondly, do not scold and insult your parents, be good to them, and at the same time, you can't let others insult your parents because of your words and deeds; The next thing is to be able to give them a pension to the end, and many people can't even do the most basic pension delivery.
The original family, these four words have almost become the original sin, many people will blame the reason on the original family as soon as they encounter things, thinking that their parents owe themselves, but for the vast majority of people, their parents do not owe you anything, although they are not rich, their ability is average, but they also do their best to love you, raise you, just rush this point, you have the obligation to fulfill the responsibility of filial piety to your parents.
Parents are old, be considerate of them, and have the ability to do more for them, which is the duty of children. Moreover, if you do not honor your parents and are looked at by your children, when you are old, your children will learn from them, and you will not say anything about others.
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