In 1999, Tan Jian, the granddaughter of the famous biogeneticist Tan Jiazhen, and her husband came to the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau. Their marriage has come to an end. At this time, Tan Jian did not have the appearance of a 28-year-old quality woman at all. She was thin and haggard. Guo Guangchang, who is about to become Tan Jian's ex-husband, has no nostalgia for this marriage at all. Because Guo Guangchang's enthusiasm has been exhausted with time. And more importantly, Tan Jian has been unable to have children.
Talk about swords
Tan Jian is the daughter of a family of scientists and has been pampered by her family since childhood. But after she graduated from college, she married Guo Guangchang, a poor boy, despite her family's opposition. She gave up her hobbies and specialties for his career. Day after day of hard work, Guo Guangchang's value reached 100 billion, which also brought her body down.
Tan Jian could no longer have children, but Guo Guangchang wanted a child of his own. This marriage, after all, has come to an end. Tan Jian is a famous noblewoman, how can he look up to Guo Guangchang, a poor boy? Is the real reason for the divorce between the two people only the problem of the inability of the sword to have children? How did Guo Guangchang evaluate Tan Jian after that?
The only girl in the family, she is loved by thousands of people
In 1971, the famous fertility geneticist Tan Jiazhen was waiting at the door of the delivery room of a hospital. Lying inside was Tan Jiazhen's daughter-in-law. Tan Jiazhen's son, anxiously pacing in the corridor. Tan Jiazhen, who was accustomed to wind and rain, also had a nervous expression on his face.
After hours of suffering, the nurse came out with a small baby in her arms. It was a little girl, deftly spitting bubbles in her swaddling. Tan Jiazhen took the little granddaughter with trembling hands, and almost burst into tears. He said to his son next to him: "It's not easy, we have finally come to a little princess in tanjia." ”
This newborn life was indeed spoiled as a little princess in the time that followed. She is the only girl in the family, a treasure that everyone holds on the tip of her heart. Her name Tan Jian was also taken by Grandpa Tan Jiazhen himself.
Tan Jiazhen said: "My granddaughter of the Tan family does not have to become a great figure. As a grandfather, I only hope that she has the courage to fight the sword and walk the rivers and lakes, and has the ambition to point the sword to the world. More importantly, Grandpa wants you to have a sword in your hand. At any time, you can protect yourself. Your happiness is Grandpa's greatest wish. ”
Talk about Jia Zhen
Because the children of the same generation in the family are all boys, Tan Jian has been mixed in the pile of children since he was a child. The brothers would climb trees with their swords to pick up bird eggs, and they would also take her to run crazy and jump up and down. Tan Jian followed these brothers and gradually developed the character of a tomboy. However, the elders of the family still cared for her like a little princess.
When Tan Jian was still young, her brother took her to climb with her. As a result, there was an accident on the way, and the brothers and sisters fell down together. When she fell, her brother had not forgotten to protect her. So in the end, Tan Jian was only slightly injured. But her brother had a lot of blood on his body.
After returning home, Tan Jian thought that he would receive a severe beating from the elders. But the last person to bear this beating was his brother, who was already injured. They taught him that he shouldn't go out with his young sister and make such a fool of himself. Tan Jian felt guilty and rushed to take the responsibility on himself. But the slight bruise on her leg was enough to make her family feel bad. The lesson she had expected didn't happen to her after all.
Her family's preference for her is a fact for all to see. When the big family gathers during the New Year's Festival, Tan Jian must have received the most gifts. At the dinner table, all the elders scrambled to give Tan Sword Clip delicious food. Her brothers and brothers could only look at the bowl of the sword. In that bowl, the food was almost piled up into a hill.
After going to school, Tan Jian still looks like a tomboy in school. She is very moralistic and always easy to mingle with boys. She also takes good care of the little girl, and her friends like her very much. Excellent and beautiful talking about swords, naturally indispensable to suitors. But she's a perfectionist, and none of these people can get into her sight.
Start your university life and meet your first ignorance
Although Tan Jian's personality is a little bit tao, she is also very well-behaved. Her grades have always been among the best in the grade. In high school, she set Fudan University as her goal. She knew what kind of a big man her grandfather was. She also told her grandfather: "As your granddaughter, I will not shame you." "For her own sake, but also for her family, she definitely has to fight for a breath."
In 1989, at the age of 18, Tan Jian was admitted to Fudan University. She realized her dream and began her university life with joy. Before this, Tan Jian had never lived outside. The family always looked at her very closely, afraid that she would have something to lose. And college, for her, is a paradise of freedom.
University classrooms, while free, are by no means easy. For the sake of his own achievements, Tan Jian naturally needs to play the spirit of 120,000 points. She attended the compulsory classes of various credits in the school on time. Because she was too busy, she never met the boy she liked.
The change in the feelings of the tomboy talking about the sword occurred when he first took the ideological and moral class. The teacher of this class is named Guo Guangchang. He just graduated from his senior year and stayed in the school youth league committee as a teacher. The ideological character class was his first class at Fudan University. He made a thorough knowledge preparation and familiarized himself with all the teaching content.
Therefore, in the classroom, Guo Guangchang can throw away his books and lecture freely. He spoke of the heavens and the earth, quoting scriptures. When talking about an ideological issue, he can extend to the source of ancient Chinese thought, or to similar ideological developments abroad. In short, his classroom is much more wonderful than those teachers who copy books.
Guo Guangchang
Guo Guangchang's students admired him very much. Tan Jian, as his student, admired him to the extreme. She would always talk about Guo Guangchang consciously or unconsciously when chatting with her roommate. Usually, when she has free time, she will also go to Guo Guangchang's office to ask him questions. The results of this course are good, and she will go out of her way to thank Guo Guangchang.
The authorities are fans, tan jian, who has never had a love experience, and has not yet realized what her feelings for Guo Guangchang are. Onlooker Qing, her friends told her: "You must be in love with Teacher Guo." ”
"I... I don't know. But he was the teacher, and I was the student. I like him, isn't that right? ”
"There's nothing wrong with that, he's only a few years older than us." Afraid of the tail, this is not the style of our talk about the sword heroine. ”
Guo Guangchang
Tan Jian did not know that when she was tangling her feelings, Guo Guangchang was also struggling. Tan Jian is beautiful and intelligent, has a true temperament and is very cute. Unconsciously, Guo Guangchang also moved his heart for her. The two men had been vaguely together, and neither had broken through the window paper.
To Guo Guangchang, Tan Jian is like a confidant with a red face. He encountered things that he couldn't make up his mind, and he would always share them with Tan Jian at the first time. When he encounters difficulties in his work, he will also seek comfort by talking to the sword. Except for the official boyfriend and girlfriend names, the two people get along with each other in fact, there is no difference between male and female friends.
Fully support business and give up personal expertise
One day, Guo Guangchang found Tan Jian with a heavy heart. He had something hidden in his heart, and he didn't know how to open his mouth to Tan Jian. After meeting, he has been on his own. In the end, let's talk about the sword first.
"What's wrong, I don't think you're in the right state?" If you have anything on your mind, tell me that I can advise you. ”
"Actually, I've been thinking about one thing lately. The job of a university teacher is stable but not challenging. Many of my friends are doing business in the sea. The market economy, this shareholder wind, missed out will not be. So, I also want to quit my job to do business. ”
"Since you want to do it, you can do it, and it is most important to follow your heart." You're still young enough to try more lifestyles. ”
"Do you think so?" I thought you'd think I was boring. After all, businessmen seek profit. I'm afraid you think that my city is shallow and superficial. ”
"How is that possible? I've always supported all your choices. If I had to say ah, don't care what other people think. If you have any difficulties, you can tell me. ”
With the support of Tan Jian, Guo Guangchang was more confident. In 1992, together with his compatriots, he founded Shanghai Guangxin Technology Co., Ltd. Guo Guangchang's start-up capital is more than 30,000 yuan. There are thousands of them, all of which are investments in Tanjian. She did what she said and fully supported all of Guo Guangchang's actions.
The first pot of gold of Guangxin Technology came from Japan's ancestor food. Before this, Guo Guangchang suffered a lot. At the most difficult time, two dollars a pack of instant noodles have to be eaten evenly. Fortunately, Guo Guangchang gritted his teeth and persevered. Yuanzu Food's list made the company's account more than 300,000.
When he got the 300,000, Guo Guangchang was full of love and gratitude for Tan Jian in his heart. In those most painful days, he thought about giving up. It was Tan Jian who comforted him and encouraged him again and again. Tan Jian often told him: "As long as you persist, with your ability will definitely succeed." Failure is nothing, let's just start over together. If you just give up, I'll look down on you. "If there is no talking about swords, there will be no Guo Guangchang now."
It's time, Guo Guangchang thought. He bought a huge bouquet of red roses and formally confessed to Tan Jian. Before Guo Guangchang's carefully organized application words were finished, Tan Jian nodded his head in agreement. She said, "Do you know how long I've been waiting for this day?" I almost couldn't hold my breath and was ready to confess to you. ”
The two were rightfully together, and Tan Jian felt very happy. When he heard that Guo Guangchang was preparing to enter the biomedical field, Tan Jian directly joined Guangxin. She said: "Developing a hepatitis B vaccine is a very meaningful thing. Moreover, this field is also very promising. There's a limit to what I can do, but I still want to do everything I can to help you. ”
"However, your expertise and interests are in the field of computing. Is it worth giving up your own area of strength to help me? ”
"You're my boyfriend, and it's certainly worth it to help you." Moreover, I am also very happy to be able to help you. ”
After Tan Jian joined Guangxin, Guo Guangchang changed the name of Guangxin. Fosun means The Star of Fudan. In the company at that time, plus Tan Jian, there were five backbones from Fudan University.
In 1993, Tan Jian graduated from Fudan University. The first thing she did after graduation was to get a marriage license with Guo Guangchang. At first, Guo Guangchang was still hesitant, because Tan Jian's family did not like him very much. He was a poor boy from the countryside, and Tan Jian's family was afraid that she would suffer in the future.
But the decision to talk about the sword is not so easy to change. She stole the household registration book from home and dragged Guo Guangchang to the Civil Affairs Bureau. Without the knowledge of his parents, Tan Jian stepped into the marriage hall.
The body was completely destroyed, unable to have children and divorce
After learning that her daughter had been licensed to marry, the Tanjian family had a big fire. In Tan Jian's impression, the family had never reprimanded her so angrily.
"Do you know what you did?" You've put the rest of your life in it! ”
"How can this be called a ride in?" I was willing, and I believed in Guo Guangchang. As long as we both work together, we will be able to live a happy life. ”
At that time, when talking about the sword, he did not understand the anger of his parents. In her opinion, there is a feeling of drinking water. What's more, Guo Guangchang is still a high-quality potential stock. She had already decided to accompany Guo Guangchang to fight the Jiangshan together. Any wind or rain ahead, two people will break through together.
After becoming a regular employee of Fosun, Tan Jian is even more lifeless. With the expansion of the company's scale, Tan Jian is responsible for more and more projects. Often at ninety o'clock in the evening, she still picked up lights in the company to fight at night. When she got home, she couldn't put down her computer. There were also many documents waiting in line for her to process.
Once, Tan Jian didn't even have time to eat breakfast to go to a bidding meeting. After the successful bidding, he accompanied the organizer to socialize at noon. There wasn't much in the stomach, but the wine was drunk a lot. There was no time to rest in the afternoon and project documents had to be processed. In the evening, I had to accompany Guo Guangchang to socialize. She was like a working machine, completely losing herself.
Soon, Tan Jian's body was seriously overdrawn. At first, it was just a stomach pain, and talking about swords was not taken seriously. Then it was insomnia, and she still didn't feel anything. In the end, Tan Jian would faint inexplicably. More seriously, her menstrual period was completely out of order.
She couldn't bear it, so she took half a day to go to the hospital. But the doctor's words were like directly sentencing her to death. "The body is severely depleted and it is impossible to get pregnant for life."
God seems to have made a big joke to her, she was only in her 20s, and she completely lost her right to be a mother. Before she could adjust her emotions, she realized that Something was wrong with Guo Guangchang. Lately, he's been coming home late. One day of vacation, Guo Guangchang would rather sleep alone than chat with her to eat.
The outbreak of the contradiction came from a phone call from Guo Guangchang's mother. On the phone, Guo's mother urged them to hurry up and have a baby. Everyone around her was holding her grandson, and she wanted her grandson too. But Tan Jian had openly told him that he had no way to have children.
After a phone call, Guo Guangchang came to Tan Jian and stood still. "Let's get a divorce."
"What? You want to divorce me? Give me a reason. ”
"For so long, all you have in mind is work. There are fewer and fewer topics between the two of us. The so-called interest in life has also completely disappeared. I look at you now, and there are no ripples in my heart anymore. I admit, you're excellent. But the family you gave me is not the family I want. ”
"You have someone out there?" These can all be overcome and why divorce is necessary. ”
"I didn't do anything to be sorry for you, it's just that everything really can't go back. I can honestly tell you the most fundamental reason, you can't have children. But I can't possibly not have children. ”
"Well, well, I see. Get ready these days and go through the formalities. ”
This marriage, which we met in a small way, finally came to an end.
The two have a new life and become partners
After the two divorced, Tan Jian also temporarily withdrew from Fosun. She was depressed and needed a while to heal herself. She truly loved Guo Guangchang, how could divorce not hit her?
Guo Guangchang, on the other hand, has been working normally. In an interview, he met the journalist Wang Jinyuan. Coincidentally, Wang Jinyuan also graduated from Fudan University. In the process of getting along, the two people gradually like each other. For Guo Guangchang, Wang Jinyuan is more in line with his imagination of the marriage partner than Tan Jian.
In 2001, Guo Guangchang and Wang Jinyuan married. The two people are very affectionate, and Guo Guangchang has to make video calls to his wife every day when he is on a business trip. Wang Jinyuan gave birth to three children to Guo Guangchang, which made him feel extremely happy. He was sure he had entered a new chapter in his life.
Wang Jinyuan
On the other hand, Tan Jian was also seizing the time to restore his state. After her comeback, she served as the chairman of the Supervisory Board at Fosun. Guo Guangchang aside, this is also the place where the cause of talking about swords begins. Even without love, she and Fosun still have a deep bond.
However, now Tan Jian pays more attention to himself than before. She will take time out every day to exercise, and she will not force herself to complete tasks that she cannot complete. After a busy schedule, she learned to give herself a vacation. Tea tasting, traveling, reading, yoga... These things have become a new hobby of talking about swords.
In a media interview, the reporter asked Tan Jian about the previous marriage.
"Now you're back in the workforce, or working with your ex-husband. What kind of attitude would you have? ”
"I've seen his interviews before and he said I'm a good partner. So for me, too. The things of the past are over and we are all starting a new life. Now that the old story is brought up again, it is completely meaningless. ”
This failed marriage also made Tan Jian understand what a terrible thing it is to lose himself. Fortunately, the proud her is still being found.
Today's talk about swords, emotional life is a mystery. But for her, it doesn't matter if she's single or in love. Single, she can support all of her life needs. Falling in love, that also shows that she has a new spiritual nourishment. The failed marriage with Guo Guangchang also taught Tan Jian a lesson.
To survive for others is really more than worth the loss. Losing the right to be a mother made Tan Jian regret it for a lifetime. After stepping out of the shadows, she also walked more life feelings. Paying attention to your own needs is the fundamental way to make yourself grow. Before you love the people around you, learn to love yourself, both physically and mentally.
epilogue
In marriage, the most taboo is to lose oneself. This is true for both men and women. Some people cut off all their social circles for marriage. Some people give up all their attitudes towards life for marriage. Some people make sacrifices again and again for marriage.
In the end, most of their marriages ended in failure. How can a marriage that makes people lose themselves last? Only by loving yourself can you love life. Only by loving life can we love the people we love. And an intimate relationship can continue.