Recently, a pregnant woman uploaded a video of her grandfather rubbing her legs, but it caused great controversy.
Why does the warm picture of the grandfather caring for his granddaughter cause controversy? Some netizens think that Grandpa is also an adult male, rubbing his granddaughter's legs, and his behavior is too intimate.
Having a sense of gender boundaries is undoubtedly good, but not everything can be easily defined and judged by the four words "there is a difference between men and women"?
Grandpa rubbed his granddaughter's legs for controversy
Entering the third trimester, the burden on the body is getting heavier and heavier, and pregnant mothers are getting harder and harder.
The 89-year-old grandfather, distressed by his granddaughter's pregnancy, sat on a small bench and massaged her legs, trying to make her more comfortable. From the knee to the ankle, Grandpa pressed it carefully over and over again, and the pain overflowed into words.
People who are about to become mothers, and how warm and fortunate it is to be able to get such love from grandpa. But when the pregnant mother posted the video of her grandfather helping herself massage her legs online, she received some "bad" comments:
"It's not appropriate, you're grown up and not when you were a child, this kind of thing should be done by your husband."
"As the saying goes, 'children avoid their mothers, women avoid their fathers', there is a difference between men and women, and even the elders are no exception. There are many ways to love, and this way is really inappropriate, not accepting rebuttals. ”
Ah this, grandpa to the pregnant granddaughter massage legs, these netizens do not envy the good feelings of people's grandparents, two did not see the female pregnancy is not easy, but pay attention to the grandfather behavior is not appropriate?
I have to say that the points that netizens are worried about are really surprising.
Don't be too rigid and dogmatic
In recent years, everyone's awareness of gender boundaries has become increasing, especially in getting along with children of the opposite sex, many people understand that "children avoid mothers, women avoid fathers", which is a gratifying progress.
But can grandpa rub his granddaughter's legs for the sake of his granddaughter, can he simply use the phrase "men and women are not intimate" to judge?
Many people know that "men and women are not intimate", but they do not know that there is a second half of this sentence:
"Men and women who are not intimate, courtesy, sister-in-law, aid to the hand, the right also."
Mencius told us that there should be no excessively intimate contact between men and women, but at the same time he also said that in the face of special circumstances, we must have the power to change and not be rigid and dogmatic.
The matter of grandfather massaging his granddaughter is simply defined as "the difference between men and women", which is a rigid dogma.
First of all, the grandfather gives the granddaughter a massage out of kindness, in order to alleviate the granddaughter's pregnancy hardships, is the elderly love for the younger generation; secondly, the grandfather's behavior is not inappropriate, that is, it is very normal to help the granddaughter massage, neither excessive behavior, nor excessive behavior; finally, massage is a common health care behavior, the third trimester of pregnancy massage legs can promote blood circulation, alleviate edema.
Grandpa massaged his granddaughter's legs, not only out of love, but also for the health of pregnant women. If just because Grandpa's gender is male, it is felt that his behavior is inappropriate, then shouldn't the hospital also add a rule that male doctors can only treat men, and female doctors can only treat women?
A scene of intimate coexistence between a grandfather and grandson, which was originally very homely and warm, has been misinterpreted to this point, and I really don't know whether it is a kind of progress or a kind of regression.
Moderate sensitivity and vigilance can help us clarify the boundaries of right and wrong, but excessive questioning and judgment will only make people lose their way and go to extremes, thus missing out on many of the good and fun in life.
Therefore, I hope that each of us can look at things a little more sunny, a little more diverse, less groundless speculation and doubt, the world is worth it!