In recent years, with the implementation of the two-child policy, many elderly people will urge their daughters-in-law to have a second child. But there are some old people who don't do this, what's going on?
Many people say that they can't understand, so let's first look at the real case of a friend's house, and you will understand it after reading it.
My good girlfriend, Linlin, has a 5-year-old son. Because she felt that her son had already gone to school and didn't have to bother as much as before.
In addition, in recent years, their family's economic conditions are OK, so they have the idea of having a second child. But the mother-in-law resolutely rejected Linlin after knowing it, because the mother-in-law felt that her son's eyes were too small, and such genes were not good.
The eldest grandson is a small eye, in case another child is still inherited by Mr. Zhou, it will be a lot of collapse.
Mother-in-law Linlin's words are still very reasonable. In many ways, children inherit the genes of their biological parents, which cannot be artificially changed.
In addition to the reason that genes are not good, there are many elderly people who do not want their daughters-in-law to have a second child for other reasons:
1, do not have the time and energy to help with children
Many elderly people in the family continue to grow older, and their physical condition also declines. Sometimes the elderly can't even take care of themselves, let alone help with the children.
In addition, if the elderly in the family have more children, they will feel very tired. After all, every child has children underneath, who do you really help with children? This becomes a difficult question to choose.
If the elderly do not do well enough, it will lead to contradictions between children, so in this case, many elderly people in the family do not want their daughters-in-law to have a second child.
2, the elderly want their children to concentrate on bringing a child
I have a colleague who wants to have a second child, so he consults with the family, and at this time, neither her husband nor her mother-in-law approves of her having a baby again. Because having another child, for the first child, is more or less affected.
Many times not only snubbed the big treasure, but also did not educate the second treasure, and eventually had a bad impact on these two children.
Therefore, in such a case, the elderly in the family may choose not to let the daughter-in-law have a second child.
3. For the sake of young couples
Having a child is not only physically stressful, but also psychologically, after all, every child needs to spend a lot of money and energy.
If there is one more child in the family, there will be an extra financial burden, plus now the comparison is very serious, what brand of clothes other people's children wear, we are also willing to let the children wear the best.
At this time, if the couple's financial status is not too generous, it will increase their pressure. Many elderly people are still very distressed about their children, so some elderly people do not recommend that daughters-in-law have children again.
Now we should know why some elderly people in the family do not approve of the daughter-in-law having a baby.
Whether it is because there is no time and energy to help children with children, or because they want to reduce the burden on their children, it is always a love of the elderly.
It is recommended that young couples be mentally prepared when preparing for a second child to see if you have the ability to bear the pressure of the second child in all aspects.