Linlin's children have always been brought up by their grandmothers, who can enter primary school? The child began to return to the mother's side, at this time, Linlin began to feel the distance between her and the child.
In fact, the direct cause of this result is that the mother does not accompany the child during the "attachment period". What is the "childhood attachment period"?
From a professional point of view, the so-called "attachment" is a relatively intimate emotional relationship formed between children and parents. You can think of it as a bond of relationships, you can think of it as a bond of emotions. In general, the parent-child relationship that is handled well during the attachment period is easy for children and mothers to form a good pattern of getting along.
This relationship is roughly divided into four stages of development.
1. Pre-attachment period (after the baby is born to 2 months old)
At this stage when the baby is just born, they come to this world from the womb, strange and afraid, but with the mother's voice, with the mother's body temperature, with the mother's hug, their sense of security will be enhanced. If children do not feel the warmth of their relatives at this time, it is difficult for them to form dependence on their relatives.
2. Attachment establishment period (2 months to 7 months after the baby is born)
Now that babies have begun to slowly have a certain degree of visual and olfactory ability, they have been able to distinguish between acquaintances and raw people, so those who are closer to him have become the objects of their dependence. If the mother cannot accompany the child at this stage, it will be difficult for the child to establish a relatively good parent-child relationship with the mother after adulthood.
3. Period of definitive attachment relationship (about 7 to 12 months)
Children's cognitive abilities have now improved, and they are beginning to have more emotional links to those close to them. At this time, we will find out, who is closer to the child? The more people you come into contact with, the closer your child is to whomever you want.
4. Partnership with coordinated purpose (about 2 years old)
Nowadays, children are not only satisfied with the relationship with their parents, they are beginning to seek emotional links from their friends around them. If the previous stages are not handled well, it will be difficult for the child to have achievements at this stage, will not deal with the relationship with the parents, and naturally will not be able to deal with the relationship with the partner. It can be seen that parents must grasp the child's attachment period so that they can help their children establish a sense of security.
So, as parents, how can we tell if our children have entered the "attachment period"? The best way is to observe if the child is starting to have mood changes.
Because the baby at this time already has the emotional requirements for the parents, they will become more sensitive, and the emotions will naturally become more complex, and they will use "doing" at every turn to determine the parents' intentions.
So when the child begins to be cloudy and uncertain, parents must not arbitrarily reject the child or criticize them, and must give the child enough hugs and warmth, so that the child clearly knows that the parents love themselves so much.
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