Wen Wen's father would like to ask everyone first: Will you take the initiative to tell your daughter about physiological knowledge? Will you give her a menstrual leave?
Listening to my wife, when she first came to menstruation, she was very confused, completely unaware of what was happening, and even embarrassed by this normal physiological phenomenon, and the physiological ups and downs were particularly large.
01, a menstrual holiday makes the flower girl go to tragedy
Some time ago, the neighbors took out the formalities for their daughter Linlin, and Wen Wen's father was shocked when he heard about it. The impression of Linlin is well-behaved and quiet, and her academic performance is also very good.
After some inquiry, it was caused by a menstrual holiday: one day, Linlin suddenly came to the menstrual holiday, her pants were stained red, and there was blood on the stool.
After the classmates saw it, some of the boys began to coax and spread rumors, and even said that her private life was chaotic and pregnant.
And Linlin, who had never had relevant knowledge, faced with her red-stained pants, had no idea what was happening? Don't know how to explain and deal with your classmates? Only squatting on the ground and crying with a headache.
Until the homeroom teacher heard the news, blasted away the onlookers, then took off her coat to cover it, and called the parents to pick her up and take her home.
After returning home, Linlin's mother did not pay attention to it, and felt that it was no big deal, so she gave her daughter a pack of tampons, talked about how to use it, and then left.
The next day at school, a classmate asked Linlin what was going on? And bluntly said that the girls in the class had not bled, and asked Linlin with a bad smile if she was pregnant?
Linlin just wanted to explain, but the students said everything and began to spread all kinds of rumors, which made Linlin very embarrassed.
What's worse is that Linlin's classmates who used to play well have begun to alienate her and talk about her behind her back. At this time, Linlin is very sensitive, always suspicious of ghosts, and when others look at her, she feels that the other party is cursing herself. There is no intention of studying, the grades are also plummeting, and after her parents know it, they also scold her for being "too pretentious".
The ridicule of the classmates and the reprimand of the parents made Linlin, who was not very lively in the first place, finally collapse and began to resist going to school. For this reason, parents have persuaded, scolded, beaten... The teacher finally suggested that Linlin take a semester off...
After listening to the neighbor's story, Wen Wen's father was very sad, and he couldn't imagine that a menstrual holiday actually led the child to tragedy. The main cause of the tragedy is that parents have never popularized the physiological knowledge of their daughters.
02, the daughter came to menstruation, the mother please say these 3 sentences
When the girl came to menstruation for the first time, she was afraid and panicked! If the mother can say these 3 words to her daughter at this time, the daughter will benefit for life:
First sentence: Come to menstruation to prove that you have grown up
First of all, tell your daughter that coming to menstruation is a proof that you have grown up, which is a process that every girl must go through to grow up. It means you're healthy and you're growing.
So, when you come to menstruation, don't be afraid, and don't be shy!
Second sentence: During menstruation, pay attention to diet and hygiene
When the daughter comes to menstruation, the mother should teach the child how to use the tampon correctly, such as 3-4 hours to replace it during the menstrual holiday, and replace it once every 1-2 hours when the amount is large.
At the same time, pay attention to keeping private parts clean and hygienic, do not eat raw cold, spicy food during the menstrual holiday, which is related to your health.
The third sentence: Know how to protect yourself
The mother should tell her daughter: After the menstrual leave, it means that you have fertility, you should keep an appropriate distance from the boy, you have not reached the right age, and things beyond the bottom line must not be done.
Adolescent children, although physically similar to adults, their brains are still developing. It is this "semi-mature" brain that makes them prone to all kinds of incomprehensible behaviors. For example, excessive concern about their appearance, addiction to the Internet can not extricate themselves, early love and even steal the forbidden fruit.
03, the daughter into puberty, these two books are recommended to read
In the eyes of many parents, taking the initiative to tell their children about physiological knowledge is equivalent to taking the initiative to "bring bad" children, and these things will be understood when the children grow up. But is this really the case? Let's start with a set of data:
According to the "Chinese Marriage and Love Survey Report", most people's first sexual behavior is concentrated in 18-23 years old, and the first love age after 95 is 12 years old.
In other words, most post-95s have begun to fall in love in elementary school, and even earlier in high school, they have "tasted the forbidden fruit".
According to statistics from the National Health Commission, there are as many as 9 million cases of abortion in the mainland every year, and female college students around the age of 20 are the "main force". The reason for this is the lack of physiological education in adolescence.
"Private Book for Adolescent Girls" writes: Girls who have received good "sex education" in adolescence are more likely to have a comfortable and happy life than girls who have not received it.
Therefore, physiological knowledge, parents must systematically and seriously tell their children. The more unnecessary and embarrassed you are, the more likely your child is to be hurt in the future.
If you are embarrassed to take the initiative to tell your child, Wen Wen Dad suggests that you start these two books - "The Private Room Book of Adolescent Girls" and "The Secret Book of Adolescent Boys".
In the book "Private Books for Adolescent Girls", the author introduces in detail the physiological and psychological changes that girls will have during puberty, including physical development, early love, academics and self-protection.
For example, for most adolescent girls, as self-awareness develops, they pay special attention to their appearance and even fall into "appearance anxiety".
The book describes the physical changes of adolescent girls, such as chest development, long hair under the armpits, and sexual fantasies. This is very beneficial for the mental health, personality, and self-confidence of adolescent girls.
In the book "The Secret Book of Adolescent Boys", it also describes in detail the physical changes that boys will have during adolescence, such as long beards, voice changes, early love, etc. There are detailed descriptions, teaching children to deal with puberty correctly and become a sunny and attractive man.
Why did Wen Wenpa suggest that you choose these two books?
First, in the face of adolescent children's questions, parents may not be able to answer correctly; moreover, if children fall in love early and are addicted to the Internet, as parents, in addition to being "tough" with their children, what can they do? In both books, you can find the answer.
Second, the daughter into adolescence, are ignorant and confused, these two books can make the daughter clearly understand their own changes, as well as the physiological and psychological changes of the opposite sex, so as not to be curious about the opposite sex, so as to fall into the misunderstanding of early love, and then make mistakes.
Third, books, entering the girl's world as an "outsider" and "authority" can make girls more convinced.
These two books are actually a set of parenting guides that tell you how to guide your children correctly and reduce conflicts with adolescent children.
Wen Wen's father suggested that parents must send their daughters these two books! After all, the daughter's growth is only once, and some mistakes really can't be tried, otherwise it will ruin the daughter's life. Let the knowledge walk in the forefront, and do a good job in prevention in adolescence, in order to achieve a happy life for the daughter!
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