Kindergarten's "unspoken rules": Teachers do not like 3 types of children but do not say it explicitly, parents prepare in advance

If society is a "big river", then the kindergarten must be a "small river", and there are countless "unspoken rules". If parents are a little careless, they may offend and let the child fall into the situation of "isolation and helplessness", and Wen Wen Dad is definitely not alarmist.

01, the child went to kindergarten for more than 1 month, the teacher let the test iq

Colleague's daughter Jiajia, who has been in kindergarten for more than 1 month, the teacher said that the child had various problems, and even directly said to the colleague: "Your child may have social disorders, take the child to the hospital to test iq!" ”

When colleagues heard the teacher's words, they were both aggrieved and angry, did not know how to refute them for a while, and did not dare to show them in front of the children.

After the sadness, the colleague asked WenWen's father whether to listen to the teacher's words to take the child to test the IQ, or to change the kindergarten for the child.

Seeing the anxious colleague, Wen Wen's father is very angry, the colleague's daughter is very familiar to me, is a very cute little girl, although the personality is slow and hot, shy, but how can it not be related to "IQ problems"?

Subsequently, I asked my colleagues to understand the specific situation with the teacher, and the feedback was:

Children do not adapt to kindergarten, do not fit in, do not cooperate, other children have adapted to kindergarten;

Have severe separation anxiety, hold the neck of the parents in the morning and do not let go, and stage the drama of "life and death" every day;

Other children cry for a while and go to play by themselves, while Jiajia basically cries from school to school, and how to coax is not good;

Poor language skills, only two words can be spoken, unable to communicate with teachers and classmates normally;

Poor self-care ability, slow eating, picky eating, not to mention, but also often pee pants, how to remind is useless;

Seeing the teacher's feedback, I have to say that Jiajia has more problems: separation anxiety, social difficulties, language communication difficulties, and poor self-care ability.

Colleagues also panicked, and even suspected that their daughter really had "IQ problems." Later, I comforted him that measuring IQ is like taking a child to do a physical examination, through professional assessment, to understand all aspects of the child, with a normal heart.

Under some entanglement, the colleague took her daughter to go to the test, and after professional evaluation, it was found that Jiajia was normal in addition to being slightly slow in language.

The colleague who just relaxed said anxiously: The child's IQ is obviously no problem, why are there so many abnormal performances in kindergartens?

In order to help his colleagues, Wen Wen's father asked his brother-in-law, who had been a kindergarten teacher for many years, to have a small gathering, and talked about the problems of his colleagues' children by the way.

After listening to the sister-in-law, the sister-in-law said that there was no problem with the child's IQ at all, but some of the child's behavior violated the "unspoken rules" of the kindergarten.

Wen Wen's father and colleagues heard the "unspoken rules" and immediately asked their sister-in-law to talk about it well, otherwise they might really let the child be hurt.

02, these 3 types of children, easy to violate the kindergarten "unspoken rules"

Children with poor self-care ability and often diapers

There are many kindergarten children, like the private kindergarten where daughter Wenwen is located, the number of a class is more than 35, while there are only 3 teachers.

If the child has poor self-care ability, cannot dress, eats, often pees his pants or pulls on his pants, the teacher has to take time to deal with it, once or twice, if this is the case every day, the teacher may criticize the child, such as "pull the rice dumpling again, don't come to kindergarten."

Children who are criticized may resist kindergarten, so parents should train their children's self-care ability before their children enter the kindergarten, such as eating, dressing, peeing and so on.

Naughty, mischievous children

Children who do not speak give the teacher a headache; and children who are too lively, even somewhat noisy, also give the teacher a headache.

Listening to my sister-in-law, there are very naughty children in their class, who can't sit still in class, and often love to talk to children and disrupt classroom discipline; more seriously, if they don't agree, they will start fighting.

Today's children are the treasures in the palms of their parents' hands, and whoever is injured is not easy for teachers to account for. Therefore, for those children who are not disciplined and love to beat people, they are generally arranged by the teacher to sit in the last row, and even close the "little black room".

I often hear my daughter say that so-and-so in their class has been locked up in a "small black room" by the teacher because of hitting people and talking.

Children who cry and don't pay attention to hygiene

Data show that 80% of children will have different degrees of kindergarten anxiety, and the other 20% of children are not without, but have mild symptoms and can suppress their inner anxiety with obedience.

Every time I send my daughter to kindergarten, there are children at the door crying and shouting "not going to kindergarten", and then holding their mother's neck and not letting go, crying heart-rending lungs.

According to the younger sister-in-law, there was a child in their class, the kind that could not stop crying, and several teachers took turns to comfort them. There was no way but to pull her into another room, accompanied by a teacher.

In addition to crying, children who do not pay attention to hygiene are also easily ignored by teachers. There is a child in the daughter-in-law's class, the hair is often oily, the clothes are dirty, the hands are outstretched, the nails are black, and the teacher has repeatedly given the child's grandmother feedback that it is useless, and then chose to ignore it automatically.

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