On her daughter's 5th birthday, she invited her friends to come to the house to celebrate, and when she looked at her daughter who was wearing a birthday hat and made a wish with her hands together, her good friend deliberately "eavesdropped", which was so cute.
Wen Wen's father looked at his daughter enviously and said: "Now the children are so happy, I grew up so old, I have never had a birthday like this." ”
"Yes, when I was a child, my parents always said what birthdays the children had, but birthdays are not the same as growing up," Wen Wen said in response.
At this time, Grandma Wenwen on the side muttered: "What birthday, giving people a birthday is wrong..." The mother-in-law has always advocated giving the child a lunar birthday, saying that the solar calendar birthday is not accurate, we are Chinese, and the birthday should be lived according to Chinese traditions.
Wen Wen's father believes that people are now accustomed to using the solar calendar, and the solar calendar is also on the daughter's IDENTITY card, so it is better to have a solar calendar birthday.
Whether to give the child a lunar birthday or a solar birthday, Wen Wen's family debated endlessly. Subsequently, Wen Wen's father posted his confusion on the Internet and tried to ask for help from netizens.
As soon as the post was posted, it immediately triggered a heated discussion among netizens, and some netizens believed: It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it can be born in the lunar calendar or the solar calendar, as long as the child is happy and the family is happy;
There are also some netizens who believe that the lunar calendar birthday may be different every year, and the solar calendar birthday is that day, so it is still a "solar calendar birthday". Observing the people around them, the average rural person is used to having a lunar birthday, while urban people are used to having a solar calendar.
There are also some netizens who believe that it is better to have a lunar birthday, after all, it is Chinese their own calendar, and it is also the most accurate.
For a child's birthday, should he choose the "solar calendar" or the "lunar calendar"?
The older generation believes that it is more accurate to have a lunar birthday
Lunar calendar birthday, is based on the lack of the moon, is a unique Chinese calendar, for most Chinese, birthdays are still lunar calendar birthdays, especially the older generation, China's five thousand years of long-standing culture, in its mind deeply rooted, whether it is a birthday, or the usual calendar, are accustomed to memorizing the lunar calendar.
In the mother-in-law's view, giving children a lunar birthday, on the one hand, is to follow the tradition, let the child remember his lunar birthday, and cultivate the child's folk awareness; on the other hand, it is believed that the lunar calendar birthday is more "accurate", can clearly know his "birthday eight characters", and even moved out of the "eight-character fortune telling", so that Wen Wen Dad is speechless.
In fact, for families that attach more importance to tradition, it is recommended to give children a lunar birthday, on the one hand, it can enhance children's cognition of traditional Chinese culture; on the other hand, it can also make the elderly happy.
Young people: The solar calendar birthday is fixed, easy to remember and convenient
Solar calendar, is common all over the world, there is no "leap month" to speak, remember more convenient, fixed, now many children are born, hospitals are accustomed to recording solar calendar. When I grew up, in places such as work and school, I gave people birthdays, and basically defaulted to the solar calendar.
Wen Wen's father's ID card is a lunar birthday, and every time the company gives a birthday, it is a solar calendar. When everyone helps you celebrate the candles together, your heart always mutters: Today is not my birthday!
In order to avoid this embarrassment, many young people who pursue new things and fashion are willing to give their children a solar calendar birthday, just like the ID card birthday, easy to remember and convenient, without having to specifically query which day the lunar calendar corresponds to.
It is worth noting that children should pay attention to the "imaginary age" for the birthday of the lunar calendar, and some places are accustomed to using the "imaginary age".
The daughter of a classmate in the hometown is obviously the same age as Wenwen, but they have a lunar birthday and use an imaginary age.
Obviously, he is a 5-year-old child, and everyone says that he is 6 years old...
For parents who are accustomed to using the false age, when taking their children to see a doctor and take medicine, pay attention not to say that the false age is not said, so as not to let the doctor prescribe the wrong dosage; the wrong dosage is very dangerous for children.
Wenwen's father's family: Give your child two birthdays a year
In order to take care of the ideas of the older generation, in the end, Wen Wen's father and Wen Wen's grandmother each gave way, so that Wen Wen had two birthdays every year, and the solar birthday was simply celebrated by her father and mother; the grandparents were responsible for celebrating her on the lunar birthday.
In this way, Wenwen, who celebrates two birthdays every year, is very happy.
Looking at my happy daughter, I asked, "Why do you like birthdays?" The daughter thought about it and said seriously: "Because you can eat cake, you can blow candles, you can sing birthday songs..." In fact, these are the processes every birthday, but the daughter is always happy and happy.
I once read such a question on the Internet: Why do children like birthdays?
One of the high praises is that children prefer the "sense of ceremony" when celebrating birthdays than to celebrating birthdays themselves. For example, blowing candles, making wishes, cutting cakes...
Experts from Harvard University in the United States, in response to the child's "sense of ceremony", invited a group of children to eat small lobs, and divided this group of children into two groups, a group of children before eating small lobs, was asked to follow certain rules: first knock on the table twice, then open the packaging of small lobbs, and then knock on the table twice, and finally take a deep breath and start eating small lobbs.
The children in the other group, without any rules and restrictions, can eat little robs as much as they want.
The experimental results found that the first group of children ate more and more small lobbs and immersed themselves in the established rules.
Some people say: Lucky people are cured by childhood all their lives; and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives! If you can leave your child with a beautiful and unique childhood experience through "birthday", when you grow up, the corners of your mouth will rise unconsciously.
How to celebrate your child's birthday and make her more impressed?
Generally speaking, after the child reaches the age of 4, he knows what "birthday" is. Until then, they didn't fully understand birthdays. Therefore, when the child is 4 years old, parents can accompany the child to celebrate the birthday.
When preparing for the child's birthday, adults should not handle it single-handedly, try to involve the child as much as possible, and be the "little master" of the birthday party. For example, let the child invite friends by himself, conceive or make drinks to drink at the party, play games, etc.
At the same time, tell the child that at the birthday party, take care of every guest who comes, so that the guests can eat and have fun.
In this way, allowing children to participate in their birthdays will not only impress the children, but also experience happiness in the process of participation.
Therefore, do not dwell on whether to give your child a "lunar calendar" or a "solar calendar", the most important thing is to create an unforgettable "childhood memory" for your child.
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