Wenwen was in the second year of junior high school this year, and once stayed up late to complete the homework assigned by the teacher. Therefore, when I was sleepy in the self-study class the next day, I happened to be seen by the class teacher and took a photo and sent it to the parent group.
Criticize by name and directly question the parents: If your son sleeps next to no one in class, it is a very ignorant performance, how to educate?
After Wenwen's father saw it, he explained: Sleeping in self-study class is indeed the child's fault, but you directly take the child's photo and send it to the group for criticism, is it appropriate?
The child went to the hospital yesterday after school to see his sick grandmother, and it was very late to come home, but he still insisted on writing his homework before going to bed, so he couldn't help but doze off. After reading Dad's humble answer, many parents have praised it.
In the process of raising children, we encounter many things, and sometimes children will do something wrong because of special circumstances.
If parents criticize indiscriminately, it will cause them a lot of harm. So what should parents pay attention to when faced with some things that their children do not quite do correctly?
Ask why
Most of the mistakes made by children have reasons, parents should not directly criticize, first of all, we must understand the origin of the matter, to avoid wronging the child because of impulse.
Second, it is necessary to distinguish between right and wrong, it is the child's fault that cannot be tolerated, let them apologize and take responsibility.
Finally, let the child sum up the experience from this matter, you can guide them to say their feelings and gains, so that the child can learn lessons and constantly correct their own small shortcomings.
Be a little more tolerant of your children
Children are called children because they are young and the world is pure and beautiful. Therefore, we should be a little more tolerant of children.
If you make a mistake, the child is also very tormented, if you suffer from the harsh criticism from the outside world, you will bear a lot of pressure inside, and the situation will even suffer from depression, so both parents and teachers should be more tolerant of the child.
In addition, we must understand and respect children more, and sometimes we do not need to demand them with the strict standards of adults.
For mistakes that are not principled, there is no need to criticize in public, to save face for children, they also have a strong sense of self-esteem.
Don't criticize education in front of outsiders
Some parents do not care about their children's feelings at all, saying in front of their classmates that they are not, and even laughing at some of their children's "ugly things".
This practice will make children feel humiliated, and then resent their parents, which will seriously affect the parent-child relationship.
Parents should educate their children behind closed doors and not embarrass their children in front of classmates, teachers, and outsiders.
Don't be too aggressive, and be aware that our purpose is to make children stop making similar mistakes, not just make children miserable and sad.
It is inevitable that children will make mistakes in the process of growing up, but from another point of view, it is not necessarily a bad thing.
If you don't make mistakes, you never know where you are wrong, and there is no room for improvement. I hope that parents and teachers can correctly treat the mistakes made by children and guard the growth of children with their hearts.