Previous We analyzed the reasons why children occasionally have "stealing" behavior, mainly in the following four aspects,
The idea of right and wrong is not formed
Fantasy "Gift"
Imitate conformity
Lack of interpersonal relationships
Today we will discuss how to guide and educate children if this situation occurs.
First, do not label your child
Children are young and have not formed a correct concept of right and wrong, so parents should not prematurely "define and label" their children, especially not to say: "You have stolen things since you were a child, and you must be a thief when you grow up!" "A casual sentence may well have planted a seed. There is a saying that I believe everyone has heard: some people use childhood to heal a lifetime, and some people use a lifetime to heal childhood.
Second, understand the causes and consequences clearly, and do not make arbitrary decisions
Example 1: Xiaoming and Xiaojun are very good friends, Xiaoming gave his favorite Transformer to Xiaojun, and Xiaojun accepted it happily. But after a few days, Xiaoming regretted it, so he told his parents that his Transformer was lost, and saw that Xiaojun took the exact same, and Xiaojun's parents did not buy Transformers for Xiaojun. Xiao Jun said that Xiao Ming gave it to him, but no one believed Xiao Jun.
It's easy for kids to make the decision to give something away but regret it, and in order to cover up their own careful thinking, they turn to shirking responsibility.
Example 2: Qianqian picked up a good-looking hair card on the kindergarten playground, and didn't know who it was, so she put it in her pocket and prepared to return to the class to hand it over to the teacher, but after a while she forgot. Wenwen found that her hair card was lost, and just when she was changing clothes, the hair card fell out of Qianqian's pocket, so Wenwen told the teacher that Qianqian stole her hair card. Qianqian said that she had picked it up, but forgot to give it to the teacher, but Wenwen insisted that Qianqian had stolen it.
Through this case, we can understand the importance of understanding the causes and consequences. Children's thinking is relatively simple, and many times adults need to listen to different information to make judgments.
Third, teach children in daily life: "Everything is valuable"
We need to let our children understand that nothing can be obtained without giving, let alone through crooked ways.
Children are likely to see their parents take something out of the store when they are shopping, and they mistakenly think that they can do the same, thus ignoring the behavior of paying the bill. If this phenomenon is encountered, parents should lead the child to apologize to the head of the store, pay an equal amount, give the child a correct demonstration, and teach the child afterwards that this behavior is not right.
Of course, children can also be guided to learn the process of payment, so that children can pay independently in the company of parents.
No one's "stealing" is engraved in DNA. Keeping your child away from bad information and giving your child the right guidance is the right way. Not too harsh, not too pampered, is the correct concept of education.
Education is a long run, and the king is encouraged.
Pay attention to the little tiger in the candy house, let's learn together, and give the best education for the child.