Children are out of control and crying, and many parents have headaches about their children's behavior and do not know how to guide them correctly.
First of all, parents need to have a correct understanding of this, emotions are not good or bad, right or wrong, it is a way for children to express their inner feelings, is to attract the attention of adults in this way, and because children lack the ability to manage emotions independently, there will be a situation of emotional out-of-control.
In order to help children better control their emotions and master the ability to correctly manage emotions, parents need to master these methods:
1. Empathy
For the child's emotions, parents must be empathetic, only in this way can the child feel the adult's understanding of his emotions, so the child will be willing to open his heart to the adult.
Specifically, parents should recognize their children's emotions, empathize with their children's emotions, and not blindly reason.
2. Acceptance Law
When the child has emotions, parents should accept and understand the child, rather than denying and suppressing the child's emotions.
Because when the child has emotions, it is likely that they are insecure, so parents should give their children full of love, so that they will feel safe and confident, in order to calm down and learn how to manage and control their emotions.
3. Criticism law
Criticism is actually a means of education, the key is that parents should learn to use it correctly, rather than blindly scolding, or even corporal punishment of children.
Some parents will lose their temper with children who are out of control of their emotions, and will yell at their children, which is not only not conducive to calming the child's emotions, but also causes harm to the child, so parents must not do this.
4. Praise method
Praise and encouragement can help children build self-confidence, reinforce good behaviors, and curb bad habits, so parents should praise and encourage their children in time.
For example, when the child has made a little progress in controlling and managing emotions, parents should offer affirmations and praise, which will motivate the child to continue to maintain.
5. Cognitive method
To guide children to deal with emotions correctly, parents must first teach children to recognize and distinguish emotions, such as happiness, anger, sadness, etc., and teach children to express their emotions correctly.
6. Experiential method
Compared with boring preaching, children still prefer the way of playing, so parents may wish to use games to let children recognize and understand emotions.
On the one hand, this can better attract children to understand, on the other hand, children can experience more realistically, feel more deeply, and understand more clearly.
7. Catharsis
When the child has negative emotions, do not let the child hide in the heart, but should teach the child to use the right way to vent this negative emotion, otherwise if it is not vented in time, it may affect the child's mental health.
For example, parents can teach their children to use sports to vent, and they can dig more ways, as long as the child is willing and does not cause harm to others, then they can let the child do it.
8. System desensitization method
In addition to the above methods, in fact, the system desensitization method is also a good choice.
The specific approach is to present the things that cause the child's tension, fear and anxiety in front of the child little by little, from the local to the whole, and gradually eliminate the child's adverse reactions to these things, which is helpful to help the child maintain normal emotions.