"Any strong-willed person has a certain weakness, an inability to resist a certain temptation." —— Lu Yao, "Morning Begins at Noon"
At the moment when network technology is developed, games have naturally become a major temptation for children. Many parents also talk about online games, and they are still addicted to online games and have headaches.
So when children are addicted to games, as parents, how should they deal with it?
Before talking about this, we must first understand one point - where is the boundary of the definition of "addiction"?
If the child only treats online games as daily entertainment (and in a reasonable time), in fact, there is nothing wrong with it, and there is no need to intervene too much, after all, entertainment is also a part of life, and moderate entertainment belongs to the "combination of work and leisure", and it is also a hidden embodiment of time planning. If it is completely banned, it will provoke a rebellious mentality.
And when children are too addicted to online games and can't help themselves, we have to pay more attention. But it is not to blindly rebuke, but to investigate the root cause and skillfully resolve it. In the end, it is not simply to blame the child, but for the healthy growth of the child's body and mind.
Regarding addiction to games, I summarized the following reasons and corresponding bootstrapping methods:
1. Children have excess curiosity and energy, and can effectively complete the real daily school and life, but also feel "empty" and lonely, and need to exert residual heat in the virtual world.
At this time, we can not let the child be confined to the home, and guide the child to go out for some outdoor sports exploration activities, such as hiking, mountaineering, swimming, etc. If you are subject to force majeure or time and place restrictions, you can also buy some daily sports equipment for your child to carry out daily exercises, such as playing basketball, soccer, skateboarding, roller skating and the like. Proper exercise can help children release excess energy, and at the same time, it is also of great benefit to relieve stress and strengthen the body.
2. Children's interpersonal skills in reality are weak, and usually children with lack of interpersonal relationships are more likely to indulge in online games and seek recognition in the virtual world to make up for the lack of relationships in reality. What's even scarier than addicting to games is that it's actually easier to create psychological disorders.
When encountering such problems, we should pay attention to the child's inner feelings and interpersonal communication, and communicate with the child to understand the child's daily situation. Pay special attention to the skills of interacting with children: the atmosphere should not be too serious, and the daily casual care can be given; to give the child enough respect, care is not interrogation, to be equal: "friends", "girlfriends", "buddies", etc., it is easier for children to open their hearts. Encourage children to communicate with others and share their feelings more.
At the end of the day, addicting to games is likely to be a veiled reflection. We can see the child's weak points and guide them. At the same time, you can also examine your own shortcomings in educating your children and correct them.
Online games are not untouchable high-voltage lines, everything is a way to explore and discover the world, there are many temptations on the road of life, and not every time we can stand by the child's side to give full guidance and help. All we can do is guide the child to grow up healthy.