When parents chat together, they can often hear some parents say: "My children are too introverted, do not like to talk, hide behind when they see strangers, have little courage, and will definitely suffer losses because of their personality in the future." Some parents even said in front of their children that their children were "stuffy" and "not out of breath." I once saw a mother who did not greet the guests because the children came to the house, and the mother said in public that the children did not understand things and did not show up, until the children cried, and the mother did not hesitate to say in front of the guests.
In real life, many parents feel that their children's introverts are not good, difficult to get along with, and it is not easy to make friends, but children with extroverted personalities are more popular. Parents also want their children to be lively, cute and outgoing.
In an environment where social and extroverted personalities are highly regarded, introversion gradually becomes a derogatory term. But are introverted children really bad? In fact, this is just a stereotype of people.
There is no distinction between good and bad personality, introversion is character, not lack of morality
I once saw a mother who, in order to make her child extroverted, took her child to parks, stations and other crowded places every weekend, and this mother gave her child the requirement to greet fifty strangers and complete the task before the child could return home. Influenced by stereotypes, the mother thinks in her heart that extroverted personality is good and introverted personality is bad, so she takes this method to exercise her children.
People are usually accustomed to dividing personality into introverts and extroverts.
Extroverts, lively and social, and easily build interpersonal connections in a short period of time. Introverted people like to be alone, not good at words, not good at communication.
This does not mean that extroverts are good and introverts are bad. Personality is a psychological tendency based on biology. It doesn't change with age, nor does it change with the environment.
According to statistics, seventy percent of successful people are introverts. Bill Gates was always immersed in his own world as a child, not interested in eating, and his mother once thought he was mentally unhealthy and took him to see a psychiatrist. After a series of observations by the doctor, the advice given was: do not interfere. There are also celebrities like Einstein, Newton, Andison, who are very introverted. But this does not prevent them from contributing in their own field.
In fact, there is no absolute introversion and extroversion of the other party in the world. Introverts often show an extrovert when they encounter something they're interested in, in an area they're good at, or when they're with someone they know. Conversely, when extroverts arrive in an unfamiliar environment or unfamiliar territory, they may also become introverted.
Introverts and extroverts are relative and sometimes convert to each other.
Therefore, when a child sees a stranger and sees a teacher, bowing his head and not saying hello, it is not necessarily that the child is rude and too introverted, and many times it is because the child is shy, and shyness is not introverted.
Introversion is only a kind of personality, not a shortcoming, parents should correct the past misunderstandings, do not always bother to correct their children.
Whether it is an introvert or an extrovert, it is more important to play to your strengths
Introverts and extroverts have their own strengths, but they also have their own weaknesses.
Extroverted children are cheerful, confident, good at handling interpersonal relationships, easy to be remembered, they are not afraid of life, they are self-cooked, they have sweet mouths, and they are easy to make friends. But at the same time, extroverted children are easy to lose, and it is difficult to focus on many things for a long time, and their interest and heat come and go quickly.
Although introverted children appear to be taciturn, weakly adaptable, and somewhat "dull", on the other hand, they are also cautious, focused, analytical, persistent, and empathetic.
As parents, we can't just label our children and tell them that extroversion is good and introversion is bad. We must give correct guidance according to the specific situation of the child.
The key to the upbringing of extroverted children
1. Make rules for children at home and teach children basic manners and upbringing.
2. Let children learn to observe, pay attention to the feelings of others, and learn to think in empathy.
The upbringing of introverted children is key
1. Respect the child's own rhythm and do not force the child to communicate with others.
2, do not arbitrarily label your child as "shy", "you are really useless" or even "do not understand politeness".
3. Give enough affirmation and support to the child's introverted personality.
Don't try to change the child, parents should learn to accept the child as it is.
If an introverted child is often corrected by his parents in the process of growing up, or is always ridiculed or rejected, then the child will have inferiority to his own character, they will hate themselves for this character, and thus lose the possibility of finding this character advantage. And this kind of inferiority will bring a great impact on the child's heart and trigger the child's psychological problems.
If the child likes to be alone, loves books, and does not like to deal with people, then conform to him, respect him, and accept him. Give your child enough time to observe the surroundings, to accumulate more energy, and the child will grow into his own form.