The mother is critically ill, do you want to let the child of the college entrance examination see the last time? Which is bigger, college entrance examination or life and death?
Is the college entrance examination greater than life and death?
Just before this year's college entrance examination, a mother in Shenzhen, Guangdong Province was critically ill and may not be able to survive her son's college entrance examination.
The family wants the child to go to the hospital in person to say goodbye to the mother, but they are worried that the sudden bad news will make it difficult for the child to bear the huge blow and affect the college entrance examination.
Just as the family hesitated, the doctor said this:
"If you don't tell the child, then he may be sad for the rest of his life, and the college entrance examination can also be taken next year, but if the child misses the last time to see his mother, he is likely to not be able to walk out for the rest of his life."
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For this matter, the voices of netizens in the comment area are also one-sided:
"The college entrance examination can be retaken, there is only one mother, and the last side must be seen."
"You need to say goodbye to your mother, otherwise you won't be able to reconcile with yourself in the future."
The mother is critically ill, and the child's college entrance examination is indeed a dilemma.
After all, the importance of the college entrance examination is well known, and if you make a mistake because of mental imbalance, it is likely to affect the child's future.
But looking back, as one of the closest people to the mother, should the child have the right to know?
The college entrance examination is important, but loved ones are more important.
There is no absolute right or wrong in this game of future and family affection, but the most important thing is not to leave regrets for children.
The mother with cancer informed her child of the condition and was ridiculed by netizens
Similar to what happened to the mother above, the same bad luck befell another family.
Some time ago, at the college entrance examination oath meeting of a school, a mother suffering from cancer wrote a letter to inform her child that she had cancer.
On the playground, when the boy saw his mother's personal letter, he cried on the spot and completely collapsed.
It was originally a regrettable and sad picture, but after it was uploaded to the Internet, it caused ridicule among netizens.
Many netizens blame their mothers, feeling that mothers should not tell their children's conditions before the college entrance examination and shake their children's mentality.
Some people swear that if they encounter this kind of thing, even if they die, they will not tell their children, and everything is based on their children's studies and future.
The only difference between these two cases is that the certainty of the time when the two mothers left this world is somewhat different, but they have received completely different feedback from netizens, which makes us have to think.
It is true that telling children is bound to increase the psychological burden of children and is likely to cause negative effects.
But as other netizens said:
When did we subconsciously feel that an exam is more important than a mother's life?
Can the college entrance examination be greater than the life and death of loved ones?
No matter how important the college entrance examination is, there is also a chance to start over, but when a loved one dies, you can't see it in the future.
From another point of view, experiencing setbacks and pains in life, learning to cherish and lose, is it also an exam?
This kind of "big test" in life may be more significant and more important than the college entrance examination.
Don't be "overprotective" of your child
Many "Chinese-style parents" are willing to dedicate and are accustomed to "overprotecting" their children, especially the habit of using certain special nodes, completely abandoning themselves, and subjectively considering problems from the child's point of view.
For example, if you are sick before the college entrance examination and can't bear to tell your children, before the college entrance examination, you dare not divorce for your children, hoping to treat all hardships and hardships as riddles, hide them after the college entrance examination and then reveal the mystery to your children.
It seems that such parents are great enough to be of great benefit to their children's lives.
But in fact, children are small, but not stupid, such "overprotection" does not make sense to them, but may cause harm.
The atmosphere at home changes, the parents' tone fluctuates, and the child can see and understand.
So many times when parents have a showdown, they are faced with children who have been waiting for the showdown.
Some parents feel that if they inform their children of bad news before the college entrance examination, it will affect their children's mentality, so everything will be said after the college entrance examination.
But if the child does not know and just keeps guessing, it is also easy to affect the college entrance examination.
And if the child knows nothing on the eve of the college entrance examination and really misses the end of the life of his relatives, this college entrance examination will forever be deeply bound to the parting of his relatives and become a scar for the child's life.
Just like the personal experience shared by netizens, because her father hid the news of her mother's serious illness before the college entrance examination, she could not take the exam well for the rest of her life:
No matter how solid the review is, I am always anxious and sleepless before the exam, and I am always cranky in the examination room and unable to concentrate.
Teaching children to be strong is more important than any exam
What do parents mean to their children?
Children are the continuation of parents' lives, the inheritance of life, parents are the source of children's lives, the reliance of life, and the most important people in children's lives.
In the face of the problem of life and death, really consider from the child's standpoint, should be known and faced together as a family, and plan how to live the last days together.
Therefore, when bad news is about to come, parents should consider how to give their child strength, make him strong, and calmly accept the ruthlessness of life.
Where does this power come from? The process of saying goodbye to a loved one is one of the important sources, and it is much better to give him time to accept reality than bad news suddenly struck.
Moreover, no matter what kind of exam it is, the purpose is only to give the child the opportunity to re-educate and make him more viable in the future.
But if a person wants to be happy, the most important thing is not how much knowledge he knows and how many skills he has mastered, no matter how strong these external abilities are, it is not decisive, what really determines happiness is the inner strength.
Children have a strong heart, in order to be themselves calmly and bravely pursue their own life.
Epilogue:
Pity the hearts of parents in the world, and when they are sick and sick, the mother is most worried not about herself, but about the children who are about to take the college entrance examination.
Everyone experiences life and death, which is a natural law that cannot be violated, but we can try not to leave regrets for ourselves and our children.
In the face of life and death, it is a small matter.
Today's topic: Do you think that before the college entrance examination, children should be allowed to see their relatives for the last time?