Children love to talk in class, usually it is easy to appear in the early stage of kindergarten to primary school, in fact, after the children at home go to school, they talk freely in class, which is a normal phenomenon. Many parents are very anxious when they hear that the teacher reflects that their children have small problems in the classroom, and they are easy to get angry with their children, and even punish their children. These practices of parents can easily hurt the relationship of trust with their children. It is recommended that parents maintain a good attitude and maintain a tolerant heart.
As a parent, you must first figure out what is the reason for your child? If the child is temperamentally characterized by extroversion, liveliness and mobility. Agree with the teacher that if the child does not speak indiscriminately in which class, the teacher will give praise and encouragement to positively strengthen the child's behavior of not talking randomly in class, and parents should also give praise after returning home.
Secondly, a child who lacks family care needs the attention of his classmates more, and he is not willing to be a person who is ignored by everyone. It may be that every teacher criticizes her, deliberately does not listen carefully to the lectures in class, and always likes to talk in protest. If it is a lack of emotion, parents should spend more time with their children, and they should spend a certain amount of time with their children every day to chat, so as to promote the feelings between children and parents.
For children, it is only to go to primary school, the rules that need to be observed become more, children may become uncomfortable, children do not enter primary school for a long time, they have no obvious concept of some rules and changes in the surrounding environment, so it will lead to old love to talk. But it is also necessary to gradually cultivate children's sense of rules and let them know that some rules must be followed. Schools have school discipline, and we cannot blindly condone and accommodate children at home, because schools and society will not accommodate children, and it is ultimately children who are hurt.
As the old Chinese saying goes, "There are no rules, no squares." Chinese like to say: give the rules to the child. In fact, we prefer to say that it is called "habit formation" for children. From ancient times to the present, everyone at home and abroad has said a similar view: the core of education is not only to impart knowledge, but to learn to be a person.
Ye Shengtao said: What is education? To put it simply, just one sentence, is to develop good habits. Habit is the capital that a person stores in the nervous system, and a person develops a good habit and cannot use up its interest for a lifetime; develops a bad habit and cannot repay its debts for a lifetime.
Childhood is the best time to develop habits. Most of the cultivation of children's habits depends on the demonstration and guidance of parents. The child is a natural stone, whether it can be sculpted into a beautiful work, kung fu is still in every parent. How can you help your child develop these good habits? Parents can start from the following 8 aspects:
1. Enabling environment
Provide a fixed, quiet and good learning environment, so that children can have the atmosphere to devote themselves to learning as soon as they step into this environment.
2. Guide patiently
Tell your child why and let them understand why they are developing these habits. When children encounter problems in the process of implementing habit cultivation, patiently guide them, do not expect success once, patience can be multiple times.
3. Timely compliments
When children do well, we must praise them in time, let them know which specific behavior is done well, worthy of praise, enhance children's self-confidence, and promote habit formation.
4. Demonstrate well
Parents let their children develop habits, first see if they have done it. Teaching by example is always better than words, and some truths are said many times, so it is better to do it yourself. If you want your child to do things and concentrate on single-mindedness, you should not do other things while watching TV; you want to keep your child away from home and try not to do things that distract your child and affect your child's learning.
5. Resolute attitude
In the process of cultivating habits, when the child does not cooperate, or the effect is not ideal, parents must resolutely show their position, give the child boundaries, and know that some rules are necessary!
6. Cooperate tacitly
Parents should first of all have a unified opinion, do not have a different attitude in front of their children, and have different opinions to communicate and discuss privately. Otherwise, in front of the child, it will hinder the formation of good habits in the child.
7. Make rules
Implement habits into specific rules and plans to implement. For example, there is a clear study time after school, do not change it at will; try not to do other things when studying
8. Add fun
In line with the nature of children, you may wish to add some fun to the boring plan. For example, parents and children compete together, do it in exchange for rewards, and if they can't do it, they have to exchange it for punishment, and so on. Use games to make children more receptive.
Don't ignore the daily life, every bit is a good time to cultivate children's habits, use some patience and love, and water the young saplings.