After the baby is born, it becomes the focus of care in the family, parents and even grandparents, grandparents and grandparents all around the baby alone, the whole family is very good to the baby, as long as it is good for the baby, as long as it is what the baby wants, they will do everything possible to meet the baby. Some parents never even let the baby at home suffer a little grievance, and all aspects of the baby's life are clearly arranged by the parents. Under the doting of parents, the baby's dependence on parents is getting stronger and stronger, and the sense of independence and independent ability are getting worse and worse.
Parents can protect their children for a while, but they can't protect their children for a lifetime. When children grow up one day, they will leave their parents, face the storms of future life independently, and learn to live independently in society. However, children who have not learned to be independent, they are like the "giant babies" in society, unable to coordinate and deal with various interpersonal relationships, and the worst result is to be rejected by friends and colleagues, and slowly abandoned by the world. Teaching children to be independent is a compulsory course on the road of parents' lives, and children's learning to be independent is the only way to grow.
A single mother once told me that it is not easy to bring up children! In order to make up for the lack of paternal love in the child's heart, she can only double her kindness to the child, as long as she does everything about the child herself. So much so that the child is 6 years old, even the most basic dress and eating will not be. Once the mother was on a business trip, leaving the child alone at home, she told the child to be obedient at home, no one knocked on the door can not open the door, and told the child to leave a lot of food in the refrigerator if he is hungry, he will open the refrigerator to find food. She also prepared a large carton of milk for the child. After repeatedly telling the child, she went on a business trip, but when she returned home, she was still shocked by everything at home! The child had been hungry for a day and a night. Children who lack independence are like a time bomb, and if the mother comes back a day late, there may be tragedy.
Every parent hopes that the child can become independent and brave, if the parents want to exercise the child's ability to be independent, then the parents need to do a good job in these aspects.
First, if you want to exercise your child's independent ability, parents must first change their thinking and concepts
In the eyes of parents, children will never grow up. Children are everything in their lives, but they forget that children are also an individual with ideas. If parents blindly treat their children in the way they think is good and ignore the children's own feelings, then this love is suffocating and a proper moral kidnapping. Children will one day grow up and go to society, and people who lack independence are a mess at work and in life. So independence is very important for a person. If you want to cultivate your child's sense of independence and independent ability, you need to start from the time of the doll, and parents should pay attention to a key period - 2 and a half years old. Because children at this stage begin to have self-awareness, this time is also a critical period for parents to cultivate their children's sense of independence.
Second, if you want to exercise your child's independence, parents should let go as soon as possible
From the birth of the child, parents from the first time to the baby to change the diaper, the first time to feed the baby, the first time to feed the baby complementary food, these things are the parents themselves. When the child grows up, some parents in order to be able to let the child devote themselves to learning, not to be disturbed by various trivialities and troubles in life, parents will take all the things on themselves, and do not let the child do a little housework. In the long run, the child's sense of independence and independent ability will become worse and worse, and they will be more dependent on everything that parents do for themselves. Once there is no help from the parents, the child will become helpless. Therefore, if parents want to exercise their children's sense of independence and independent ability, they need to start from the small things in life.
2 and a half years old is a good time to cultivate and exercise or to have an independent consciousness and independent ability. Parents must first teach their children one thing, that is, to do their own things. Wear clothes and shoes by yourself, for the child scattered on the floor of a variety of toys, parents do not go to tidy up, but the right to tidy up to the child, the child in the process of sorting out the toys, but also exercise the ability to classify and sort items and physical coordination.
Third, to cultivate children's independence, parents should give their children more praise
It takes courage for children to take a step toward independence, as well as the encouragement and support of their parents. Every time you complete a task beyond yourself, whenever you overcome a difficulty that you solve independently, it is worth the encouragement of parents, whose encouragement can bring great confidence to children and make children more independent.
Each child is an independent individual, has their own unique insights and opinions, parents want to exercise their children's independent ability, a hundred words are better than a do! Let your child bravely take that independent step!
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