Giving children the right to choose their lives is the latest moral kidnapping after "it's all for your own good."
Parents in the 70s and 80s, almost every family, had an obsession, that is, to let their children be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, Guangzong Yaozu, Guangyao Lintel, in order to achieve a class leap, change genes and life.
The love of parents for their children is naturally unquestionable. But not every parent has excellent educational ability, and not every family has a good educational environment. The strange thing is that no matter what the parents look like, the expectations for their children are the same, that is, to become the dragon and phoenix among people.
Kong Sensen was a rebellious child, and Kong Sensen's parents were also rebellious parents.
For the sake of Kong Sensen's growth, his parents paid a lot of money to send him to the strictly managed Sixth Middle School. Sure enough, in less than a week, Kong Sensen was called three times by his parents for skipping class and fighting.
For the sake of Kong Sensen's future, his parents found a very expensive erhu teacher for Kong Sensen, and even let Kong Sensen wear a ma dai xiao la erquan yingyue at his grandmother's funeral.
I don't know if Kong Sensen likes Erhu or not, I can only see Kong Sensen's eyes are hollow and his eyes are sluggish like the walking dead.
Thousands of reluctances can not escape the parents' words "are all for your own good."
Parents are struggling to lift their children and are indeed "good for you" in their own way, but what children feel may not be strength, but understanding and pressure.
Mom thought you needed to wear autumn pants, but it was late.
The same is true for the parents of the post-80s and post-90s, but in a different way. I know many new-age parents, and the most said sentence is: "I don't have the ability to choose life, so I must let my children have the ability to choose their own lives." ”
I feel that this is a, you yourself do not have the ability to choose life, what ability do you have to let the child choose life?
It is foreseeable that in the near future, a new generation of parents who think they are open-minded will use another and more bizarre way to support their children, and eventually be squeaked and screamed by the children, secretly hurt.
Instead of having high hopes for your children, you should have high hopes for yourself.
Family education is always the most important component of education, and there is no one.
Spending a lot of money to let children learn piano, erhu, dance, mental arithmetic and so-called skills now seems like our parents spending a lot of money to let us learn to repair cars, cook, barber and excavator?
Instead of handing over the child to others, it is better to find a way to improve their own ability, first flow out a successful road, and then summarize the successful experience, analyze the qualities required for success, and copy and iterate out these experiences and qualities to their children. After all, it doesn't matter if the child has an artistic cell, you have to let the child learn how to eat first.
It doesn't matter if you don't have successful experience, don't be blind to your child's life, but you can't give up cultivating some of your children's qualities that are absolutely not wrong.
We need to cultivate children's learning ability, so that children know how to learn independently, and understand the principle of taking its essence to remove its dross, even if we are the scum in the eyes of children;
We need to cultivate children's perseverance, because Edison said that his success is the inspiration given by Heaven to two percent, plus ninety-eight percent of sweat, many people think that sweat is hard work and hard work, in fact, sweat should be perseverance;
We need to cultivate children's ability to resist stress, because in the future life, children will inevitably be frustrated and stressed, some children choose to live lightly, some children choose depression, and some children choose to swim against the current.
With the above three points, our children have become children who can learn, persist for a long time, and resist blows, and whether they will be able to succeed or not, I dare not say, but they are definitely the ones who can mix well among the Gonggong gongs.
Isn't it more reliable to educate children than to learn what erhu?
The last time an adult matures is to accept the mediocrity of his own child.
There is a saying that the first maturity of a person is to accept the mediocrity of his parents; the second maturity of a person is to accept his own mediocrity;
I think the last time an adult matures is to accept the mediocrity of his own children.
Between the ages of 5 and 25, parents are our future, and the trajectory of most of us is closely related to the achievements of our parents, so we have many expectations for our parents. But when we enter the society, we gradually find that our parents are actually just an ant in the rolling red dust, and we will face the first collapse of our lives, and then transform into maturity.
In the same way, in the child's adolescence, we are also the future and expectation of the child, and the child has to accept our mediocrity in the process of growing up.
Between the ages of 25 and 35, our life trajectory depends more on our own hands, full of energy, with endless ideals and ambitions. Therefore, there are thirty and standing, but forty is not confused, forty is not only how to succeed, sometimes what is not confused is what to do if it is not successful.
The age of 35-50 is a critical period for us to educate the next generation, and it often becomes the last struggle of many people. The mediocrity of parents is what we have to accept, our own mediocrity is what we have worked hard to do but have not changed, half of the life's expectations are backpiled on the child, all have to struggle to lift the child, for the child to pour blood, but the world's parents heart.
But there is also an old saying that dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and the son of a mouse will punch holes. If you are a rat, why do you ask your children to rise up to ninety thousand miles in one fell swoop?
What is fifty knowing the destiny of heaven, I think it is fifty knowing one's own destiny, knowing the fate of one's children.
Instead of forcing your children to work hard, why not work hard yourself and then teach your children how to work hard?