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As a woman in the new era, you are busy every day in the dark, often feel tired and helpless, have no sense of value in your heart, and give your all but don't get the return you deserve.
With the progress of the times, the status of modern women is increasing day by day, but women are still under pressure in the face of the social living environment.
Carnegie said, "Whether a woman is happy or not is all about herself."
Whether a woman lives well or not depends on whether she has a sense of self-identity, whether she values herself, and whether she is psychologically dependent on others.
If we want to live a freer, happier, and more valuable life, we must run our lives well.
Therefore, women grasp these three things, even if no man loves you, you still live beautifully.
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First: Have self-confidence in your heart
Helen Keller said, "Faith is the master of destiny."
Although everyone's life experience is different, a person's fate is always in their own hands.
Our destiny is most affected by spiritual power, and with faith, there is the power to overcome everything.
I saw a story on the Internet, a girl with a large body burn, tenacious, admitted to a university, together with team members, participated in scientific research projects and won awards.
All of this stemmed from the confident smile on her face.
The girl's name is Wenwen, and when she was 3 years old in her rural hometown, she unfortunately encountered a fire and suffered extensive burns on her body.
In the following ten years, Wenwen underwen underwenwen underwent no less than dozens of large and small plastic surgeries, and her skin still left clearly visible scars, and she was hit by a huge injury inside.
Although she experienced misfortune, under the care and encouragement of her parents, Wenwen was gradually able to face reality bravely and grow into a strong and optimistic girl.
"I've been luckier than those who have had a disaster, at least healthy, to be able to go to school," she said.
It is precisely because of this self-confidence, hard work in literature and literature, excellent grades, admitted to university, won scholarships many times, and now has been guaranteed to graduate students of this university, closer and closer to their dreams.
Rand said, "Confidence in the future of life is intellectual expectation."
No matter what the current situation is, a person has self-confidence, the future is full of hope, and life will not be afraid of difficulties.
We will always encounter ups and downs in life, no self-confidence, like an unarmed soldier, what to take to defend against the enemy? Having self-confidence, like a samurai holding a sword, can help him cut through the thorns and move forward.
Confident people, with their own light in their hearts, can make life full of sunshine and warmth.
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Second: Feelings can be independent
Marie Curie said, "The road must be walked by yourself, so that it can get wider and wider."
In the emotional life, to remain sober and independent, the way out of their own, will be practical, more determined.
As a woman, the independence of the heart will make a person shine, hold his head high, and stride forward.
At that time, Zhu Qianpei became popular on the Internet overnight because of a work video.
In the video, she is young and weak, beautiful and white-skinned, skillfully pulling goods with forklifts, and can easily pick up 30 pounds of goods with her bare hands, known as "the most beautiful little sister".
Later, she participated in the variety show "New Blind Date", because the rich second generation male guest said "like her tenacious soul", and finally held hands with it.
But in the later process of communication, the male guest's family proposed to let her return to the family and be a full-time wife, but Zhu Qianpei categorically refused and then broke up.
She said she longed for a relationship, but didn't want a marriage without herself. I like this profession, whether I am in love or married, I will not give up my job.
Later, at work, Zhu Qianpei met a like-minded life partner who never asked her to return to the family even if she had a child.
She was supported by her other half, set up a transport team, and became the boss.
Zhang Ailing said: "All women have a place to live, not others, only themselves." ”
Life is a long road, we put our feelings on others, become like duckweed, only to go with the flow. Only if you are like a big tree rooted in the land, you will flourish.
An independent woman is an attractive woman and a woman with wisdom in life. Women are independent and will not rely on others in order to obtain happiness that truly belongs to them.
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Third: Life has a plan
Bacon said, "When you have a plan, you have a purpose in life." ”
With a plan, there is a possibility and direction for implementation, and making a meticulous life plan will enrich and enrich our lives.
With a life plan, we will not waste time in a foggy way, in order to make good use of our time and achieve ourselves.
Colleague WeiWei, who was recently admitted to a graduate school at a prestigious university, surprised the company's colleagues. Everyone commutes for eight hours, how does she do it, taking into account the arrangements for work, study and life?
One day at lunch, I asked her for a lesson, and she smiled and handed me a notebook. When I opened the book and looked at it, it was shocking, and I immediately understood the secret that Wei Wei could be admitted to graduate school.
It turned out that There was a "life plan" in the book, which was densely recorded, starting from middle school, and his annual plan and completion.
Each year, the plan will also be divided into several small projects, and their completion steps and time, their difficulties encountered, and their feelings after completion will be recorded.
Wei Wei said: "Writing down plans and wishes is like a beacon, guiding yourself and using every day of the future to put them into practice."
There is a saying that goes: "Planning is the guarantee of success, and planning is a necessary condition for success."
Successful people are prepared people, and they will plan in advance and implement carefully.
People who have no plan can only rammer aimlessly and eventually achieve nothing. Make your own plan, and with the guidance of the plan, we can take a solid and correct step.
As women, we have to wear several positions in life, so we should clarify our thinking, make a good life plan, and naturally be able to live an orderly life, continuously improve, and achieve our ideals.
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It can be seen that a woman's happiness in a lifetime cannot rely on men, but on "self-awareness".
Mr. Yang Dai said: "Only by taking the road of good choice and not choosing a good path can you have a true self."
There is no shortcut in life, choose your own life path, and go down seriously, in order to grasp your own destiny and paint your own life picture.
A long way to go in a lifetime, grasp every step, continue to experience and learn, make yourself more confident in your heart, more independent in feelings, and clearer in your life plan.
Only in this way can we grow into a woman with reason and wisdom, and life is full and beautiful.
May each of us have a happy and happy life.