After children reach a certain stage, due to the budding and development of self-awareness, they will feel that everything is "mine", so they will refuse to share everything with others.
In the face of the child's situation, some parents will choose the way of blame, and even when the child refuses to share, the parent will force them to share, first of all, we must know that this practice is not right.
Because it is very normal for children to have this kind of performance, it is determined by the law of growth, so what parents should do is not to rush to blame the child, but to master the correct method to guide and help them.
Specifically, what should parents do?
1. Don't label your child
If the child is not willing to share, some parents will label the child as "selfish".
Doing so will hurt the child, and if it is serious, it will also affect the child's mental health, so parents must not label their children.
2. Parents should lead by example
If parents want their children to grow up to be people who know how to share, then parents should first lead by example and set an example for their children.
For example, when the child moves the parent's book or computer, the parent is worried that the child will destroy the book or the computer, and will say to the child, "This is mine, you are not allowed to move", in fact, the parent can use another way, such as reminding the child that he can move, but must be loved, and tell the child to remember the original return.
In this way, the child will know how to respond when others come to borrow things from them.
3. Don't force your child to share
If after parental guidance and persuasion, the child still says that he does not want to share with others, parents should understand and respect the child, rather than forcing them to share.
Because for their own things, children have the right to decide whether to share with others, so parents should not interfere with children, only in this way can children really have the right to dominate their own things, so that children are actually willing to share.
4. Tell your child to solve it through consultation
When children are in conflict because they are unwilling to share, parents should teach their children to solve it through consultation.
For example, when other children want to play with their own toys, the child can ask the other party: "Would you like to exchange toys to play?" Or something like "only let you play for a while" is a gentler way to solve problems.
5. Affirm the child in time
When children are willing to share with other children, parents must affirm and praise their children's progress in time.
Doing so will let him know that sharing is a good thing, and second, it will also make the child feel fulfilled and willing to keep it.
6. Create opportunities for children to share
Some children are not used to sharing because they are only children, and if this is the case, parents can help their children create more opportunities to share.
For example, parents can take their children to play with other children, you can also let children bring their own toys to exchange play with other children or share, etc. At the beginning, children may be more resistant, but after experiencing a few more times, I believe that children will be happy to share with other children, maybe without parents reminding, they already know to share.
Therefore, in the face of children's refusal to share, parents must not blame their children, but should find the right way to guide them, so that children can grow into a person who "knows how to share and is willing to share".