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Some time ago, my cousin asked Wen Wen's father why her son, who is more than 6 months old, always likes to let adults hold and move around, and cry as soon as he sits down?
It reminds me of a video I once watched, a grandfather named Austin, whose daughter, like her little nephew, likes to be carried around and start crying once she sits down. In order to coax her daughter Charlie, she can be said to have used eighteen martial arts.
At the beginning of the video, Austin, the grandfather, spoke of the deep pain in many parents' hearts - "holding the child and never wanting to sit down".
After saying that, Grandpa Austin sat down tentatively, and Charlie, the daughter who did not cry or make trouble, began to cry instantly, and Grandpa was helpless and could only stand up.
Then Austin tried to sit down slowly, saying that if he sat down slowly and gently, his daughter might not notice it and would not cry.
But as a result, the daughter Charlie was stunned, then looked at her father, and then cried. Apparently, Daddy's method failed.
Later in the video, Austin, the grandfather, said the "winning magic weapon" of holding his daughter and sitting down and not letting her cry, that is, before her daughter cried, she cried first.
This time, she sat down with her daughter in her arms, and before the baby could cry, he cried out, "I hate this chair so much, I don't want to sit here." ”
Austin held her daughter on the arm of the chair, and when her daughter began to hum, she pretended to cry loudly and shouted, "I don't want to sit in this chair..." At this time, the daughter Charlie looked at her father with a puzzled face and did not cry;
Later, every time when the daughter was going to cry, the father Austin began to cry, and the daughter Charlie was completely blinded by the father, and completely forgot to cry. It really responds to the saying that "if you rob the baby of crying, the baby will not be able to cry."
Seeing the bottom message of the video, many netizens said that the original babies in the world are the same;
Some netizens also asked doubtfully, what kind of force is this, holding and crying when they sit down;
More netizens said that after watching this video, they were deeply touched, and my baby also cried as soon as she sat down.
Watching this video, Wen Wen's father is really familiar with it, and when her daughter was a child, she was a baby who loved to hold and did not want to sit down. Obviously, she was still smiling for a second, but as soon as she sat down, she immediately cried; she was often said by Grandma that the child was like a radar, specifically testing whether Grandma was "lazy".
01, why do children hold and do not cry, sit down and cry
On this subject, Wen Wenda consulted such a biological explanation, and this phenomenon that causes parents to collapse may be related to the origin of evolution.
In ancient times, people lived in the jungle, behind them are the "man-eating beasts" that are chased relentlessly, only the babies in their arms, do not twist wildly, cry loudly and drag their legs, parents may not be discovered by the beasts, and then survive.
After hundreds of years of evolution, when parents are walking around with their children in their arms, the children will automatically remain quiet, and once they stop, they will return to their previous state of uneasiness.
Some researchers installed a "heart rate detector" on babies less than half a year old, which tested the heart rate when the mother held and gently shook, held and sat down, and the baby lay alone in bed.
It turned out that the baby was not only able to calm down in the mother's shaking arm bend, but also had a significant decrease in his heart rate.
The heart rate data obtained by the experiment showed that the infants were more relaxed and had lower heart rates when they were held and walked around than when they were still sitting and holding.
After reading this study, Wen Wen Dad felt that although it was impossible to draw a clear conclusion from this study, in the experience of usually carrying a baby, the child would be very quiet during the process of being held and walking; crying as soon as he sat down may be a hint to his mother, such as:
"Mom, I'm insecure"
When the baby is still in the mother's womb, it is surrounded by amniotic fluid, and across the amniotic fluid and the womb, the baby can also feel the mother's heartbeat and the sound outside. And in the process of walking around, the baby will feel the shaking of amniotic fluid in the abdomen.
When the baby is born, she may also miss this feeling of "being wrapped and rocking back and forth", which will make her feel very comfortable and grounded.
When being carried around by adults, the baby sticks to the chest of the adult, and can not only feel the heartbeat of the adult, but also feel the feeling of "being held and rocking back and forth".
For such children, parents can accompany their children more often, give their children a sense of security, and at the same time try the method of "wrapping up in swaddling" to simulate the child's feelings in the uterine environment.
"Mom, I like to look around"
Especially after the baby reaches the age of half a year, with the gradual development of vision, he will be very interested in observing the new things and environment around him.
At that time, the daughter especially liked to be held and walked, especially the vertical hug, not the horizontal hug, after all, the two eyes can only see the ceiling, and the vertical hug can observe different people and things around, adding freshness.
Therefore, in this case, parents should have patience, take the baby to observe the people and things around them, when the weather is good, you can also take the baby out for a walk, so that the baby is happy, not to say, but also conducive to the development of the body and mind.
"Mom, I'm not feeling well"
When my daughter was a child, she was easy to spit up milk, and she was prone to flatulence, and she often cried and cried; sometimes she would hold it up and relieve it for a while; but sometimes she would cry all the time, which meant telling her parents, "I'm uncomfortable, come and hug me."
Later, under the reminder of the childcare doctor, every time the child cried, I used the form of an airplane hug and gently stroked its back, and the child was soon able to calm down.
Therefore, when the baby who often spits up milk, burps, and farts cries, the touch should pay attention to, do not blindly complain about the child, you can try to hold the child by plane or give the child a touch massage, which can not only promote the development of the baby's organs, but also help the baby to vent and alleviate discomfort.
When the daughter was crying, she was very sensitive to light music, and every time she cried, Wen Wen's father would play a piece of light music for her, and the daughter would soon be able to quiet down.
All in all, if your baby is also the kind of "hugging and not crying, sitting down and crying", you don't have to complain about it, you must distinguish the reasons for the child's crying, find the reason, in order to adjust it in a targeted manner, find the child's "no crying" method.
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