"Dabao is fast, and the clothes she wore half a year ago are now inappropriate, just right for Erbao." When talking about the fact that children develop too quickly when they are young and buy clothes too often, Linlin, a mother of two, tells us about his concept of frugality.
And Linlin kindly asked our other parent, "We still have a lot of children's clothes left over, do you want to take them back and wear them for your own children?" ”
This parent directly rejected Linlin's kindness, because this parent believes that although the child is young, the child's heart is also particularly sensitive. If at this critical stage, parents always give their children the clothes left over from others, it may have a negative impact on the children.
Many parents may not understand, because the child grows and develops too fast when he is young, so there is no need to buy new clothes for the children at each stage, as long as the child is comfortable and good-looking, this is obviously a good thing, how can it hurt the child?
First, wearing old clothes for children is likely to affect children's aesthetics and vision
Now this society is a society that looks at the appearance, so everyone has very many requirements for their looks and dresses. Children are no exception, children enter the age of five and gradually have a perception of their own image, they will also have their own daily wear and hairstyles and other self-aesthetic requirements.
But because the old clothes that have been separated for several years are likely to be outdated in style and color, and the style and style are not necessarily what the child likes, if the parent blindly let the child wear the old clothes, it is likely to affect the child's aesthetic level.
Therefore, when parents choose to wear old clothes for their children, they can eliminate those clothes that children do not like, let children take the initiative to choose their favorite clothes, and gradually shape the child's aesthetic vision and self-selection ability in the selection process.
Second, always picking up the clothes worn by others is likely to affect the child's self-esteem
Children also have self-esteem, if the child has been wearing other people's old clothes when they are young, it is likely to cause a childhood shadow to the child, so that their inner self-esteem is deeply hit.
Moreover, when the child's mind is not mature, he pays special attention to the opinions of others. If you always wear old clothes, you may also feel frustrated by the words of your classmates and children.
Third, always wearing old clothes will reduce the child's sense of self-worth
If parents always raise their children with a "will be on the line" mentality, then the child will naturally derive a particularly inferior value concept, they will reduce their requirements and desires for themselves, and feel that they do not need to ask for new, good, perfect, everything is a make-up.
Such children are likely to have low self-awareness value later in life, that is, they have no self-confidence. If a person does not have self-confidence, then he must also be negative about future work and study arrangements and plans.
We can understand the frugal psychology of parents letting their children wear second-hand clothes, but more important than frugality, it is more important not to let children distort values.
Therefore, parents can explain to their children why they let their children wear second-hand clothes to protect their children's self-esteem, and pay attention to the children's inner emotional changes and their thoughts in time.
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