When you are a child, you force your child to do these 4 things, and he will thank you in the future

The child's childhood is not a little stressful,

When you grow up, you may not be grateful to your parents.

Source: Qian Zhiliang Studio

01

"Force" the child to develop a hobby

And stick with it

"Kids

Do you have a lot of question marks

Why others are reading comics there

I was learning to draw and talking to the piano."

This is a line from Jay Chou's "Listen to His Mother", telling the story of learning the piano when he was a child.

When Jay Chou was 4 years old, his mother Ye Huimei discovered her son's interest and talent in music, so she asked a teacher to tutor him.

Over time, the playful nature of children is exposed. In order to let his son persist, every time he practiced, his mother would stand behind him with a rattan to supervise, and it was with his mother's supervision that he could persevere on the road of music.

Jay Chou said in a certain show: "Now I really thank her, so I wrote "Listen to My Mother's Words". ”

This thank you, my mother will feel very relieved to hear it.

Talent is not necessary for all children, and interest classes should also be based on children's interests, parents' time and energy, and the family's financial situation.

But it's a good thing for a child to have a hobby and be able to stick to it, such as an interest in reading, a sport, a specialty... These hobbies are useless in the short term, but in the long run they will become a special advantage for children.

Today's educational environment and concepts have changed, to cultivate children's interests and hobbies, there is no need to take a rattan to chase and force children to learn, but at least it should be cleverly pushed, do not let the child's abandonment come so simple, so that children understand the meaning of persistence.

Because the child's childhood is not a little stressful, when they grow up, they may not be grateful to their parents, but they will complain about how their parents did not "force" themselves at that time, and I have heard young people around me complain more than once:

"If only my parents had let me learn something."

It is difficult to cultivate a child's good habits and strengths, it is difficult to expect children to be self-conscious, and the most important thing is the persistence, patience and companionship of parents to stimulate children's self-confidence and internal drive.

02

"Force" children to read well

Give the future more options

"Study well" has almost become the mantra of most parents.

But many children do not understand why they should read, and sit in the classroom every day to "be a monk for a day and hit the clock for a day".

Some children even feel that reading is not their own business, but for their parents and for their teachers.

There is a similar question: What does a child need to go through to understand the importance of schoolwork?

One of the high-ranking replies was this:

"Not everyone has to go to high school and college, go to college and go to work as an office worker. It's just that if you don't take this relatively easy and stable road, the only choice in front of most people is to do rough work and hard work. ”

A long time ago, I watched a video of a boy in his second year of high school arguing with his mother and running away from home in a fit of anger.

In order to live, the boy went to a restaurant that ate and lived, and washed the dishes and worked up to 13 hours a day.

Within a few days, the child could not stand it, he took the initiative to contact his mother, wanted to go back to school to take the final exam, and promised his mother that he would study well next semester.

Reading is not necessarily the only way out of life, but not reading is definitely a hard road.

Remembering a live-action documentary in Hong Kong, the program team invited some social elites to experience the low-level life of homeless people and sanitation workers in a week's time.

When these successful people are at the bottom, they really feel what is called "no way out".

One participant lamented:

"These two days, I just want to eat, there is no hope at all, I don't want anything, I work hard just to eat a good meal. I now understand most of their thoughts, how can I plan for next week, next year, and what will happen in the future? The most important thing is to settle the next meal. ”

"This society is punishing people who can't read books very harshly."

On the road to children's growth, parents' decisions are not necessarily right, but it is only true that children work hard to study.

Some children feel that reading is bitter and tired, and choose a temporary comfortable pleasure, and may have to pay a painful price for this in the future.

At that time, he will find that without reading, the path of life may not have a choice at all.

03

"Forcing" children to fend for themselves

Let parents really worry about it

Actor Cai Shaofen once posted a cute photo of her 5- and 6-year-old daughter cooking on Weibo, with the text: "A small chef who cooks with heart."

Netizens are very confused: why let such a young child learn to cook?

In an interview, Cai Shaofen solved everyone's doubts, and she replied:

"Cooking is the easiest exercise and it's normal to worry about your child getting hurt. But in fact, chai rice oil and salt is also a kind of growth and practice. ”

Yes, self-sufficiency is also a great achievement for children.

Parents often focus on learning cultural knowledge as their children grow up, but ignore the importance of life skills.

In fact, self-sufficiency is the best gift to children, but also a very important task for parents, only when children have the ability to survive from an early age, the child's road can go farther and farther.

In Japan, a child's ability to be independent is more like a habit.

When children are very young, schools and parents instill in them the idea: "Don't cause trouble for others." "Cultivate children's self-care ability everywhere in life, and on this basis, guide children to be considerate of others."

For example, no matter how young a child, without exception, carries his own school bag, and his parents say: "This is their own thing, they should carry it themselves." ”

"Do your own thing" is a simple-sounding slogan, but it is difficult for children to learn, and it depends on how each parent consciously raises and exercises their children from small things. From washing face and brushing teeth, wearing clothes and tying shoes to the bag of books, sorting out the school bag, from folding the quilt, cleaning to washing and cooking, willing to let go, so that children have the opportunity to serve themselves and serve the family.

Cultivate self-sufficiency as a habit in order to raise children who really worry parents.

04

"Force" children to develop good habits

Live every day with ease

There is a little story like this:

The philosopher Plato once reprimanded a little boy mercilessly for a small matter, because the child was always playing a very stupid game.

The little boy was not convinced: "How can you condemn me for a trivial matter?" ”

Plato replied, "But it is no small thing that you do this often, and you will develop a bad habit that will cause you to suffer for the rest of your life." ”

Children's occasional small problems are not terrible, afraid that they will accumulate into bad habits over time, and it is much more difficult to change a bad habit than to develop a good habit.

Jobs said this:

"In the first 30 years of your life, you develop habits; in the last 30 years of your life, your habits determine you."

In fact, the most critical period for the cultivation of a person's personality and behavior habits is before the age of 10.

There are many young people now who know that habits are very important, but it is very difficult to practice, not only because of lack of patience and perseverance, but also because they missed the best time to "form habits" when they were young, and lacked the sense of achievement of forming good habits.

Xie Xinying's father, the winner of the Chongqing Science College Entrance Examination, said in an interview with reporters:

"It's important for children to develop a good habit from an early age. Habits are well cultivated, self-awareness is stronger, and it is easier as a parent. ”

Especially in elementary school, if there are too many small problems in learning, even the most intelligent children will often encounter difficulties.

Good learning habits, let the child enter the learning state faster;

Good living habits can make children's lives orderly;

Good social habits can make children more measured and popular in their interactions with people...

The future I want is to see a sense of security

When you are a child, "forcing" children to develop good habits is actually helping children live their lives more calmly.

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