"Lucky people are cured of childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives."
Today is
International Day of No Children
The babies of the "One Foundation Children's Service Station" have something to say
Poke the video below to listen
The epidemic is not over, many parents are probably going to be driven crazy by the "god beast" at home, right? Eating, tutoring homework, coaxing to sleep, washing clothes, busy work... After being burned and repeatedly arched, he often falls into the dead cycle of "provoking you to be angry and regret it".
But some parents may say:
"Don't beat the child and disobey it"
"I'm for the good of my children"
"What should I do if I don't hit?"
……
When educating children, many parents often "can't help but" choose the way of scolding and yelling. But in fact, to solve the child's problem, we must first solve the problem of the parents, and perhaps the latter is the more important link. The famous British philosopher and thinker John Locke proposed as early as 300 years ago: to respect children, to carefully love and cultivate children's sense of honor and self-esteem. He once asserted: "Slave discipline is also cultivated by slave temper." Locke believes that once a child understands the meaning of respect and humiliation, respect and humiliation are the most powerful stimulus for their psychology.
Change the way you raise
"Bear children" can also become well-behaved children
Teacher of One Foundation Children's Service Station Sichuan Leshan Station
Leshan Shancheng Volunteer Association, He Jie
Shared a small story of such a site
Xiaoming's father works outside the home for many years, and his mother has no job and usually raises children at home full-time. Because she hopes that her child will grow up to be ahead in the future, the mother has extremely high expectations for her child, hoping that he can get a good score every time he takes a test, and when the results are not ideal, he will not be able to help but do it. Whenever he felt that Xiaoming was disobedient, he was often "armed" to serve.
Since he was a child, he followed his mother to the local rented house to study primary school, his father rarely came back from working outside, Xiaoming always felt that he was less than others, and he often came and went alone in school, unwilling to contact and communicate with his classmates. Over time, Xiaoming's personality became more and more withdrawn. Xiaoming usually does not communicate much with his mother, and he is generally reluctant to tell his family what he thinks in his heart. Think your family is biased against you and feel like they won't support whatever they do.
In this way, on the first day of being pulled by her mother to the service station, because she did not want to go to the station, the mother and son staged an "earth-shattering" battle.
After the teachers at the service station learned about these situations, they were determined to help Xiaoming and his mother get out of their troubles. The teacher told Xiaoming's mother that she should correctly look at the child's test scores, and at the same time pay more attention to the way of communication with the child, because when the child's grades are not ideal, he cannot get enough support and encouragement from the family, but instead get more criticism, in the long run, it will cause the child's reluctance to communicate with the family and inferiority.
In order to help Xiaoming re-establish self-confidence, when he saw that Xiaoming did a good job, the teachers of the site often encouraged and praised, and also let Xiaoming serve as a "small cadre" at the site, so that he felt his own value. At the same time, he is also encouraged to take the initiative to communicate with friends, gradually improve his communication skills, and no longer adopt an evasive attitude.
Gradually, the teachers at the site were pleasantly surprised to find that Xiaoming and his mother were like changed personalities.
Xiaoming's mother volunteered to volunteer at the site, and everything rushed to the first place. Face the child calmer than before, and often encourage the child. When carrying out activities, children are also proud that their mothers can always participate together.
Xiaoming also deeply liked the service station, each time he came and left the latest, he was proactive in everything he did, and he never missed an event. Now he is confident and has a lot of friends. No longer as anxious and withdrawn as before.
Which children's education problems have you encountered? And how to deal with it? Welcome to leave a message for Yi Zai and share your experience with the Yi family.
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