The writer Bondarev once said: The root of all human suffering stems from the lack of a sense of boundary.
Because there is no sense of boundaries, there will be less restraint between relatives and become unscrupulous. Obviously, they are relatives and families, and after they get married and start a family, they should go back to their respective homes and find their own mothers.
But some people, however, lack a sense of boundaries, take your rejection as a default, and take your rejection as permission. As the writer Bi Shumin said: Rejection is a right, you are so good at talking, who can understand you?
The attitude of others towards you is hidden in your permission. If you don't allow it, maybe others won't take advantage of it. Therefore, when you don't like it, you should explicitly refuse, rather than vaguely delaying, so that you will tear your face in the end.
01, the mother's dowry room
It is said that persimmons are picky and soft pinches, because they are good bullies. This sentence has been deeply experienced after Xiao Min and her husband have been married for three years.
Xiao Mei and her husband's pre-marriage emotional foundation is not very solid, and the two people are introduced to each other by others. After only three months together, before officially entering the state of love, at the urging of his parents, he began to talk about marriage.
In desperation, Xiao Mei had to hurry up and marry her husband. After all, I was not young at that time, and if I delayed it any longer, I might really become an old leftover woman, and no one wanted it anymore.
However, the consequence of impulsive flash marriage is that your mother-in-law looks down on you and bullies you vigorously. Even though Xiao Mei's parents were distressed about their daughter and bought a dowry house for their daughter, they still did not change the fact that their mother-in-law was eccentric.
However, considering the attitude of her mother-in-law, Xiao Mei's parents still put the real estate certificate of the dowry house under their own names. At that time, her husband also made trouble with Xiao Mei, but Xiao Mei thought that her parents would not harm herself, and naturally she would not theorize with her parents.
02, the mother-in-law brought two grandchildren to live, and the brother-in-law also moved in
My husband has two brothers in the family, and he has an older brother. The eldest brother is already married and has two sons. Over the years, the brother-in-law has been renting a house in the provincial city to work, and the mother-in-law has followed them to help them take care of their two children.
Xiao Mei and her husband also worked in the provincial city, and after marriage, they lived in the three-bedroom and one-hall dowry room prepared by Xiao Mei's parents. Although after Xiao Mei became pregnant, her mother-in-law also came to visit her from time to time, but Xiao Mei was embarrassed to let her take care of her, after all, her mother-in-law's two grandsons were much more expensive than her upside-down daughter-in-law.
It was only after Xiao Mei and her husband settled down in the provincial city, especially after Xiao Min gave birth to a daughter, that her mother-in-law often brought her two nephews to play at home. At first, the mother-in-law and the two nephews just came to play during the day and went back after eating. But after a long time, the mother-in-law and her two nephews were there day and night, and even said with a straight face that the big house was spacious and comfortable, and the small rental house was very depressed.
So the mother-in-law and the two little nephews naturally lived. Immediately after that, the brother-in-law also came in with luggage, saying that where the children are, the parents should be where they are, and they cannot be separated.
As a result, Xiao Min's three-bedroom and one-room dowry room was filled with 5 adults and 3 small children. Xiao Min's own daughter is more well-behaved and obedient, but the two sons of the brother-in-law are very headaches.
03, daughter-in-law: rent 5000, two AA
Two children, one seven and one six, mischievous and mischievous every day, newly renovated house, they took paintbrushes on the walls every day, colorful and messy. The wallpaper was also torn, the curtains were wrapped around, and even Xiao Min's makeup was all painted.
When there was nothing to do at home, the two children also turned the plastic stools upside down and pushed back and forth on the floor, so that the neighbors upstairs and downstairs came to pat the door and complain. And the floor is also spent, the mother-in-law still does not think so, the child likes it, the floor is spent on it.
Even so, the brother-in-law did not stop them, and the mother-in-law connived at them. How mischievous they are, they will not say a word. It's just that the number of times is too much, and the mother-in-law will also scold the child loudly, listening to it is really a room that is noisy and noisy and very irritable.
Not to mention, after the mother-in-law and her brother-in-law's family of four moved in, the monthly living expenses rose sharply. Obviously, the mother-in-law and sister-in-law have average conditions, but they are extremely conniving and pampering for the two children, and they do not blink an eye about what they want to eat and buy, and how expensive they are. And this is bitter for Xiao Mei, because Xiao Mei is responsible for the family's living expenses, and her mother-in-law loves her grandson and responds to everything she wants, but Xiao Mei can't afford to raise her.
Originally, it was very tiring to take her daughter day and night, and as a result, the people in this room did not let her worry. The more Xiao Mei thought about it, the more irritable he became, and the whole person was about to be depressed. Xiao Mei persuaded her husband to send away her mother-in-law and her brother-in-law's family, but her husband did not agree, saying that they were all family, and it was really unbearable to drive people out, and he advised Xiao Mei to endure it again.
But Xiao Mei couldn't bear it, it didn't matter if she endured for a day or two, it was bare to endure for a month or two, but if she had to endure it for a long time, she was really going crazy. Xiao Mei directly told her mother-in-law and sister-in-law: The house is my parents' house, and I also rent my parents' house to live, the rent is 5000, and the two AA families.
Hearing that Xiao Mei actually wanted to collect rent, her mother-in-law immediately jumped out and said, they are all family, talking about money is too foreign, that is your brother and sister-in-law and nephew. Xiao Mei sneered, when he ate and drank, it was a family. When it comes time to contribute to the family's expenses, it is who pays for the house.
Xiao Mei did not theorize with her mother-in-law, but directly showed off with her husband, either the mother-in-law took her brother-in-law's family to leave her house, or her husband left the house and lived with his parents and family.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Xiao Mei in driving people away in this way?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!