The writer ShiYi once said: The root cause of disputes in multi-child families is not the love of brothers and sisters, but the injustice of parents.
In the hearts of parents, they always think that the palms of their hands and the backs of their hands are meat, not to mention that those with poor economic conditions are much harder and pitiful than children with better economic conditions. As a result, many parents will naturally begin to favor the child with bad conditions, and even rob the rich to help the poor.
In the face of parents' robbery of the rich and the poor, how should they refuse to be children? You blame your parents for being eccentric, but your parents rightly say that they can't do anything, and the palms of your hands and the backs of your hands are all meat.
So, in the end, the parents were right to rob the rich and the poor, and they were enjoyed by the favored brothers and sisters, but they silently carried all this.
01, parents favor the brother
If the only child in someone else's family goes to college and finds a satisfactory job in a big city, the parents will definitely smile and close their mouths, and treat this child as an ancestor.
But in Huang Wei's home, he did not get such treatment. On the contrary, because he is a young son, although his academic performance is good, his mouth is not sweet, he has been working outside for many years, and his feelings with his parents are not very deep.
And his brother, who is three years older than him, is tall and handsome, has a very sweet mouth, and is very good at coaxing his parents to be happy. Therefore, even if the brother has achieved nothing since he was a child, his parents prefer this eldest son and do not care much about Huang Wei's younger son.
Although Huang Wei was admitted to a foreign university with his own efforts, in the eyes of his parents, no matter how good his son was, he had to be in front of him to be filial piety. Therefore, the brother who dropped out of school early, after a few years of breaking into society, married his son and gave birth to a big fat grandson to his parents, which made his parents show off to others for a year.
After the parents, they are even more paid to help the brother-in-law raise the child. Even when Huang Wei got married and started a family, his parents just sent him away with a fluttering sentence of "the son grows up and should not nibble on the old".
02, the wife is pregnant and the sister-in-law rushes to conceive the second child, and the parents stay at the brother-in-law's house
Looking at his wife's aggrieved expression, Huang Wei felt very uncomfortable in his heart, but he couldn't force his parents. Because he did grow up, his parents were not obliged to help him buy a house and get married. In the end, it was the parents-in-law who contributed money to help buy a house and decorate, and Huang Wei and his wife got married smoothly.
Half a year after marriage, my wife successfully became pregnant. Huang Wei happily called his parents at the first time, hoping that his parents could come over and help take care of his wife. Because his wife is not in good health, various emergencies in the early stages of pregnancy, and he is busy at work, leaving early and returning late, unable to take care of his wife.
At first, the parents promised to come over to help, but who knows, after only a week, the parents repented, saying that the brother-in-law also planned to have a second child, and now they are preparing to get pregnant. Therefore, parents can't go over and help take care of their daughter-in-law, because the eldest grandson has no one to take care of.
Hearing that his sister-in-law was going to rush to conceive the second child and his parents were going to stay at his brother-in-law's house, Huang Wei was very unhappy in his heart. Sometimes, he even wants to ask his parents if he picked it up, not his own?
But as soon as such words are spoken, his parents will definitely accuse him of being ungrateful and white-eyed wolves. Huang Wei took a lot of effort to appease his wife, and then soaked softly and hard for a long time, which invited his parents-in-law to help. Later, the wife gave birth to confinement, and it was also the parents-in-law who contributed to it. Huang Wei's parents only came to the hospital to see his wife when she gave birth.
03, five years later, the mother fell ill but tacitly let the younger son pay
The inaction of his parents made his wife keep nagging, and also made Huang Wei unable to raise his head in front of his parents-in-law. Although his parents are not obliged, in contrast with the treatment of his brother-in-law, Huang Wei knows that he is the one who is ignored by his parents.
In order to make up for all this, Huang Wei is even more immersed in hard work, and he is also more filial to his parents-in-law, so as not to let his wife have more dissatisfaction. It's just that Huang Wei is trying his best to make up for the dissatisfaction brought about by his parents' inaction, but his parents still don't appreciate it, and even start to demand rewards.
Since Huang Wei worked, he has sent back 2,000 yuan of living expenses to his parents on time every month. Even after getting married and starting a family, Huang Wei changed the living expenses to 1500. Although his wife had many dissatisfactions and complaints, Huang Wei could not bear to cut off his parents' living expenses, even if he also knew these living expenses, his parents turned around and pasted them upside down to his brother-in-law.
I thought that my parents stayed in my brother-in-law's house and paid for the children to do housework, just like a paid nanny. In the old age of parents, there will be a fall, and the brother and sister-in-law will not ignore the parents' pension.
But who knows, the mother fell ill because of the two children with her brother-in-law, and the sister-in-law sent her mother to the hospital, and one phone call after another urged Huang Wei to bring 50,000 yuan to the hospital, saying that the mother was waiting for the medical expenses for surgery.
Thinking that every time his parents were sick, his brother and sister-in-law tacitly let him pay for it, and so did his parents, Huang Wei couldn't help but be congested. In order to pay for this matter, his wife quarreled with him countless times. But every time he took his parents as everyone's, he couldn't see death and not save his wife.
But he himself knew very well that the whole family, from his parents and brothers-in-law to his little nephew, thought that it was his business to pay for it. Whoever let him jump out of the farm and make a foothold in a big city, with better economic conditions, should support his parents even more. When it comes to supporting parents, there can be no half-point prevarication.
Huang Wei very much wanted to throw his hands away, but his brother and sister-in-law called one after another to urge, and finally Huang Wei took 25,000 to his parents, and told his parents that from today on, the parents' pension brothers were equally shared. After speaking, Huang Wei put down the money, turned around and left the hospital.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Huang Wei to throw up his hands regardless of his parents?
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