Of all relationships, husband and wife are the most important. Only by putting the relationship between husband and wife first, then the marriage will not have too many problems.
After all, husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken. As long as the husband and wife are in the same heart, no matter who will stir up dissension, the feelings of husband and wife will not be shaken, and the relationship between husband and wife will not be shaken.
If the husband and wife are not in harmony, even if the parents of both parties are reasonable, no matter how measured and boundary the relatives and friends are, the marriage will fall into collapse. Because the most important core of marriage is the husband and wife, not other extra-territorial relatives.
01, the younger son just moved to a new home, the mother-in-law brought her brother and sister-in-law's family of four to rub it
When the in-laws and sister-in-law brought their brother-in-law's family of four to rub it, Ding Wen did not know what words to use to describe her mother-in-law. Others are nibbling on their parents and nibbling on their brothers and sisters-in-law, but in Ding Wen's case, it is the opposite, parents nibbling on their younger sons, and brothers-in-law nibbling on their younger brothers.
My husband is the second eldest in the family, and his academic performance has been good since he was a child. But the husband is a wooden man, his mouth is not sweet, and he will not please his parents like his brother. Therefore, from childhood to adulthood, the husband's brother is the pistachio of the family and the mother-in-law's favorite, and the husband's little son is just a head.
The brother-in-law got married early and had children, and the wedding dowry in the wedding room was all in-laws. Even if the sister-in-law gives birth to a child and confinement, it is also the mother-in-law who does it. Later, the mother-in-law even took over all the expenses of the two grandchildren. Nothing is missing.
Only when the younger son got married, the mother-in-law sent off with a sentence of "no money". The couple had no choice but to rent a house and get married. If it were not for Ding Wen's parents who were distressed about their daughter and helped with a down payment of 200,000 yuan, perhaps the couple would still be renting a house until now.
But Ding Wen did not expect that her parents paid for the new house that did not live for a day, but the mother-in-law made up her own mind, taking her brother-in-law's family of four to rub it, saying that the family lived together and lived together, so as to take care of each other.
02. The mother-in-law asked the daughter-in-law to serve the 6 members of the in-laws' family
Everyone arrived at the door, and no matter how impatient Ding Wen was, she had no choice but to accept the big family of the in-laws. Ding Wen thought that her mother-in-law had only come to stay for a few days to make the new house lively.
But obviously, the mother-in-law did not think so, the day after they moved in, the mother-in-law began to make rules for Ding Wen, requiring her to cook and do housework every day to serve the in-laws of 6 people. She said that she was old, the housework could not be done, and the sister-in-law had to take the child, and she was also lacking in skills, but Ding Wen was young and childless, and could afford the family's meals.
Ding Wen looked at her husband, her cooking husband has always been very clear, from childhood to adulthood she has never cooked. Later, after living and marrying her husband, her husband cooked and cooked, and Ding Wen helped to lay hands on the side.
But the mother-in-law obviously refused, saying that if her son married his daughter-in-law, it should be the daughter-in-law to serve the in-laws' family, not her own son. Ding Wen had no choice but to cook hard. But when she wanted to come and go, she would only make noodles.
So, under Ding Wen's operation, she cooked a large pot of noodles every day, accompanied by some green vegetables and eggs. On the first day, the in-laws reluctantly accepted. But the next day, the third day, Ding Wen still did this, which made her mother-in-law angry.
03. After the daughter-in-law made noodles for 3 days, the in-laws fled into the wilderness
Ding Wen also felt very innocent, she had long stated that she would not cook meals, but her mother-in-law was determined to make rules for her, and she couldn't do it. But now that she has made noodles with a gray face, her in-laws are disgusted one by one.
The mother-in-law directly and unceremoniously scolded her husband, saying that everyone else is marrying a wife and a virtuous wife, but you see, what kind of daughter-in-law have you married yourself? Although Ding Wen did not look up to her husband's Mu Ne, she also did not want her husband to be beaten in the face by her mother-in-law.
She unceremoniously threw out the real estate certificate and told her mother-in-law that this house was bought by my parents with a down payment of 200,000 yuan, how much money did you pay, and what qualifications did you have to shout at my house? You don't like to eat noodles, I don't like to serve, where do you come from, get back to where you are, otherwise I will call the police and drive people away.
The mother-in-law did not eat Ding Wen's set, thinking that she was just thunder and rain, scaring people. Ding Wen was also not polite, and directly called her parents. Watching the mother-in-law who took out the payment voucher and wanted to die and struggle, she suddenly had nothing to say.
This time, without waiting for Ding Wen to drive people away, the mother-in-law took this big family of people and fled into the wilderness. And the husband is still silent and does not speak, seeing the appearance of her husband, Ding Wen is sometimes particularly angry.
But after getting angry, I was helpless. No wonder the husband is always bullied by his in-laws and sisters-in-law, on his personality, it is not easy to say that it is calm and not much to say, but it is difficult to say that it is foolish and filial piety.
Today's Topic:
In the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how do you think men should deal with it?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!