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"Chinese family affinity", 56 ethnic groups are all family, there should be no regional discrimination and exclusion. But in some places, there are always people who have a sense of local superiority, discriminate against and exclude outsiders, which is very undeserved.
When looking for a partner, some people will also have a repulsive mentality toward outsiders, as if outsiders are inferior. This kind of person is actually sitting in the well, blindly arrogant and prejudiced, when you meet this kind of person, stay away from them, don't use hot faces to paste their cold ass.
"Thousands of miles of marriage are tied together", looking for an object is to talk about fate, there are thousands of miles to meet, no reason to meet each other. If a man and a woman are in love and other conditions are good, then parents should not interfere too much. Don't beat a man and a woman in love with a mandarin duck because they are locals or foreigners.
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The girl went to her boyfriend's house for the first time, and the mother-in-law thought that she was a foreigner and did not agree to the marriage. The girl has strong self-esteem and took the initiative to break up with her boyfriend, who is sad. Three years later, the mother-in-law asked a friend to help her unemployed son find a job, and found that the girl was the department manager and had been married, and the mother-in-law regretted it.
This is what happened to Zhang Zihan, who is the girl from out of town. She worked hard after falling out of love, and later did a good job and gained a new love. After the ex-boyfriend lost love, he was in a bad mood and later lost his job. Let's listen to Zhang Zihan's experience.
Self-narrator: Zhang Zihan
Age: 32 years old
Occupation: Department Manager
City: Three Rivers
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I entered the city through the university entrance examination, my hometown is in the countryside in the north, and my parents are authentic farmers. I also have my brother, who, after working in the city, met his sister-in-law, who also came from the countryside to work, and later the two of them got married.
My brothers and sisters-in-law have no culture, so they can only do some hard work in the city, and all they earn is hard money. My parents had lived in the countryside all their lives and had little insight. But after my brother-in-law saw life in the city, she thought that it was necessary to read, and like our family, reading was the only way to change her destiny.
My brother-in-law persuaded my parents that they must provide me with education, and I was the only hope in the family. My academic performance has always been very good, my parents listened to my brother-in-law's words, they were very supportive of my study, and my brother-in-law has always helped me.
When I volunteered after the college entrance examination, I filled in the university in the city where my brother-in-law worked, and later I was admitted as I wished. After I went to college, because I was in the same city as my brother and sister-in-law, they took good care of me, and I was not lonely at all. After graduating from college, I stayed in the city and got a job in a big company.
At work, I met my boyfriend, who came to our company to talk about business, and we both fell in love at first sight. My boyfriend's family is local, the conditions at home are average, but compared to our family, it is naturally much better, and my brother and sister-in-law are also very satisfied with him.
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After most of the year, my boyfriend took me back to meet her parents. At first, his parents were very enthusiastic about me, but later after learning about the situation in my family, the face of the mother-in-law was not good-looking. At that time, I thought that I was not doing well, and my mother-in-law was not satisfied with me, and later I learned that she thought I was a foreigner.
My boyfriend insisted on staying with me, and he fell out with his parents. The mother-to-be came to our company and scolded me in front of many colleagues, saying that I had seduced her son in order to stay in the city.
I was scolded so much that my colleagues talked about me, some people said that I climbed high branches; some people laughed at me, saying that my in-laws did not like me at all, and that I was a slut. My boyfriend told me not to care about this, as long as the two of us insisted on being together, his parents couldn't do anything with him.
I've always been a person with strong self-esteem, and when I was with my boyfriend, I never thought about climbing him, let alone using him to stay in the city. My brother-in-law also advised me that if my in-laws strongly opposed this family affair, then I would not have a good life after I married.
So I insisted on breaking up with my boyfriend, who cried very sadly and held me hard. But I still insisted on breaking up, I think the long pain is not as good as the short pain, he will always find a better girl than me.
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After the breakup, in order to forget the pain of lost love, I spent all my energy on work. I worked hard to achieve something, and I didn't want to be looked down upon by others. After three years of desperate efforts, I became the manager of the department, and my salary rose again and again, and my colleagues admired me.
One day my sister-in-law told me that a relative of one of her friends' parents wanted their son to work in our company, but our company's recruitment requirements were very high, and they wanted to open the back door. My friend said that my sister-in-law was the department manager of the company, and they wanted to ask me for help.
Because my friend repeatedly begged her because of her relatives, she could only ask my sister-in-law about my situation and bring the mother to me. When I met the mother, we were stunned by each other, and it turned out that she was the mother-to-be I used to be. Three years ago, my mother-in-law looked down on me, but now she has come to ask me to do things, how ironic!
I learned that my ex-boyfriend and I broke up and collapsed, because he was sad and sad, he didn't work well, so he was fired from the unit. Later, he has been depressed and in a lost love, so that he has found several jobs, but he has not worked long.
Emotionally, the ex-boyfriend refused to fall in love again, and the mother-to-be arranged many blind dates for him, but he did not even look at it. When the mother-in-law forced him to go, he sought death and sought life, and resolutely refused to go. So until now, the ex-boyfriend has been alone and has had a very unsatisfactory life.
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Hearing about my ex-boyfriend's situation, my heart was heavy, I didn't know he would be like this. The mother-to-be cheekily begged me to reunite with my ex-boyfriend. But I said, I am already married, the other day my husband and I went to get a marriage license, and then we are going to have a wedding, and the invitations have been sent out.
The mother-in-law immediately cried, crying and begging me to forgive her. But I thought, now that I didn't forgive her, what's the point? I can't go back, legally I'm married, my husband and in-laws are very good to me, and they don't look down on me in the slightest because I'm an outsider.
Later, the ex-boyfriend did not come to work in our company, not because I did not help him, but because he was not professionally correct. Besides, coming to work in our company was his parents' idea, not his idea.
After my wedding, my sister-in-law told me that she heard from the friend that her ex-boyfriend had gone out of town to develop and that he wanted to live in a different environment. His parents have a son, and they are very reluctant to let their son go to other places, but they can't do it.
I didn't say anything, and secretly blessed my ex-boyfriend in my heart, hoping that he could meet new love in the field. In fact, if it weren't for the mother-to-be's opposition to us, I would have been very happy if I married him.
epilogue:
When faced with a marriage event, it does not matter where the person is, it does not matter what the family conditions are, what is important is that two people love each other and have good character. To find a partner, you must put your character first, and only by marrying someone with good character can you be happy.
Zhang Zihan is a foreigner, the family conditions are not very good, and the mother-in-law who has a sense of local superiority is very repulsive to her and resolutely does not agree to her son being with her. But three years later, Zhang Zihan gained a career and marriage, and lived a very happy life. The ex-boyfriend, on the other hand, had a terrible life, not only lost love, but also lost his job.
The relationship between Zhang Zihan and her ex-boyfriend fell ill in the ex-boyfriend's heart, so that he could not get out of the lost love for a long time. Therefore, when parents face their children's marriage events, they must not be arbitrary, do not impose their own preferences on their children, and respect their children's wishes.
Some people will soon regain their strength and start a new life after falling out of love; but some people will fall ill, will be depressed, and no longer believe in love. Parents should not easily break up the men and women who love each other, as long as it is not a big problem of principle, other conditions are not a big deal.
As long as the child feels happy, the parents' ideas are not important, and what is the difference between foreigners and locals? What age is it now, there should be no more such regional discrimination, and love should be respected.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.