If a woman can have a choice, perhaps no one is willing to be a brother demon, and paste the salary upside down to the small family to complete the mother's family.
It is said that after a woman gets married, she has no home. Because the in-laws could not be integrated, the mother's family could not go back. No matter how much a woman once promised to be happy under the knees of her parents, once married, the woman became an outsider and a guest, and she was no longer the daughter who could play with her parents at any time.
Therefore, many women for the sake of their parents, in order to be able to return to their mother's home, most of the time will be aggrieved themselves, pay to subsidize the mother's family. However, some mothers have never thought about you.
01, before marriage foolish filial piety, after marriage to support the brother demon
Luo Ting has two brothers and sisters in her family, and her brother is three years older than her. When she was a child, her family conditions were not very good, Luo Ting graduated from high school, and she could not continue to study in college, so she went out to work and earn money. The money earned was fully subsidized by the family for his brother to study until he graduated from college.
Luo Ting is a filial and sensible daughter, although she is also dissatisfied with her parents repeatedly asking her for money to subsidize her brother, but every time her parents cry and make a fuss, Luo Ting is soft and compromised.
My brother got married two years after graduating from college. In order to let her brother marry back to her daughter-in-law in the city smoothly, her parents asked Luo Ting to take out all her savings and buy a house for her brother. My sister-in-law is very beautiful, she is my brother's college classmate, she can speak, she is very enthusiastic about everyone, and she is very pleasing to her parents.
Later, the brother-in-law gave birth to a nephew and wanted to buy a car, saying that it was convenient for the family to travel. The parents could not come up with much money, and begged their daughters for help, saying that the brother-in-law was under great financial pressure, and there were old and young. Luo Ting's savings had long been looted by her parents, and in desperation, Luo Ting had to borrow 30,000 yuan from her friends to cope with her parents.
In this way, parents and brothers-in-law still dislike 30,000 yuan is too little, should give 50,000. Luo Ting was a little cold, and after that, Luo Ting left a heart eye. But whenever her parents ask for money, she will either not give it or only give half of it, and she will never give all her savings without reservation as before, and her parents will give as much as they want.
02. The salary card is handed over to the mother-in-law
Under the mediation of people with hearts, Luo Ting met her husband. The husband looks average, but he is kind and honest, and he is also very good to Luo Ting. The two men were dating for a year and then they got married. It's just that the mother-in-law does not want to see her, thinking that she is not highly educated, the family conditions are average, and she is not worthy of her husband.
Although the mother-in-law tried everything to block it, but the husband did not marry her, the two people eventually came together. After getting married, the mother-in-law very strongly asked Luo Ting to hand over the salary card to her for safekeeping, saying that she would save money for her son and daughter-in-law to buy a house in the provincial city.
Luo Ting was very unhappy in her heart, and her salary before marriage was all taken away by her parents; now that she was married, her salary card was taken away by her mother-in-law. But her husband advised her to be patient, hindering her husband's face, and Luo Ting could only reluctantly give her salary card to her mother-in-law.
Later, the nephew wanted to go to kindergarten, and the sister-in-law was pregnant with a second child, and the sister-in-law deliberately cried poor in front of her parents. Mom and Dad couldn't see it, but they didn't have any money themselves, so they asked Luo Ting for 5,000 yuan. Luo Ting had no choice but to ask her mother-in-law for her pay card.
But the mother-in-law not only did not give, but also in turn accused Luo Ting of putting her own small family first after marriage, rather than always thinking of subsidizing her mother's family and acting as a mother's ATM.
Luo Ting truthfully told her parents what her mother-in-law said, her parents did not say anything, but her sister-in-law's face changed, and after that, her attitude towards Luo Ting was lukewarm and lukewarm, without a smile.
03, the mother's family robbed the rich to help the poor
After the sister-in-law gave birth to her second child, she shouted that the economic pressure of raising two children at the same time was too great, and the mortgage could not be repaid, and a handful of snot and a handful of tears complained to her parents. The parents were distressed again, and turned around and asked Luo Ting for money. Except for a few hundred yuan of living expenses, There was no extra money at all.
The sister-in-law knew that Luo Ting had no money for her parents, so she advised Luo Ting in a serious tone, saying that she was too stupid, and who daughter-in-law gave the salary card to her mother-in-law for safekeeping? It must be that the in-laws joined forces to deceive her, so that she could live a miserable life, and it was better to get back the salary card herself, and only when she was economically independent could she have an independent status.
Luo Ting was persuaded by her sister-in-law to be moved, and directly spread out to tell her mother-in-law that she wanted to get her salary card back. But the mother-in-law said that she would not return the salary card at all, and only gave a few hundred pocket money every month. Every time her parents asked her for money for various reasons, Luo Ting couldn't give it, and she also felt very embarrassed and unfilial.
Seeing that she has not been able to get money, her sister-in-law is a little anxious, and she encourages: The money you earn yourself will be managed to death by your mother-in-law, there is no freedom and rights at all, it is better to divorce as soon as possible, such a mother-in-law is too good at calculating people. She also said that after the divorce, she helped me introduce a better and more educated person.
Luo Ting does not want to divorce, her relationship with her husband is very good, but the salary card has been dragged by the mother-in-law in the palm of her hand, which makes her very uncomfortable. In order to get her salary card back, Luo Ting did not hesitate to file for divorce. Seeing that Luo Ting and her son divorced, the mother-in-law compromised and returned the salary card.
04, the sister-in-law instigated the sister-in-law to divorce and subsidize the mother's family
When she handed the card over, her mother-in-law also said that the card contained Luo Ting's salary for 3 years, and she did not spend a penny. In addition, her own pension was also deposited, she helped me with the salary card, just wanted to help save money, let them buy a house as soon as possible, and was afraid that Luo Ting would spend money indiscriminately and be robbed by her mother's family to help the poor.
The mother-in-law also said in a serious voice, you are a filial daughter, but your heart is too soft, your parents cry in front of you, you will take out the bottom of the family. I have no problem with subsidizing your parents and sisters-in-law before marriage, but you are married, have your own small family, and subsidize your brothers and sisters-in-law as before, they have hands and feet, the culture is higher than you, the salary is higher than you, why do you have to squeeze you?
When her mother-in-law said this, Luo Ting was sober a lot. But when she really went to check the balance, she saw that there were 200,000 in the card, and she felt even more guilty. In the past five years, even if she does not eat or drink, she can only save up to 40,000 yuan a year. There are 200,000 in the car, and there must be a mother-in-law's pension.
The more Luo Ting thought about it, the more guilty she felt, and her sister-in-law also called and asked her if she was divorced. Thinking that her sister-in-law was still worried about her salary card, Luo Ting was angry and went directly back to her mother's house and slapped her sister-in-law.
Luo Ting knew that her sister-in-law did not like her mother-in-law, because her mother-in-law took her salary card, and she could not subsidize her parents and brother-in-law as she did before. The mother-in-law took Luo Ting's salary card, and the sister-in-law was even angrier than her, and even hoped that she would divorce her as soon as possible so that all the money could be spent on her mother's family.
Luo Ting couldn't understand why her sister-in-law had so many eyes and bad ideas, just because her little sister-in-law did not take money to subsidize her mother's family, and her sister-in-law encouraged her to divorce.
Today's Topic:
Do you think it is reasonable for Luo Ting's mother-in-law to take her daughter-in-law's salary card?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!
!["I have a daughter, I don't need you to retire, and I don't take care of your confinement," my mother-in-law regretted being cruel in her later years[fig]](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAP///wAAACwAAAAAAQABAAACAkQBADs=)