The so-called mother-in-law relationship is originally a by-product of marriage, so how is it possible for two mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law, who have only interests and no direct relationship, to coexist peacefully in a family for a long time, and to reach a point of water and milk?
Because it is impossible, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become so tricky, and it is also a hurdle that husband and wife cannot avoid.
In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not so complicated, it is nothing more than a sincere exchange for sincerity. But if the mother-in-law or daughter-in-law is willing to spend more time for the other party, then naturally there will be no mother-in-law relationship.
01, the mother-in-law who went to her daughter's house to take the child for 8 years finally regretted it
Luo Ting thinks that she has a cheerful personality and treats people sincerely, and no matter how cold her mother-in-law is, she will be touched by her filial piety and sincerity.
However, Luo Ting forgot that some filial piety is not that you give gifts, and if you say something nice on your mouth, others will recognize your efforts.
Because Luo Ting's family is not as good as her husband's family, so for a long time after marriage, her mother-in-law did not want to see her. Even during the New Year's Festival, the mother-in-law unabashedly expressed her dissatisfaction with her daughter-in-law with her daughter-in-law.
In this regard, although Luo Ting does not think that it is her fault, it is difficult for her to gain a foothold in her in-laws' house. In particular, the sister who is married is also a sexual child with her mother-in-law. I don't have much ability, but I can't see others well.
In the early days of Luo Ting's pregnancy, the mother-in-law was invited to the house by her son and asked her to help take care of Luo Ting, who had severe morning sickness. However, the mother-in-law only stayed at Luo Ting's house for two months, and slipped away on the grounds that her sister asked her to help with the child.
And the mother-in-law went to her sister's house to take the child, so she went for 8 years. During the period, Luo Ting gave birth to a child and sat in confinement, and the mother-in-law just came to the hospital to visit for a while and left. Before leaving, Luo Ting asked her mother-in-law very reluctantly, are you not worried about your future pension problems if you don't care about it?
As a result, the mother-in-law said with a straight face: "I have a daughter, I don't need you to retire, and I won't take care of your confinement." The mother-in-law's words were absolutely clear, and in the end, Luo Ting could not invite her mother's parents to take care of the confinement, which slowly survived the most arduous first three years.
02, the mother-in-law stood idly by for her daughter-in-law and granddaughter
After that, even if Luo Ting and her husband called her mother-in-law for help many times, the mother-in-law was indifferent, saying that she wanted to take her grandson, whose daughter was raised, and her mother-in-law was not obliged to help her daughter-in-law with her children.
Luo Ting had no choice but to resign to take the child at home, until the child went to kindergarten, she had the time and freedom to find a new job. At that time, Luo Ting, no matter how bitter and tired and busy, did not bow her head to her mother-in-law again.
And the mother-in-law was naturally at ease without asking anything about her granddaughter, even the child was a few years old, and the mother-in-law did not send a single piece of clothing and bring it for a day.
Luo Ting felt sad for herself and her daughter, but her husband advised her to want to open up, saying that all the parents in the world, his parents raised him, he had fulfilled his obligations, and they naturally could not chew on the old age.
However, the mother-in-law had no obligation to her and no kindness, but when the mother-in-law fell ill with the child at her sister's house, Luo Ting, the daughter-in-law, was asked to resign and go to the hospital to take care of the mother-in-law.
03, after falling ill in his old age, his mother-in-law regretted letting go of the harsh words
Not only my sister said this, but even my husband said the same. With the support of her own brother, her sister also said that it is the obligation and responsibility of her son and daughter-in-law to give her parents a pension and send them to the end. She is a daughter who is married, and she can only do her best.
After my sister said these words, she left 5,000 yuan, which has rarely appeared since then. Every time the husband calls, the sister is not busy at work, or to take care of the elderly and children, as for the parents, please give it to the younger brothers and sisters.
Although the husband is angry, he is also helpless, after all, he has also grown up under the intimidation of his sister for a long time, and he also has a natural timidity towards his sister. But the aunt did not come to take care of it, the husband was busy at work, and the task of taking care of the mother-in-law naturally fell on Luo Ting's head.
At first, Luo Ting took a leave of absence to take care of her for a week, but she could barely accept it. But just when she was ready to take a leave of absence to go to work, her mother-in-law informed her and asked Luo Ting to resign to take care of her, saying that Luo Ting had a salary of several thousand yuan a month, and she did not eat enough to starve and did not die, or did she have to rely on her son to support her?
For her mother-in-law's cool words, Luo Ting had long been mentally prepared. But now looking at the mother-in-law who still relies on her own care, she still does not change, Luo Ting is very decisive to pack up her things and go directly back to her home, no matter how her husband persuades her, she refuses to go to the hospital again.
Because there was no one to take care of him, my husband had to spend 500 yuan a day to hire a nurse. After only a week of invitation, the husband was a little overwhelmed, and he hurriedly urged his mother-in-law to bow her head and apologize to Luo Ting.
Looking at his most filial daughter, he has not even answered the phone recently, and his son has complained all day, and his mother-in-law has suddenly burst into tears. She planned very early, to help her daughter and son-in-law with children, and then to follow her daughter and son-in-law to retire, along with her own pension, she also took the initiative to hand over to her daughter early.
But now it seems that those pensions may have long been meat buns beating dogs, and there is no return. The mother-in-law immediately regretted that she had let go of the harsh words when her daughter-in-law was confined.
Nowadays, Luo Ting does not resign, her son is busy at work, and her daughter avoids seeing her, although she has both children and daughters, she is not as good as the next bed, and although her family situation is not as good as herself, her children take turns to take care of them. It's just that it's all too late now.
Many mothers-in-law will say that when they are young and strong, which child they want to help take care of their children is also their freedom and right, and the daughter-in-law is not qualified to accuse and complain.
However, when she really got old and sick, her mother-in-law began to morally kidnap her daughter-in-law, believing that it was the daughter-in-law's duty to serve her mother-in-law.
As everyone knows, some kindness is not only used when you need it. Mother-in-law, mother-in-law, the key is the first ten years. The mother-in-law is willing to help the daughter-in-law to raise a child, and the daughter-in-law is naturally willing to help the mother-in-law to provide for the elderly, on the contrary, everything is just empty talk.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Luo Ting should give up her job and serve her mother-in-law who was talking harshly?
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