The daughter-in-law is worried that the mother-in-law does not take good care of the child, and sends the mother-in-law away to welcome the mother, husband: you are confused

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In a married life, in addition to the mutual understanding and tolerance between husband and wife, whether the family members get along well or not will also affect the feelings between the husband and wife to a certain extent, and among all the family members, the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most helpless and heart-wrenching.

Two women who originally had no intersection, because of the presence of a man, became a family.

However, the life that has not intersected for many years has led to great differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in terms of living habits and temper, which has spawned many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

01 Married for many years, he has always distrusted his mother-in-law

For Xiaofang, even if she and her husband have been married for many years and called her mother-in-law "mom" for several years, in Xiaofang's heart, the feelings for her mother-in-law are not only a little strange, but also a little distrustful.

In the final analysis, all this is because when she got married, her mother-in-law's behavior made Xiaofang feel very uncomfortable.

In fact, marriage is a game between the two families, and both families are constantly giving in and exploring, slowly finding the balance between the two families.

When Xiaofang and her husband got married, Xiaofang's parents took the lead in requesting a bride price, but the mother-in-law did not reply until a long time later, when the mother-in-law said her difficulties.

At that time, Xiaofang was very clear in her heart, her husband's family not only had to prepare a house, a car, but also a banquet for this marriage, and the economic pressure was self-evident, Xiaofang had already consulted with her parents before this, and the reason why she proposed the bride price was only to test the attitude of the in-laws, but the mother-in-law has been vain and snake, and this way of handling things and attitudes has made the Xiaofang family chill.

But fortunately, Xiaofang is also for the husband of this person, this marriage is finally held as scheduled.

However, it is precisely because of this pre-marriage event that even if Xiaofang's impression of her mother-in-law after marriage has greatly declined, even if after marriage, everything her mother-in-law does is for her son and daughter-in-law, she still cannot change Xiaofang's view of her mother-in-law.

To this end, the husband also did a lot of Xiaofang's ideological work, but in the face of the persuasion of the pillow person, Xiaofang always insisted on his own views, and her husband could only sigh helplessly and had no other way.

02 The mother-in-law has helped take care of the children for many years, and the wife is worried about not taking good care

Xiaofang and her husband are ready to have children before marriage, but in the future, who will take care of the children has become the primary problem, after all, after having children, family pressure will increase a lot, if only the husband's income, it is difficult to maintain the normal operation of the family, therefore, Xiaofang also has to go out to find a job to subsidize the family.

At this time, the mother-in-law volunteered to take care of the child to herself, when Xiaofang had planned to let her mother's parents take care of her children, but at that time, her parents were preparing for her brother's marriage, and there was no time to take care of Xiaofang's life.

In this way, the mother-in-law has been taking on the heavy responsibility of taking care of the child since the birth of the child.

But even if the mother-in-law pays so much, in Xiaofang's heart, she still can't recognize her mother-in-law for a long time.

Xiaofang goes out to work during the day, and returns home at night, in order to accompany the child for a period of time, on weekends, Xiaofang will not give the child to the care of her mother-in-law, even if she is busy, or there is a possibility, Xiaofang will take the child with her.

Xiaofang once told her husband about the reason why she did this, usually busy at work, there is no way but to hand over the child to the mother-in-law to take care of, but in her own heart, she always has little trust in the mother-in-law, worried that she will not take good care of the child.

In this regard, her husband has comforted Xiaofang many times: she is the grandmother of the child, how can she not take good care of it?

But Xiaofang did not agree with her husband's statement.

03 Let the mother-in-law go back to her hometown, take care of her mother, husband: you are confused

Because Xiaofang has always been worried that her mother-in-law will not take good care of the child, so when her mother is free, she will take her to the house and let her help take care of the child for a period of time, while as for the mother-in-law, Xiaofang let her go back to her hometown to rest for a while.

For the daughter-in-law's behavior, as a mother-in-law, how can she not understand her true intentions. But the mother-in-law did not say anything more, simply cleaned up and returned to her hometown.

After her husband returned home from work to understand the situation, he was very angry and said to Xiaofang: You are confused.

Xiaofang did not think much of this, after all, in Xiaofang's heart, her mother must be more careful than her mother-in-law.

However, xiaofang ignored that because she had more brothers and sisters, her mother naturally could not put all her thoughts on The Xiaofang family, and when Xiaofang's sister-in-law became pregnant, her mother returned home.

And during this time, the child has been crying and looking for grandma, no matter how Xiaofang coaxes on the side, it is useless.

Until this time, Xiaofang understood that even if her mother was careful, she would not always be able to help herself take care of the child, and the mother-in-law had been staying by her side with herself and the child over the years, shouldering the burden of taking care of the child, and had not left for a moment, coupled with the child's performance at this time, the child and the grandmother had established a deep emotional connection.

Until this time, Xiaofang woke up, when she was so naïve, always holding on to a little delay, over the years, the mother-in-law's efforts themselves also looked in the eyes, thinking of this, Xiaofang and her mother-in-law made a phone call, and then explained their apologies, and the mother-in-law smiled openly, comforting: Daughter-in-law, how can I be angry with you, it's okay, we are a family.

In this regard, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law completely released the previous suspicion.

Conclusion: Only after experiencing it will you understand that there are so many insoluble contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, after all, as a family, its essence is also for each other's sake, perhaps just using the wrong method. Only when the feelings between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are harmonious will it affect the relationship between the husband and wife, so that the feelings between the husband and wife will also be raised to a higher level, and the whole extended family will be happier.

Of course, as a daughter-in-law, you should also understand the difficulties of your mother-in-law, and as a mother-in-law, you must also have a tolerant and understanding attitude towards your daughter-in-law.