"Our mother talks like this, her heart is not bad, you can't bear it"

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When you have a conflict with your mother-in-law and have an argument, who will your husband help?

When your mother-in-law is always trying to make things difficult for no reason, will your husband help you speak?

When love meets affection, what kind of choice will your husband make?

I think this may also be the question that many women are facing, or want to know the answer to.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a problem that plagues many women, and there are too many couples who have brought the marriage to the end because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

But you know, in the mother-in-law relationship, men actually play a big role, if the man's attitude is clear, the mother-in-law relationship is mostly not too bad.

The most frightening thing is that there is nothing between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and the men help in it, not only did not ease the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, but became more tense.

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Some men really do the word "foolish filial piety" to the extreme, only the orders of their parents are obeyed, but they never care whether what their parents say or do is right or wrong, which perfectly interprets the word "ma bao man".

Marrying such a man is the most wrong decision in a woman's life, which is the lesson that Xu Fei exchanged for tears and pain in marriage.

After Xu Fei and her husband Zhang Qiao'an got married, she learned that her mother-in-law was originally such an unconscious person, which was very unpleasant.

Although Xu Fei did not live with her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law had to come to live at home for two days almost every weekend, which sounded grandiose, saying that it was for the good of the little two and wanted to help them, but in fact, for Xu Fei, every time her mother-in-law came, it was a disaster for her.

Xu Fei is very busy and tired at work, usually working overtime almost every day, she can only take advantage of the weekend to sleep for a while.

However, as long as the mother-in-law came, it was only after six o'clock in the morning that she would inevitably pull Xu Fei up to do housework, and if Xu Fei did not want to get up, she would scold her with all kinds of ugly words, saying that she was good at eating and lazy, saying that she had no tutor and was not filial to the elderly.

As long as the mother-in-law is there, Xu Fei is like a maid at home, bringing her tea and water, and taking care of all the housework, while the husband only needs to lie on the bed and comfortably wait for the waiter.

If Xu Fei argues and says why her husband doesn't have to work, her mother-in-law will immediately say that she is vicious, saying that her son works so hard, how can he still let him do so much work.

However, Xu Fei is also working very hard every day, the family mortgage, daily expenses, she also paid half of it, is she not tired?

Xu Fei understood that in the eyes of her mother-in-law, she had no status to speak of, that is, their family's free nanny.

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There are many times, in the face of the mother-in-law's difficulties, Xu Fei thinks, simply tear up the face like this, since the mother-in-law is so unreasonable, there is no need to be wronged.

However, from a young age, Xu Fei was taught by the family to be polite and should not clash with the elders, and before getting married, her parents also warned Xu Fei that if she could endure, she would be patient and think about everything for her husband.

Therefore, even if the mother-in-law is no matter how difficult it is, Xu Fei wants to endure it. However, the more she endured, the more her mother-in-law became more and more intense, and it simply became a nightmare that Xu Fei could not escape.

Once, Xu Fei also pinned her hopes on her husband, at the wedding, Zhang Qiao'an swore to Xu Fei's parents that she would definitely give her happiness and not let her suffer a little grievance.

But the original oath was still in his ears, but Zhang Qiao'an had long forgotten the promise at that time. Every time, xu fei complained to him, hoping that she could help talk about her mother-in-law, Zhang Qiao'an was always saying, "My mother is old, you bear with it."

More times, Xu Fei no longer confided in him, but a person silently endured all this, and when she could no longer bear it, Xu Fei said that she would definitely leave immediately.

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That time, the mother-in-law came to the house again, and as soon as she came, she instructed Xu Fei to do this and that, and then asked Xu Fei to bring her a cup of water to send over, and as a result, she scolded her after taking a sip, saying that Xu Fei was not educated, saying that her parents would not teach her daughter, so hot water let her drink, must be deliberately trying to burn her.

Saying that she also put up with it, the mother-in-law also scolded her parents, when Xu Fei quarreled with her mother-in-law, and then rushed into the bedroom and asked Zhang Qiao'an for advice.

As a result, Zhang Qiao'an just said: "My mother talks like this, his heart is not bad, you can't bear it." ”

Yes, in the son's heart, the mother hurt him a lot, how can there be any mistakes?

Every time is like this, every time in the face of the mother-in-law's difficulties, Zhang Qiao'an is this attitude, saying more and still feel that it is Xu Fei's small belly chicken intestines, can not tolerate the mother-in-law, and finally everything has become Xu Fei's fault.

Such a marriage and life, Xu Fei can no longer bear it, the long-suppressed disappointment and anger, completely accumulated to the peak, Xu Fei directly dropped a sentence of "divorce", and then walked out of this family.

Xu is because Zhang Qiao'an did not expect that this is a very ordinary thing, how to make trouble to the point of divorce. Therefore, at the beginning, he also turned a blind eye to Xu Fei's departure, and even called Xu Fei's parents to complain, saying that she had nothing to do, because she and her mother-in-law had two words to divorce.

But what he didn't know was that this quarrel was the last straw that crushed Xu Fei, and she would never return to such a family again, nor would she ever wronged herself again.

Xu Fei's attitude is resolute, Zhang Qiao'an does not want to divorce, but because of her mother's few words, she finally went through divorce procedures with Xu Fei.

After the divorce, Zhang Qiao'an, who became an ex-husband, sent several messages to Xu Fei, saying that he blamed Xu Fei wrongly, and he now knows that he helped the wrong person, and his mother was too bad for her.

But what's the use of apologizing? Xu Fei was already extremely disappointed in that family, even disgusted, avoiding it, how could she turn back?

Therefore, women, before getting married, we must think more clearly, observe more, do not marry the wrong person, so that marriage has become a torture.

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Women should understand that what kind of choice they made in the first place means what kind of marriage and life you have to endure.

A reasonable, unbiased, sensible man is the superior candidate for marriage, if you choose a weak, only listen to the words of his parents "ma bao man", then your life after marriage, will be very difficult.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an inevitable problem in married life, at this time, if there is a good man who reconciles from the middle, does not favor any one person, and only solves the problem seriously, then the problem between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is no longer a problem.

Looking around, all the couples who divorce because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mostly because of men's "inaction", or they have an attitude of not caring about themselves, or they are with thin mud, how can such a man handle family relations well.

All said that everyone in the marriage should recognize their own positioning, seriously play their respective roles, and do what they should do, then this marriage and this family will be simple and happy.