Mother-in-law relationship: Marriage and family with a house and a car, will it really bring women a sense of security?

Zhang Ailing wrote a sentence in the half-life relationship: "A middle-aged man often feels lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there are no people he can rely on." ”

Midlife crisis is not just for men.

When a woman reaches a certain age, she will also be worried about the dangers of the world.

Women are born with an uneasy sense of anxiety, which can also be said to be insecure.

This is a good illustration of why when married now, the woman basically requires a house and a car, especially the woman's parents, and the future mother-in-law is the mastermind behind it.

Some people will definitely ask: "If you have a house and a car, can you feel safe?" ”

If nothing else, at least these material conditions, is better than nothing?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or bad, and men are mixed in, and they are helpless.

The way of getting along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is somewhat like the ancient three kingdoms competition for hegemony, each party seems to be swearing its own sovereignty, always worried that the other party will be eroded.

Men reconcile and give in to each other between their wives and mothers.

No matter which side a man gets too close to, it will make the other party emotionally heavy.

Someone would rather be single than step into this muddy water.

Everyone has their own ambitions to think about!

How should a friend after marriage walk on thin ice in the face of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

There is a very interesting phenomenon, such as when we are not yet married, or even when we do not have friends of the opposite sex, parents try their best to seek blind dates for their children every day.

Say what, when you meet a good girl, you should catch up with it as soon as possible, because excellent people are already very sought-after.

Parents are worried that their children will become older leftover men and women, and then they will not meet the right ones.

Excellence itself comes with its own aura, full of strong attraction.

Attract people by appearance, retain people by kindness!

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not very harmonious, and a large part of the reason may be the disaster caused by appearance.

A person not only has the characteristics of appearance, body shape, beauty, etc., but also the family environment behind each person and the cognitive range of parents, all affect the entire development of the situation.

Once, while chatting with friends around him, he said: "What do you think of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?" ”

My friend said it succinctly: "Everything depends on patience!" ”

He did not sin on both sides, nor did he please either side, but only wanted one person to be pure.

Another friend joked: "The best solution to avoid the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship should be to live separately and not disturb each other." ”

Yes, it is indeed a good way, but have you ever thought about a problem and blindly ignored it, which is rooted in the further tension that promotes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

It is not so much that I am clean, but rather that I am escaping from reality and dare not face it directly.

The wife, a stranger with a foreign surname, comes to a new environment, and definitely needs some excessive attention and consideration, rather than looking out the window.

There is a saying that makes a lot of sense, two people getting married together, in fact, it is not as simple as two people living together, the logic behind it is that the door between two families is right.

The cognition of both sides complements each other, merges with each other, attracts each other, and grows with each other.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not very good, and the main essence behind it may be that both sides want too much, do not know how to choose, and only want to take more and pay more attention.

I remember Wang Yangming said: "A person's biggest failure is that his selfish desires are too heavy!" ”

Selfish desires obscure conscience, but man cannot be without selfish desires. We should keep our desires within a suitable range and not let them grow like weeds.

What is lust? Excessive desires are selfish desires, or desires that conscience considers wrong are selfish desires.

We have to admit that in real life, we will certainly meet some people without conscience, often these people, do not recognize their mistakes at all, I have three provinces and three provinces, for them it will not help at all.

Now there is a term that calls these people bad diseases.

Have you ever met such a person around you?

Back to the original point, we must not expect ourselves to be able to change each other, the only thing that can be changed is ourselves.

Let yourself change first, so that you can slowly influence the people around you.

If everything is based on the premise of kindness, think more about the other party, and believe that any problem will be solved.

Applied to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there are also similarities.

When you think that no one else is right, it is most likely your own mistake; when you think that everyone is a fool, it is most likely that you are stupid.

As adults, we have to learn not to contradict others in the first place, regardless of what others say.

We like to listen to some good words, we can also listen to some bad words, this is called skill!

Wear thousands of clothes, don't wear horseshit; learn to pat the horse ass just right, it works at any time, you may wish to try it.

The daughter-in-law pays a sincere and kind treatment of the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law shows kindness and respects each other, and they will definitely get along harmoniously with each other.

Women should understand that we respect the parents of our husbands, which is naturally to respect the husband; the mother-in-law is kind to the daughter-in-law, and naturally also to her own children.

"We should get joy and strength from love, not spend all the strength and happiness to love." 」

Affection or love should make our lives better, not consume our own time and energy.

Make yourself excellent, so as to affect the people around you, seemingly unsolvable problems in life, will slowly digest!