The sense of security is the psychological need for stability and security, which belongs to the inner spiritual needs of the individual, and is mainly manifested as a sense of certainty and control.
The formation of a sense of security has a great relationship with each person's early experience, so each individual's definition, feelings and experiences of security are different. But in the emotions, women always long for men to use some words and deeds to make themselves feel more secure about this feeling, so as to love each other.
So, what can be done in the emotions to make her feel safe?
▼ Guangzhou Psychological Counseling interprets for you.
01
Respect each other
Everyone has their own interests and behavioral habits, and often the choices that suit them and their own preferences can best arouse a person's enthusiasm and motivation for a thing.
So, in the absence of your help, it's best not to interfere too much with her choices, and it's best to encourage her to develop her expertise. Maybe what you think is good for her may not really be suitable for her.
Respecting the other person's choice, but not interfering or intervening too much, will make her feel that you are very caring, and your love will also convey tolerance and warmth.
02
Warm physical contact
Why do women love to hold men's hands? Because of these intimate contacts, women feel grounded in their hearts. People actually have the desire to have physical contact with their beloved, both men and women. Gentle touches and powerful hugs often make her feel strength, support and nourishment from you, which is mentally exhausted and fragile in her heart.
So, a little more warm hugs, and ten fingers entangled with palm to palm, let her feel your full love.
03
Timely shush and ask for warmth
Caring and thoughtful is really useful, but it also needs to be concerned about the idea. When she is distressed, listen carefully, comfort appropriately, and do a good job of being a trash can. Sometimes what a woman needs is just an object that can be said, and it is released after speaking, and does not necessarily require results and suggestions.
In addition, Guangzhou Psychological Counseling has a small suggestion: try to remember the names of the friends she and you mentioned, so that she will feel that you really listened to her.
04
Gain the approval of the other person's relatives and friends
Most women are more or less influenced by the opinions of relatives and friends, and the opinions of relatives and friends will often determine whether the girl will continue to interact with you. If you can win the appreciation of her family and friends and make them your "God assist", then you will be helped in many things and your relationship with her will be smoother.
05
Open-mindedness and tolerance between the sexes are indispensable
Nowadays, many young people grow up to get more love from their parents, pay more attention to their own needs, and have fewer opportunities to take the initiative to give and pay attention to the needs of others.
In the relationship between the sexes, it is necessary to pay attention to this, after all, sometimes maintaining a relationship is more important than arguing about right and wrong.
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, if principles are not involved, it is better to give in first, let the contradiction calm down, calm down the two, and then seek a solution.
06
Be kind to each other's pets
Most women will feel that kind-hearted, loving men are more trustworthy and more secure when dealing with each other. If the other party has pets, showing appropriate care and friendliness to her pets can make her feel moved.
If you really don't like small animals, don't be too obvious, you can tell her in a gentle and gentle way, in general, reasons such as hair allergies are easier to accept.
07
Love sports
Men who have a certain sports hobby are more likely to find an outlet for emotions. Moreover, in the impression, most men who love sports are positive, love life, and are healthy. Being with a man with passion in heart and strength in the body will make women feel that life is worth looking forward to, and even some women will feel that the sexual motivation of such men will be stronger, and the sex life will be more harmonious in the future.
Few girls like to live all day with a man who only likes to smoke, drink and vent, and few women feel that there will be a bright future with a physically weak man.
08
Make her feel safe talking to you
If a woman can communicate with you openly and honestly, and is willing to tell you happy and troublesome things, it means that she trusts you very much and is willing to let you into her heart.
You'd better know a certain amount of chat skills so that she thinks it's a good thing to talk to you, so that she doesn't laugh at her for expressing her inner thoughts.
No matter what she confides in you, don't interrupt, ignore her, or correct her, it will only make her more and more distant from you.
09
Be clear about the boundaries with the opposite sex
Both men and women will have their own circle of friends, and it is normal to have several friends of the opposite sex. But men who play ambiguously, or men who "do not take the initiative, do not refuse, and are not responsible", will definitely let their women live in anxiety, jealousy, suspicion, and vigilance all day long, and after being "caught" several times, women will be disappointed and desperate for you.
So, if you are embarrassed to refuse to another woman, then, sooner or later, she will reject you without pity.
In the process of communicating with the opposite sex, you need to grasp certain boundaries, sometimes consider the feelings of the other half, and everyone can give each other space on the basis of trust.
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