In life, you must have the confidence not to take care of everything.
When you have the confidence to ignore everything, you will find that life can actually be simpler, easier and more satisfying.
In reality, too many people are too easily influenced by others, especially by some unimportant people and things, which leads to a life of chicken feathers and dogs.
Such a quality of life must be getting lower and lower, and it will definitely make people upset and irritable, and their physical and mental health will be greatly affected.
Live simply, live more transparently, don't bother others, don't meddle with things, and live a good life.
As Mr. Yang Jiang once said:
"I'm willing to be a 'zero', people don't treat me as a thing, I can just see through the people who look down on me. ”
When you live more and more transparently, it is more and more able to let go, see clearly, and forget.
At this time, every day is a new day for you, and every thing you treat is a new experience for you.
As a result, life is becoming more and more transparent, and living is becoming more and more comfortable, calm, and satisfied.
Regardless of the situation
In fact, many troubles in life, many distressing things, and many things that torture people to the point of being unseemly, are all trivial.
It's just that both sides will argue endlessly over these little things, and the disputes will not stop, and the arguments will not be enough.
Then, you will only waste more time and energy in vain.
In the end, not only did he not get the results he wanted, but he also made his every day particularly decadent, I don't know what to do.
I very much agree with Professor Luo Xiang's point of view:
"It is the nature of the eloquent to be arrogant, and they will often elevate the argument of opinion into a verbal attack, and then turn the verbal attack into a physical battle.
When you meet this kind of person, there is no need to argue with him, because you can't win the debate.
A smart person will definitely let himself not argue with others in real life, especially in the world.
Because when you meet someone who likes to argue, then even if you are eloquent, it is difficult to be convincing, and the other party is unlikely to admit defeat and bend over.
So, don't explain anything, don't change the other person.
Especially when the other party belongs to the kind of arrogant and arrogant people.
A lot of times, what you can explain is exactly what you don't need to explain.
If you need to explain it yourself, no matter how hard you try to explain it, it will not help in the end.
As Mo Yan wrote in the article:
"If you don't like it, you don't like it, there's no why. It's like a gust of wind blowing, and what you have to do is pat the dust off your body, turn around and walk away quietly. ”
Life in the world, whether it is sophisticated for human feelings, or for ordinary relationships, it doesn't matter if you don't like it, if you're not interested.
Then let yourself pat the dust on your body, don't worry, don't be too obsessed.
But knowing how to let go and not arguing is a kind of pattern and a kind of wisdom.
In this way, we have enough confidence not to deal with all unworthy people and things.
不争不辩
People who like to argue are actually wasting their energy.
After all, how can a person who has serious things to do waste his time and energy doing indifferent things every day?
Moreover, only those who are idle will spare no effort and be very energetic to argue with others.
But at the end of the day, what if the argument is won? What if you meet such a person again next time? Will it take a long time and energy to deal with and argue?
Obviously, arguing in most cases is just a waste of your precious time and effort.
There is a sentence written in the Tao Te Ching:
"The way of heaven is to win without fighting. ”
People who live transparently are actually the kind of people who live very freely, freely, and casually.
For these people, the most precious thing in life is to learn to cherish the present moment.
Be kind to yourself, be kind to the people around you, be steady and far-reaching, and strive to be a shining person.
In this way, you can make your day more peaceful, calm, simple and happy.
Then, every day, I can maintain a calm and relaxed state in a relaxed atmosphere without arguing or arguing.
In this way, it is good to walk slowly and enjoy the moment quietly.
In the end, it is a kind of happiness to ignore and argue, and live comfortably in the present.
A kind of confidence: ignore it
Yang Xiwen said:
"Working hard is never to prove that you are working hard, but to have a better life, to be able to maintain a continuous upward goal, and life will be an evolutionary history. ”
In the world, the biggest pattern is to ignore those who should not be taken care of.
In the same way, it is rare to give yourself the confidence to ignore others.
In the midst of human sophistication, learn to ignore it, learn to work hard to improve yourself, be positive, and move forward bravely.
When you become better and stronger, you will naturally have the confidence and courage to ignore others.
At this time, you can have enough confidence and strength to live the life you want to live.