The more lonely a person is, the stronger he is, the more lonely he is, the more powerful he is.
Zhuangzi said: To be alone is to be unique, and to be alone is to be noble.
In fact, the real strength of a person is to see how he behaves and digs himself when he is lonely.
If a person does not even have the ability to be alone, then it will be impossible to make his life better after entering society.
Because when a person really enters the society, he will understand that if he has no money, no power, no connections and no resources, then almost all things need to be faced and dealt with by himself.
Schopenhauer said: Loneliness is the fate of the excellent.
Therefore, only let yourself be alone and learn to be alone, and strive to constantly polish and grow yourself in the years of solitude.
At this time, you can become better and better, and even in the lonely years, you can really achieve your own strength.
In solitude, improve the connotation
The reason why a person is liked by more and more people is actually very simple, that is, this person has a higher and higher connotation.
Because in real life, in fact, the reason why everyone is attracted to another person is because they see some advantages, some highlights, and some shining points in each other's body.
It's just that these key points are something that I don't have, so when I see it and meet it, I feel so important.
Zhou Guoping said:
"A mediocre soul, pale and barren, without any connotation worthy of understanding by others, such a person cannot be said to be lonely. ”
A lonely person does not let himself refuse to be gregarious, nor does he let himself choose to be decadent and indulgent when he is alone.
True loneliness is to cultivate the abundance of the soul, and it is also to be able to slowly get to know yourself and understand yourself in the process of being alone.
Then, you'll know where you're having problems and where you're performing better.
In this way, you can truly recognize yourself objectively and comprehensively.
When a person is aware of himself enough, he will become more and more compassionate, more tolerant, and more empathetic.
Because they will be able to compare their hearts with their hearts, and they will be more willing to reflect deeply and strive to improve their own connotation in the years of solitude behind them.
Such a person will slowly get rid of the mediocre state of life and truly return to the world of spiritual abundance.
Therefore, don't be afraid of loneliness, but know how to enjoy loneliness, and in the process of loneliness, let your heart calm down and improve your connotation and internal strength.
Eventually, you'll find that your life will become more reliable and even more lovable.
The more lonely you are, the more independent you are
I remembered a sentence I heard:
"The best state of a person is when he is alone. You don't have to worry about other people's emotions, and you don't have to deliberately judge other people's minds. ”
True independence is spiritual independence, personality independence, and soul independence.
Obviously, these high-level independence are actually slowly realized and tasted from solitude.
If you are afraid of loneliness, then loneliness will oppress you anytime and anywhere, and even make it difficult for you all the time.
It's like, when you fall into a kind of mental torture that you have created, you torture the spirit, in fact, the spirit is tormenting you.
Schopenhauer said:
"It is only when a person is alone that he can be fully himself. ”
In life, everyone is lonely.
In fact, as long as we dare to face and take responsibility, we will find that everyone is actually the most suitable life state for themselves in the lonely years.
After all, human nature is too complex and the human heart is too changeable, and instead of spending too much time and energy dealing with the human heart and human nature, we will eventually exhaust ourselves.
It is better to learn to let go, see through people's hearts, look down on human nature, return to their own small world, and become themselves completely in solitude.
Oprah once said:
"All those alone moments determine who we become. ”
For the rest of your life, you must cherish the time you have alone at the moment.
Because sooner or later, one day you will believe, and even regret, that those alone times are actually the most comfortable, calm, and calm years in your life.
The more lonely it is, the more powerful it is
I have heard such a saying: mediocre people fill the emptiness with liveliness, and excellent people achieve themselves in loneliness.
Lonely people will always refuse to be mediocre and mediocre, and they will always refuse to be muddy.
These people always believe that as long as they can survive and survive on their own in a lonely time.
Then, sooner or later, I will be able to endure in the process of encountering problems in various lonely years.
In this way, actively build yourself, bravely create yourself, and truly be able to repair yourself while truly fulfilling your own strength.
Cézanne said:
"Loneliness is the most appropriate thing for me. When I'm lonely, at least no one can rule over me. ”
Only when a person is alone can he see the real world in his heart and hear the real voice in his heart.
Then, while seeing your own clarity, you can also enjoy the vigor and wonder of life.
In the lonely soul who is alone, he will never be afraid, never afraid, but brave in solitude, achieve himself, and always strengthen himself.
As the thinker Nietzsche once said, "You are a lonely eccentric today, you live in isolation, and one day, you will become a people." ”
At this time, the more lonely you are, the more powerful you are.