If one day you are unhappy and can't get a divorce, keep in mind the "Archimedean effect"

Marriage is a besieged city, and people in the city want to go out, and people outside the city want to come in.

Marriage is not all about happiness, nor is it always warm, and perhaps at some stage it will make people feel helpless.

I feel that the problems between two people cannot be solved, how the marriage has become so failed, and I feel that my original choice is really wrong.

At this time, the words "Since we feel unhappy, let's leave."

To tell the truth, it is not that I have not thought about this matter, but with the crystallization of love, the negative impact of divorce on the child is irreversible;

Moreover, if you are divorced, what if your elderly parents can't bear it, what if you can't bear the pressure of public opinion?

All of this makes it impossible for us to implement the divorce in practice, but the marriage is so unhappy, can we only endure, can we only continue to be unhappy?

Of course not.

Psychological research suggests that if one day you are unhappy and cannot get a divorce, keep in mind the "Archimedean effect."

What is the Archimedean effect?

Ancient Greek kings had craftsmen make a crown of pure gold, but the king suspected that the craftsmen had mixed silver in the crown.

It was just that the crown was as heavy as the one given to the goldsmith, so the king, though suspicious, did not know whether the goldsmith had mischief or not, so he gave the problem to Archimedes.

Archimedes tried many ideas, but they were all helpless, and finally they had to put down their rest, take a shower, and come back to continue thinking.

Only to see Archimedes in the bath when he saw the water overflowing, at this time, he suddenly had an epiphany, thinking that he could use the buoyancy principle to solve this problem.

Finally, Archimedes learned through the buoyancy principle that the craftsmen had adulterated the crown.

Each of us encounters tricky problems in the process of solving problems, which may rack our brains and cannot think of a solution.

At this time, we can put the problem aside, and after a period of time, we will naturally get a satisfactory answer, and such a process is the Archimedean effect in psychology.

In fact, when we face some problems, we cannot immediately come up with solutions.

At this time, we can put the problem aside, and perhaps after a while, we can come up with a solution to the problem.

For many things, going with the flow is more effective than drilling the tip of the bull's horn

Psychologists believe that the Archimedean effect is actually a process of brewing thinking.

When we are brewing, the latent consciousness that exists deep in our brains will carry out a level of reasoning, and at this time, some information stored in memory will be combined in the subconscious.

For example, when we do math problems, no matter how we think about it, we can't think of a solution to the problem, but when we rest, we suddenly remember it, and the intermediate stage is a process of brewing and combining.

Marriage is not simple in the first place, and you can't take it for granted when dealing with it.

No one can avoid unpleasant things, and marriage also needs to be handled and run-in to make it present a good effect.

Being more true, persistent, and clinging to it will not only solve the problem, but also make the relationship between each other more tense.

So, relax, or put the problem aside, don't drill the horns, but go with the flow.

In this way, marriage will not become too tense, and the answer we want will be that there is no place to step on the iron shoes, and it will take no effort at all.

When the mountains and rivers are exhausted, you may wish to change your thinking to solve the problem

For a while, the reader had emotional problems with her husband, and the two people quarreled frequently, and their bodies were covered with thorns, even to the point of divorce at one point.

The child is still young, and the reader does not want to hurt the child because of the divorce, but she herself does not know what to do, so she seeks the help of her girlfriend.

The girlfriend has a high emotional intelligence, and she tells the reader to try to change the mode of getting along with her husband.

Don't be so strong, don't be so blunt when you speak, try to be coddled, the tone is also a little, maybe you will get a different effect.

Readers feel awkward, but they can only be a dead horse as a live horse doctor, strangely, although awkward, but achieved good results.

For example, the reader says, "Husband, when are you coming back, I want you to hug me."

The husband replied, "Eight o'clock."

The tone is still very flat, but you know, in the past, when my husband had to have dinner with his colleagues after work, he would not say that he was going home at eight o'clock.

It can be seen that the husband eats this set very much, and the relationship between the reader and the husband has become much softer and sweeter in this mode of pampering.

Many times, there is more than one solution to the problem, and thinking will not be limited to one situation, one way can not be solved, then another way. Perhaps, it will be a mountain and a poor river with no way out, and another village with dark willows and flowers.