In 245 BC, the ancient Greek king ordered someone to make him a crown out of pure gold. Although the craftsman made a crown as heavy as the gold given to him, the king was not at ease, so he ordered Archimedes to determine whether the crown was pure gold, provided that the crown could not be destroyed.
This was almost impossible at the time. Archimedes pondered every day and thought of many solutions that were not feasible. One day, Archimedes went to the bathroom to take a shower. He stepped into the tub, and as his body sank, some water would overflow from the bucket. Archimedes saw this phenomenon and appeared unusually excited.
So Archimedes took gold and silver nuggets of equal weight and put them in containers of the same size, both filled with water. Both the gold and silver blocks sank, but the containers in which the silver blocks were placed discharged significantly more water. Then Archimedes took out a gold nugget equal to the weight of the crown and put it in a container to measure the discharge. Put the crown into a container filled with water and compare the amount of water it has to do with the former, and the problem is solved.
In life, we will have similar experiences. We encountered a problem, and after thinking hard and couldn't find an answer, we put the problem down and did something else. After hours, days, or even months, we suddenly came up with a solution to the problem. This is the brewing effect.
According to psychological research, in the brewing process, there is a potential conscious level of reasoning, the relevant information stored in the memory is combined in the subconscious, and the reason why people suddenly find the answer when resting is because the individual eliminates the psychological tension in the early stage, forgets the incorrect and deadlocked thinking in front of the individual, and has a creative state of mind.
That is, although we have superficially given up on the problem, our brains continue to think of ways, but we are not aware of it. Therefore, if we encounter difficult problems in the future, don't worry, you can put it aside for a while, do something else, preferably a relaxing thing, maybe soon there will be an answer.
According to the explanation of cognitive psychology, many problems cannot be solved smoothly, and it may be that the original fixed position is not appropriate, that is, the idea is not correct. When we let go of this problem for a while, the irrational knowledge structure will be eliminated, and the brain will be able to use new stereotypes to solve the problem.
This effect not only inspires us to solve difficult problems, but can also be used to help children write homework. That is, when the child encounters a problem that cannot be solved, do not let the child dwell on a problem for too long, you can let them put it aside first and do something relaxing.
In this process, parents need to give their children more patience, and parents also need to guide their children to give themselves more patience. Doing so can bring the following benefits.
The first is to let children learn a reasonable way to face difficult problems.
People's tendency is to quickly solve the problems encountered, but some problems are more difficult and may not be solved in a short period of time. If you are not aware of this, it is easy to drill the tip of the bull's horn, waste a lot of time and energy, and fail to solve the problem smoothly. Learning to regulate and relax when encountering difficult problems is a positive attitude, and your own mentality will be more relaxed.
The second is to let children learn to wait and exercise patience.
Compared with adults, children's endurance will be much weaker. When they try many ways but can't solve the problem, they will have emotions such as anger and self-doubt. At this time, adults can guide them to put the problem aside for the time being, adjust their mentality and solve the problem. In this process, the child will slowly learn to wait, learn to get along with the problem, and become more patient.
The third is to let children experience the process of solving problems.
Smooth sailing is not necessarily a good thing, and people can only grow if they have experienced difficulties. No matter how good a child is, there are always problems that he can't solve. In this process, the child will encounter some difficulties, produce a lot of emotions, will find ways to solve problems and so on. Only after experiencing this can he truly appreciate the sense of accomplishment and pleasure of solving problems.
In short, whether it is an adult or a child, when encountering difficulties, don't be too anxious. Give yourself more time and patience, you can put the problem aside for a while, do something relaxing, change your mood, and maybe soon you will be able to "willow dark flowers and bright villages".
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