Ma Yili: 10 years after the derailment incident, I dared to cry

Visual Chronicles

2024-05-23 14:41Posted in Beijing, Creator of Emotional Field

Congratulations to Ma Yili, who has played a good role again.

In "My Altay", Zhang Fengxia played by Ma Yili was a famous scene as soon as he appeared.

The Han women living on the grassland taught their Kazakh neighbors to swear, and the dried white clothes were blown up by the wind, how free and easy.

And what moved the audience even more was that her daughter Li Wenxiu couldn't get along in the city, and when she told Zhang Fengxia that she was useless, she didn't expect Zhang Fengxia to reply:

"What do you mean by useful Li Wenxiu, were you born to serve others? Look at the trees and grass on this grassland, if someone eats it and someone uses it, it is called useful, if no one uses it, it is good to stay on the grassland like this, free and easy. ”

As soon as these words came out, who would have realized that the fierce and open-minded mother of the Northwest Prairie on the screen was actually played by a Shanghai actress.

And this is actually a recognition of the actor himself.

It is said that actors and roles are mutually successful, looking at the roles played by Ma Yili in recent years, the eight-faced, affectionate and righteous Lingzi in "Flowers", the rebellious and flamboyant and all-encompassing Dongni in "Dragon City", and the elegant, independent and eccentric Su Wenli in "Cheongsam Beauty Detective......

The background color is all thorough, sober and free.

In the audience's impression, Ma Yili seems to have always had this character.

After the sensational "see you on Monday" that year, she chose to forgive, and when everyone thought that the matter was over, she chose to divorce.

She seems to always adhere to her own rhythm of life and is not moved by outsiders.

But when we look back on her life, we find that she is also changing little by little.

On June 29, 1976, Ma Yili was born in an ordinary family in Hongkou District, Shanghai.

Her parents named her "Ma Yili" because in Shanghainese, "Yi" is the same as "Yan", and her parents hope that Ma Yili can stay at home like a little swallow and be carefully cared for and grow up.

Looking back on childhood, the parents really treated the swallow with careful care for Ma Yili and the greatest freedom.

Because the family is not wealthy, the family of five is crammed into a cramped house in Shikumen Alley, but the parents still do their best to give Ma Yili a rich life and the pursuit of beauty, and if they can't meet it financially, they use their hands and wisdom to satisfy.

When Ma Yili was a child, the family hardly spent money on clothes, because everyone's clothes were woven by their mothers.

The advantage of this is that as long as the style is not good-looking, it can be dismantled and re-knitted, so in Ma Yili's memory, her mother is always knitting clothes, stewed soup, lamps, buses, and sweaters at any time.

When she was thirteen or fourteen years old, Ma Yili began to want to wear the clothes she sold outside, but her mother told her: "Have you ever thought that the clothes you bought are all the same? What I weave for you is unique. ”

And the only satisfaction at home is not to eat, because I live with my grandparents, so almost every meal at home has fish and meat, Ma Yili said that his favorite food is Shanghai plum vegetables roast pork.

I love in life, and I am very conscientious in education.

Ma Yili has always wondered why her parents only have a junior high school education (because they go to the mountains and go to the countryside), but they are so good at educating their children?

Ma Yili liked to participate in performances when she was a child, and her father took the newspaper every day to see if there was an art troupe enrollment in the middle seam, and then took Ma Yili on a bicycle to apply for the exam, and as a result, he was really admitted to the variety dance team of Shanghai TV Station.

At that time, the family had no money, but his father would rather go out to sell blood to let Ma Yili go to school smoothly.

In addition to supporting Ma Yili's hobbies, her parents also taught Ma Yili to have self-esteem and self-love.

When Ma Yili was very young, her mother saved 20 yuan a month for Ma Yili as a dowry.

She often said to Ma Yili: "Don't think that if you marry into a man's family, you will rely on men to support you, you are a girl, you must bring things over by yourself, you can't let people look down on you, otherwise you won't have the right to speak." ”

And when I got to college, my father also told Ma Yili: "If you go out to eat with male classmates, you can't let male students pay." ”

But even if they are worried about their daughter's relationship between men and women, her parents still trust Ma Yili very much.

When she was a freshman in high school, the teacher gave Ma Yili a bad ideological character, and her father asked the reason, and the teacher said that your daughter was in early love with multiple boys.

Dad immediately said, "Then can you write down the boy's name on a piece of paper?" ”

As a result, after a long time, the teacher only wrote out one name.

When the father saw it, he said directly: "I won't tell you, my daughter I know her best, I'd better go to the principal to talk to her." ”

may be the abundant love and unconditional trust of her parents that gave Ma Yili enough security, and also made her very independent since she was a child

Since high school, Ma Yili, who dances outside, has never asked her parents for a penny, and even buys new clothes for her family during the Chinese New Year.

She said that the happiest picture she felt was when she started filming after graduating from college, and she would bring all the money home to her parents.

"At that time, I didn't have a card, I always brought cash home, that is, I put the money in bed, and my father counted it, in fact, he counted it all, and he was very happy to count it again. Then the family ate boiling water and soaked rice at night, and after eating, they lay in bed, and everyone began to talk. ”

But self-improvement allowed Ma Yili to take on the responsibility of the family, and also developed her tough character full of thorns.

After entering the entertainment industry, the director once asked Ma Yili to try a section to go to a restaurant for dinner, and was asked to pay 2,000 yuan for a 20 yuan dish.

Other actresses were so anxious that they cried, but Ma Yili looked indifferent, the director asked her why she didn't cry, she replied: "The boss charges more money, what's the use of crying, just sue him and it's over." ”

This is the hardness of Ma Yili's bones, she can't get used to those perverse practices, and she doesn't hide her disgust.

When she sees reporters who are not prepared or interviewed according to the outline, she will directly point it out to her face, and she also scoffs at those actors who are making scenes.

Director Guan Hu is Ma Yili's ex-boyfriend, and he commented on Ma Yili in an interview with "Sanlian Life Weekly":

"It looks so petite, and then she has no power to restrain the chicken, she is thin, her character is tenacious, she can persevere, think about it and not look back, this kind of strength, do you believe that there are many fewer women in the Northeast? So I'm filled with a kind of reverence for southern women anyway, and they are so powerful anyway that I am shocked and even shuddered. ”

But such rigidity also comes at a price, and Ma Yili later recalled that she didn't even have the right to cry at that time.

Because if you cry in front of others, you will be very embarrassed, and you will feel that you have been hit so easily.

If you hide and cry at night, your eyes will be swollen the next day, and you will be seen filming again, so every time you want to cry, you will endure it.

For Ma Yili at that time, crying was useless, even shameful, representing weakness and avoidance, and when she encountered a problem, her first reaction was always to solve the problem.

Although her personality is sharp, Ma Yili's acting career is actually very smooth.

The first TV series is the first idol TV series in China, "Vacuum Love Record", which tells the story of a group of college graduates who struggle for work and love.

The actors who cooperated with her are Bao Jianfeng, and Chen Long, who co-starred with her in "Flowers" some time ago.

Later, she participated in the movie "Glass is Transparent", the movie "Kong Yiji", and collaborated with Chen Daoming in "Black Hole".

And the drama that really made her popular was "Huanzhu Gege 3" in 2002, in which she played the gentle and lovely Xia Ziwei.

But this does not prevent Ma Yili from speaking straightly, ordinary people can play the heroine of Qiong Yao, or such a big IP, how much will he say that he is lucky in front of the media, and he is cautious and cautious.

But Ma Yili has repeatedly said that she is not like crape myrtle at all, "I don't like crape myrtle, I am very disgusted, and even hate." She's gentle, but very traditional, and her whole world revolves around one man. I can't do that."

This of course comes from her parents' upbringing.

And her favorite role is Charlene in "Struggle".

This girl who is full of thorns and dares to love and hate is simply tailor-made for the stubborn, decisive and backbone Ma Yili, and the hit of "Struggle" has also made Ma Yili well-known to the audience again.

After opening up the popularity, Ma Yili's star journey is even more like a fish in water.

It was also during this time that she met an article eight years younger than him in the crew of "Jinyiwei".

Although the other party was just a college student at the time, Ma Yili liked the talent of the article, so he secretly promised him, and also helped the article along the way to acting.

The first film resource of the article, "Let's See", director Li Dawei is the husband of Ma Yili's best friend;

"Snail House", which made the article widely known, was the screenwriter Liuliu whom Ma Yili personally recommended him;

And let the article get the "Naked Marriage Era" of the Emperor of Vision, and the movie "33 Days of Broken Love" that won all the actors, the director is Ma Yili's friend Teng Huatao.

After the article gained fame and fortune, the relationship between the two was also on the right track, and after marriage, the article called Ma Yili "Commander Ma", and also claimed that "I have never felt how good I am, the only thing I think I am the best is that my woman is called Ma Yili".

And Ma Yili, who was soaked in the sweetness of love, also gave up her career after becoming pregnant and willingly retreated to her family.

I even went to visit the class with the article, and when I saw a group of people shooting there again, I suddenly felt that this scene was a little funny, but I felt that my husband and children were another kind of happiness now.

But some details of life still expose the hidden dangers of the two's marriage.

Liu Yun once said that the article borrowed a guitar from her many times to play, because he applied for a long time to buy a guitar, but Ma Yili never agreed.

And because of the premature popularity, many people know that the article is very short-tempered and often plays big names, how can such a famous person be willing to be a little man all the time.

Therefore, the first to see the problem was Ma Yili's father, who said to Ma Yili, who had not worked for a long time: "My husband can support you for one year and two years." If your husband has been raising you for 5 or 10 years, and you are still at home, your husband will not like you. ”

However, even if Ma Yili listened to her father's words and went out to act again, this marriage was inevitably subverted.

On March 28, 2014, during Ma Yili's second child, Zhuo Wei's "See You on Monday" exposed the article and Yao Di's extramarital affair, and also tore apart this family, which has always been known as a model.

The fame of the article plummeted, and Ma Yili, who posted on Weibo that "although it is easy to fall in love, marriage is not easy, do it and cherish it", it has also become a laughing stock for everyone.

People are wondering how Ma Yili, who was once so domineering and independent, could endure such a humiliation.

Perhaps the transformation began during this time.

In Ma Yili's words, she became soft because she was pregnant with a child, she was tough enough, bold enough, accustomed to controlling life, and refused to admit defeat.

But the process of raising a child forced her to succumb to life.

After the derailment incident, Ma Yili's first work was "Bei Shangguang Don't Believe in Tears" with Zhu Yawen, but compared to the plot, netizens discussed her postpartum loose breasts and lactating shirt.

This is actually because she didn't know until she gave birth to a child that she couldn't wear shaping underwear for filming while breastfeeding.

In fact, from the beginning of her pregnancy, Ma Yili has been tortured.

Because the pregnancy reaction is too great, Ma Yili is still vomiting blood for more than four months, others will gain weight when they are pregnant, but she is losing weight, and even gets dizzy when she connects to the phone.

During lactation, because of milk blockage, Ma Yili took a needle every time to bleed and then milked, and even got tenosynovitis because of milking, three mastitis and three high fevers.

Such changes in body and identity made Ma Yili have to adapt, and after her husband's derailment, it was even more difficult for her to stabilize her center of gravity, and during that time she was so bad that she couldn't even get out of bed.

At the same time as she changed, she also met a life character again, Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life".

Ma Yili won Magnolia TV with this role, and her career made a breakthrough.

In an interview, she said that if she had struggled before, she would definitely look down on a woman like Luo Zijun who lived dependent on others, but on the day she stepped on the podium, she said: "Today I understand, understand her perspective, her compassion and desolation." ”

Her long life is difficult, blindly forcing herself, too rigid and easy to break, she began to become soft and open-minded, no longer pursuing everything must be done.

The reporter asked her: "In fact, when you were very young, you had already given everyone an impression called a big woman, and the labels of a big woman are diligent, rational, tolerant, positive and optimistic, not doing, not jealous, not coquettish, etc., so is there any of these labels that you want to tear off the most?" ”

Ma Yili replied, "Don't be coquettish", and then added: "But it doesn't mean that I can always be coquettish now, I think I'm learning now, and sometimes I have to be coquettish." ”

In July 2019, Ma Yili announced her divorce from the article, and the copy posted on Weibo was "You and I have loved deeply, worked hard, and achieved each other, this is regrettable, but there is no right or wrong." From now on, every life rejoices. ”

As always, he is decent and independent, but at this time, Ma Yili has entered a new stage of life both in life and spirit.

She began to accept all the unsatisfactory things in life, revealing her uneasiness and fear, experiences and feelings to the outside world.

This is a kind of strength that is different from what it has shown before, if it was a hard thorn before, now it is a resilient cattail.

Just like when she was young, she felt that it was embarrassing to "cry", but at this time she had already admitted that she was powerless, and she cried when she was relieved, and her eyes were swollen, because crying can let people know what you think, and emotions are not wrong.

And after understanding the hardships of life and learning empathy and compassion, she gradually became keen to play some more free and powerful roles

A reporter asked her what she felt when she created the role of Zhang Fengxia in "My Altay".

Ma Yili replied: "There are many women in this world who have not come out of the predicament, or she is still in the predicament, or she is living like dust in the corner, and I think they are also worthy of our attention."

I think an actor should have compassion, that is, don't focus your eyes on those shining characters, just we need to pay more attention to those people who are not noticed than ordinary people. ”

From Charlene in "Struggle" to Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life" to Zhang Fengxia in "My Altay......

These characters are open-minded and free-spirited, sincere and open-minded, and still love life after going through the world, which is another kind of understanding.

20 years have passed, and Ma Yili has not only played the role, but also herself.

Resources:

《专访马伊琍:别跟生活拧着来》CCTV电视剧

Ma Yili part of "The Reader".

"Very Quiet Distance" interview with Ma Yili

"Luyu has an appointment" interview with Ma Yili

"Women 30+" interview with Ma Yili

Some of the pictures and materials are from the Internet

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