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All come in to learn to quarrel (must-see version for ladies)

Dinner with friends on the weekend, the first thing you meet is:

Just finished arguing with my husband, and I was angry ~

At the dinner, she and we complained about how angry her husband is.....

After the party, her husband drove over to pick her up~

As people who have been married for so many years, we are all used to it.

There are no couples in the world who do not quarrel, as the movie says:

When you are in love, there are endless words, and after marriage, there are endless quarrels.

The most taboo thing in marriage is never quarrelling, but not quarrelling.

01 Turn over old accounts

There is a good saying, small quarrels are pleasant, big quarrels hurt the body.

The most hurtful thing about quarrels is to constantly argue about right and wrong, and constantly turn over old accounts.

"Why are you messing around again"

"What's it called again, when did I buy something randomly"

"Just last time....."

"Then you used to buy things indiscriminately, did I say you?"

"Didn't you say me, you threw your face last time and left"

"Shake my face because you made me angry before..."

Comes and goes, involving a whole bunch of old things.

Zhang Ziyi once said in a program that she and Wang Feng never quarrel overnight, and they must say anything before going to bed.

She said:

When you have an account, you have to talk about it, you can't leave the account, as long as you think it's an account, you have to say it, and it's over when it's over, don't mention it in the future.

All come in to learn to quarrel (must-see version for ladies)

Turning over old accounts, seeking a momentary coolness, but ruining the happiness of two people.

In psychology, turning over old accounts when quarreling is a kind of "emotional dependence" effect.

When negative emotions gather, people are more likely to recall things that make them sad and sad.

Therefore, once the old accounts are turned over, it is like falling into a bottomless pit of bad emotions.

If you keep turning over old accounts and don't talk about things, then this article will never turn over the past day.

All come in to learn to quarrel (must-see version for ladies)

02 Fight for right and wrong

In addition to turning over old accounts, there is also a terrible way to quarrel, that is, to argue about right and wrong.

In fact, you think you are fighting for right and wrong, but in fact, 90% of you are tossing around.

A friend once threw her husband's card into the washing machine by mistake.

Her husband blamed her for not checking before washing, and she said she reminded him to dig out his pocket and throw it in the dirty clothes basket.

In the morning, the two quarreled for a long time about this blackface, and the daughter stood on the side and cried in fear~

In a fit of anger, she didn't eat breakfast, carried her daughter to school, but when she was about to arrive at school, she found that her daughter's schoolbag was not taken, so she had to go home to get her bag.

And his husband was also angry, forgot to bring the computer, was late for work, and was deducted the full attendance award that month.

All come in to learn to quarrel (must-see version for ladies)

Think about it: the card is only 10% of the shuffling, and the rest of the mess is 90%.

And 90% of these things are caused by quarrels and disputes about right and wrong, and the original problems have not been solved, but more unhappy things have happened.

If her husband can be calmer at the beginning, reassuring his wife that "it's okay, you didn't mean it."

If you don't argue about right and wrong, the damage will stop at that 10%.

In an interview, the host asked Huang Lei: What if two people quarrel?

Huang Lei said with a smile:

"Just coax her, hug, kiss, buy what she likes until she laughs."

The host asked again: "What if Sun Li is wrong?" ”

Huang Lei did not hesitate: "I never care who is right or wrong. ”

03 Learn to be intimidated 

Some people say: between husband and wife, it is too reasonable, and in the end, the loss must be feelings.

Women, in fact, understand the truth, what we want is not a "mentor" who can speak eloquently and rationally,

What we need is an intimate lover who knows how to bow his head and take care of his emotions.

A friend who has been married for 10 years and has a better relationship with her husband is getting better and better, she said:

Every time I quarrel, if the quarrel is terrible, as soon as I stand up, my husband will immediately shut up and run to the door to block it, afraid that I will run away from home.

The person who first confessed was not really instigated, but he felt more sorry for the other party.

In "Wife's Romantic Trip", the host asked Zhang Jie: "Who apologizes for the two of you quarreled?" ”

Zhang Jie replied, "It must be me." ”

All come in to learn to quarrel (must-see version for ladies)

The host asked again: "No matter what the quarrel is, are you apologizing?" ”

Zhang Jie replied:

"In the beginning, I didn't want to apologize because I didn't think I was wrong, but then I felt that I wouldn't even apologize?"

Isn't this love, even if you are angry to death, your heart will not forget to give you an umbrella.

All come in to learn to quarrel (must-see version for ladies)

No matter how loving a couple is, there are 100 divorces in their lives and 50 impulses to strangle each other.

But they didn't strangle each other in the end, and they didn't divorce.

But it's because in the entanglement of love and anger, softness prevails.

Love a quote:

Home is not a place to be reasonable, the one who bows his head first, the body is bent down, but the soul is sublimated.

Running a marriage is never easy.

A good marriage is not a lifetime without quarrelling, but a lifetime of quarrel.

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