He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
What is "Wanfu"?
Even before he married her, the man was poor and had nothing;
But after marrying her, life is getting better and better, whether it is financial luck, family assets or family atmosphere, it has become better and better.
This is Wanf.
Some women, not only do not want to be prosperous, but will "lose the family property".
Saw a post online:
A full-time wife has to watch live broadcasts every day, and the money spent on online shopping every month is five or six thousand.
Her husband's salary is more than 10,000 a month, and he has to raise 2 children.
Married for many years, the family does not have a mortgage and a car loan, it is reasonable to save some money; However, after being kept by his wife, the family had moonlight every month.
Some people have a relationship and have to rely on their parents for help.
After the man decided not to let his wife manage the money, he only started saving some money every month.
You will find:
A woman's character, character, and whether she is prosperous will directly determine the direction of a family.
What are the characteristics of Wangfu's women?
-01
Before Wangfu, first "Wangfu"
Wangfu's women should first of all be "spiritually independent and financially independent".
In other words:
They will never be attached to men, they will not bet everything on men.
What is the best way to get along?
She maintains a "competitive" relationship with her husband.
Like what:
than work, than career, than income, than family participation and so on.
There is such a couple next to me:
A man runs a small business, and a woman runs a small beauty shop; The income of two people is kept separately, two children, but the relationship is particularly good.
Every quarter, they compare each other's income and family balances.
This mode of getting along has been adhered to for more than ten years.
At home, a healthy competition is formed that also favors the relationship between husband and wife.
Wang's own women often have "strong execution and self-discipline".
They can't see their husbands being lazy and unenterprising, because she herself is a woman with a heavy career.
Therefore, under her influence, her husband will also be unconsciously infected and have to work harder.
-02
The woman of Wangfu, emotionally stable
Every woman has a little temper, which is human nature.
But in more things, it is not easy for women to be emotionally stable.
Emotional stability indicates that her own "energy field is strong".
Relationships, emotions, affect each other.
For example:
Every day after you come home from work, you see your wife with a cold face, no matter what you do, she is not satisfied, do you still want to go back to such a home?
Every day when you come home from work, your wife greets you with a smile; On weekdays, the pattern of your husband and wife is to praise, appreciate, support, understand and tolerate each other.
Which of these two marital states can live well?
In contrast, it's clear at a glance.
Emotional stability is the best practice for a woman;
Emotionally stable women are also empathetic and reasonable.
-03
The woman of Wangfu knows how to praise
Do you know what the smartest woman looks like?
It is to know how to understand the husband's hard work, comfort the husband's pressure, support the husband's decision, and praise the husband's dedication.
If a woman can do this, believe me, not only will your relationship get better and better, but your family will also be better and better.
Only women with insight into human nature, high emotional intelligence and strong empathy can understand the true meaning of these marriages.
Psychologically speaking:
Praise and being supported are the emotional needs of a person's heart.
When the wife is able to meet these needs of her husband, she makes her husband feel "worshiped, needed, praised, supported."
Next, men will invest more motivation and passion in marriage and family.
It's like a teacher educating a student.
What is the best way to get educated?
It must be "praise education".
Criticism may make the child obey temporarily, but it will certainly not make the child progress;
Praise may not be effective in the short term, but if you stick to it in the long run, it will definitely make students' grades better and better.
In the relationship between husband and wife, even more so.
What is "Home and Everything"?
When a wife praises her husband, the husband gains a sense of accomplishment;
In order to return the wife's affection, the husband is willing to make more efforts for the family.
What you want your partner to become, first of all, what price you have to pay.
If you only want to take but are not willing to give, why does the other party always serve you?
If you are always criticizing, blaming, and ridiculing, how can the other person give you a good face?
-04
The woman of Wangfu has three views and knows how to make trade-offs
The woman determines the ethos of the family and determines the direction of the family.
A woman with three views affects not only her husband, but also her children.
There is a saying that says:
Behind every successful man, there is a reliable teammate, and this teammate is his wife.
Women are righteous, polite, reasonable, and discerning right from wrong, husbands will also be affected, and children will follow the behavior of their parents as an example.
And women have three incorrect views, instilling negative emotions and instilling bad concepts in their husbands and children every day, which will only affect the luck of a family.
A good husband and wife relationship is often "complementary".
Like what:
The husband can make money, but is more careless; And the wife is careful and patient, and can manage money;
The husband speaks more bluntly and is not good at socializing; And his wife happens to have high emotional intelligence and is good at detecting words and looking;
The husband's cooking is delicious, and the wife's soup is delicious;
The husband can tutor the children in science and the wife can tutor the children in liberal arts.
The complementarity of all aspects can make the family atmosphere feel better.
The husband and wife have a good relationship, a good sense of family atmosphere, and the overall emotional stability of the family has a common goal.
You say, can such a family have a bad life?
Today's Topic:
What characteristics do you think Wangfu women have?