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Sometimes the person who sees you the most is your relatives and friends.
Because of the psychology of jealousy and comparison, the relationship between each other is rigid and awkward.
The heroine in the next case met the competitive sister-in-law, so that she has been targeted for embarrassment.
Xiaomin and her husband Song Qingyuan were married last year, and the life of the young couple was also full of taste.
She is the head of a department in a foreign company, while Song Qingyuan is a section chief of a state-owned enterprise unit.
Decent work makes their lives rich and easy, their homes and cars are fully purchased, and the occasional luxury purchase is stress-free.
Because they do not live with their in-laws, the two-person world of Xiaomin and her husband is still quite happy.
It's just that there is nothing perfect in the world, and the only thing that the in-laws don't deal with with her is the sister-in-law.
Although the sister-in-law and her husband are brothers and sisters, the trajectory of the two people's lives is not the same.
When I was in school, my sister-in-law didn't think about making progress, and her grades were always at the bottom of the class.
In the end, the college entrance examination only went to a specialty, and after graduation, I was idle at home. After several times of persecution, I found a cashier job.
Her husband, Song Qingyuan, was admitted to a good university with his own efforts, and after graduating from graduate school, he recruited a state-owned enterprise.
Although they are a family, the fate of the two brothers and sisters has also changed fundamentally because of reading.
After Xiao Min married in, the sister-in-law also got married within two years.
It's just that her education and job are very average, and the conditions for finding a husband are not very good.
Even the sister-in-law's marriage room was renovated from the old house of the man's family.
It is said that the sister-in-law cried on the day of her marriage, and she felt that her life was miserable and humiliated, and the house she lived in was not as good as that of her brother and sister-in-law.
Xiao Min knew that after this incident, she couldn't laugh and cry, because their marriage houses were bought together, and the loan part was also repaid by the provident fund.
The sister-in-law and brother-in-law are ordinary workers, and the welfare benefits naturally cannot be compared with them.
I thought that the sister-in-law was just a little willful, but what happened later made Xiao Min's heart more and more depressed.
Once a family dinner was held during the festival, and the sister-in-law went to her mother's house early to cook vegetables.
XiaoMin's two sons were delayed because of their late rise, so after arriving at their mother-in-law's house, the sister-in-law had already cooked almost all the dishes.
After Xiao Min came, she felt a little overwhelmed in her heart, and quickly went to say hello to her mother-in-law and said sorry.
But the sister-in-law just happened to come out with the ribs, and said while laughing: "Sister-in-law, you don't have to be embarrassed, you and my brother are both people who do big things." A month is worth a few months' wages for our little people, and we are toiling. ”
Xiao Min was not happy when she heard this, didn't this show that she was stinking her?
However, in front of her husband and mother-in-law, you can't directly argue with your sister-in-law.
So she could only smile awkwardly, and the cat went into the kitchen to serve the dishes and take the bowl.
At the end of the dinner, she consciously cleaned up the dishes and chopsticks, afraid that the sister-in-law would give her another "top hat" and let her not get off the stage in public.
After returning home, Xiaomin complained to her husband about her sister-in-law, but her husband only urged her not to worry about her sister.
And the sister-in-law also complained to her husband after returning home: "You said that my sister-in-law, really, with more money, you can eat ready-made without work." Isn't it better to work, to be caught up in something. ”
The sister-in-law's husband is an honest man, so after listening to these nagging, he did not take a position.
With this estrangement, Xiao Min was reluctant to interact with her sister-in-law.
Just less than half a year later, the sister-in-law's family began to contact them again.
It turned out that the sister-in-law heard that her brother-in-law had raised her salary and had to ask them to invite guests to dinner.
Xiao Min complained that her husband said everything and went out, while asking the sister-in-law where she wanted to eat.
Who knows the location that the sister-in-law picked, which caught her off guard.
The sister-in-law asked to go to a famous high-end Japanese food store, and Xiaomin knew that the restaurant was more than five hundred per capita.
She was a little unhappy in her heart, thinking that the sister-in-law was too rude, and their money was not blown by the wind.
But as soon as her husband heard it, he comforted her not to worry, and said that he would invite his sister and brother-in-law to eat a good meal.
So on the weekend night, Xiaomin and his wife booked a seat and waited for the sister-in-law to come.
When it was time to eat, the sister-in-law's family finally arrived. Xiao Min had already ordered some dishes, but the sister-in-law said that she did not have enough to eat and brought the menu.
As a result, a few more sashimi and some haute cuisine were added, which made Xiao Min feel frightened.
She silently calculated the price in her heart, estimating that today's meal without four thousand is impossible.
Xiao Min did not have the heart to eat during the whole process, afraid of eating too much and the sister-in-law would have to add vegetables.
Sure enough, when she was about to finish eating, the sister-in-law shouted that she was not full, and she was ready to make a Wagyu Beef Suki pot.
It was still the sister-in-law's husband who spoke out to stop it, and only then did it end.
When Xiaomin came home that night, she gambled with her husband and said, "You have raised your salary by more than two thousand, and your sister is killing us." ”
The husband has a good temper and has not said a word.
The matter of eating quickly faded with time, but the sister-in-law was still not ready to let them go.
Because the life of the sister-in-law was not good in the past two years, the husband not only reduced her salary, but even she herself was laid off by the unit.
So she can only continue to live in the old house and save money to raise children.
Look at the days of Xiaomin's family, the new house and new car in full, and the high monthly income to ensure that their lives are moist.
All this made the sister-in-law's heart very unbalanced, so she retaliated and thought of taking advantage of her brother-in-law.
This did not ask Xiaomin's two sons to borrow money, saying that the children had no money at home to pay tuition.
Xiao Min knew that her sister-in-law's first reaction to borrowing money was to refuse, but she couldn't stand her husband's soft heart, so she still borrowed ten thousand yuan.
The sister-in-law did not type an IOU or write anything else, and she was not ready to pay it back.
Sure enough, after a year of saying yes, it was almost two years and there was no movement.
Once, Xiao Min asked her sister-in-law for money in a good voice, but she was ridiculed: "Sister-in-law, you are all big intellectuals, is there still a difference of ten thousand yuan, I will give it to you when I have enough money." ”
Xiao Minqi left without saying anything, and secretly told himself that he would no longer interact with his sister-in-law in the future.
But then Xiaomin's father-in-law will have his sixty-fifth birthday, and the family is discussing doing a good job in the hotel.
The location was selected in the high-end restaurant, and Xiaomin prepared a large red envelope for her father-in-law in advance.
When eating, it is inevitable to meet with the sister-in-law and drink, and she has always forced a smile to keep her face on the line.
The sister-in-law asked everyone how the meal was while eating, and said that this table dish was ordered by her, just to make everyone happy.
Xiao Min was wondering how the sister-in-law was generous, this Aolong lamb chop, the whole twenty dishes were hard dishes, how to say it had to be six or seven thousand.
It wasn't until the checkout that Xiaomin saw through the sister-in-law's tricks.
It turned out that she actually asked Xiaomin to pay in public, and her father-in-law immediately refused when she heard it, saying that he would settle today's account.
Seeing that Xiaomin did not speak, the sister-in-law hurriedly said: "Oh Dad, brother and sister-in-law can earn, all out of the problem!"
As soon as he finished saying this, Xiao Min stood up and said, "Qingya, I and your brother can make money on their own ability, not by the wind." Today's Dad's birthday you don't have to jump up and down arrangements. ”
This made the sister-in-law's face look very ugly, and the father-in-law also came out to play the round field, which stabilized the scene.
After returning home, she made her attitude clear to her husband, saying that she would not go again on occasions where she had a sister-in-law in the future...
The heroine in the case stalled a red-eyed and annoying sister-in-law, but in the end in time to fight back.
This tells us that relatives should not only be afraid of pink eye, but also pay attention to the following two principles.
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One: Accommodation and forbearance should be given to the right people.
No matter what kind of relationship you are in, don't tolerate and accommodate without a bottom line.
Because of connivance, in exchange for it, it can only become more intense and ignorant.
Don't fantasize that your generosity can impress others, and don't think that your move can be exchanged for understanding.
The sister-in-law in the case is in the brother-in-law's repeated tolerance, and she feels more and more that what she has done is deserved.
So as soon as he found the opportunity, he blocked his brothers and sisters-in-law and took advantage of them.
As everyone knows, people are dignified, repeatedly provoking things, and finally just embarrassing themselves.
Therefore, in family relations, do not blindly condone accommodation because you are relatives.
Know that your tolerance and generosity should be reserved for those who really deserve it.
Those who really care about you for your own good deserve the greatest patience and accommodation.
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Two: No matter in any relationship, you must show your bottom line.
As the saying goes: where there are people, there are rivers and lakes.
And the relationship between people is also the most difficult part to grasp.
Therefore, it is very necessary to see the bottom line of others in time and show your own bottom line in time.
Because human nature is that you are strong and he is weak, when you find that others are depleting your interests and dignity, you must quickly fight back.
If the Xiaomin couple in the case could have explained it to the sister-in-law earlier, perhaps there would be no more contradictions.
Therefore, when problems are found, they must be dealt with in a timely manner, and do not wait until the situation becomes more and more excessive.
At that time, the movement generated was far greater than the initial processing, and it would also make the relationship between the two sides more rigid.
Therefore, the bottom line is revealed in time, not only to protect themselves, but also for the future relationship between the two sides.
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In any relationship, it is taboo to touch the bottom line.
Because in the adult world, it is not so glorious to make a face.
Therefore, both sides should pay attention to proportions, and do not cause divisions in distance.
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