When did "dream girl" become a derogatory term?
After the World Cup caught fire with a Qatari prince, sisters who wanted to marry in a group were ridiculed by the group - a woman living in a filter, facing a complete stranger man, launching unrealistic erotic fantasies.
Don't think that even if the other party is an invulnerable man, if he is treated as an outlier, he will be a woman first.
The public calls them "dream girls", which means the same thing as the "flower idiots" who were not welcomed before.
If you want to fight for women's consciousness, you can't talk about excessive blindness. But I still think the term "dream girl" is magical.
▲ "Bankruptcy Sisters"
In a recent example, after Hu Ge officially announced the birth of a baby, amateur wives and female fans were also involved in the ranks of "dream girls". In less than half a day, what is the sister-in-law's name, what kind of work, when the two are in love, and the evidence is all clearly summarized by netizens.
A group of self-media took the opportunity to create momentum and regarded her sister-in-law as a dream female role model, as if she really relied on fantasies all the way and a little luck to be fortunate enough to get the last love of the male god.
On the other side, female fans whose mentality collapses and cries and their dreams are ruined are sneered at - relying on useless love, binding men who are not worthy and unseen, and properly disillusioned.
You see, whether the dream girl goes ashore or not, for those who are willing to express their opinions, they can achieve the goal - to complete the sermon condescendingly.
In recent years, I have been particularly wary of hot words, there are too many traps of female stigma. This time, the "dream girl" is no different from many hot words forcibly given to women, and what is finally consolidated is the art of power in language and culture.
And the real problem is that they rarely get light. Netizens don't care how the dream girl filter was born - girls have repeatedly received from all sides since they were young and have received toxic logic of "find someone to love me" and "let men love".
▲ "Under the Gaslight"
After a few waves of rhythm, the "dream girl" completely turned into a humiliating tool. Idol dream girl, prince dream girl, young master dream girl, people with hearts finally shaped the "dream girl" into a brainless, clinging, fanatical female image.
But there are a lot of pitfalls.
The original meaning of "dream girl" is not a pejorative term, and even when studied, there are some feminine colors worth saying.
"Dream Girl" originally referred to female players in otome games (a kind of love development game) who refused to substitute character settings and create their own love scripts.
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What the dream girl is fighting for is the right to interpret love. They need to see their presence in love, don't want to be stuck in a set narrative, and develop the story according to their own values.
And the dream girl who thinks in the third dimension is "delusional being loved", and she can achieve illusions by relying on saccharin and love words. In "Chrono Romance", the story of the heroine living with an idol who parachuted home, flirting every day, and rapidly warming up her feelings was hailed as "dream female literature" into reality.
▲ "Chrono Romance"
A blogger in a red book came out to defend that the dream girl's love fantasy, sugar is secondary, will not fantasize that all men love her, let alone think of building a harem. What they enjoy more is the process of mobilizing their own emotions.
As a result, back to us, the dream girl's most playful sense of self was stripped clean. Everyone thinks that the dream girl is a stupid girl who has no requirements for men and wants to rush when she sees that the other party has money and beauty. As everyone knows, this word has long changed its taste.
▲ "Color Ring"
Over the years, women began to stand up and catch insects in the ancient soil. But the stereotypical stigma is still avoided.
For example, the "female driver" who has been criticized for a long time. Online crawlers, the accompanying words are mostly negative, "terrible", "dangerous", "tragic", "unfortunate". In the past few years, words such as "cherish life, stay away from female drivers" and "female drivers are road killers" can quickly become popular on the Internet and win a wave of likes.
Minato, the malice of many words, begins with human will.
"Female driver", "female policeman" and "female doctor" are all quite normal words in themselves, and they have been abused by yin and yang strangely, so they have been given a demeaning of disparagement and distrust.
"Dream girl" is actually the same way. The moment it is put into the mainstream context, there are too many prejudices and emotions.
For example, excessive idolatry, Mu Fu's romanticized imagination, and desire for material excess, when taken apart, are the crimes of forcibly giving the dream girl.
And in this loop, the most terrifying thing may not be the girl who entered the two-dimensional dream. At most, they want to filter out the boring impurities of the real world and enjoy a love relationship in the world of paper that no one can disturb.
Those who find ways to find "justice" on the screen are the ones who can stir up another emotional game about gender with the flick of their fingers and the use of an imperceptible trick.