Many people's lives are so plain.
They may go out at the same time every day, take the same means of transportation to the unit, and follow the same route back to their accommodation after work.
Every day "two points and one line", there are no ups and downs.
This is the life of many ordinary people.
Not like the excitement of TV dramas, nor like the drama of soap operas, most of them are as bland as water.
In this life, bland and trivial, it is not a bad thing.
What we are afraid of is that we think that we must live a vigorous life, so that we will not go to the world in vain.
Someone once said: only 5% of life is more exciting, only 5% is more painful, and the other 90% is spent in blandness. And people are seduced by this 5% wonderful, endure 5% of the pain, and live in this 90% bland.
Life is a bland repetition, but flowers can also be born in the bland.
Only when we learn to be willing to be bland and willing to be bland can we be self-satisfied with blandness.
01
If you have something you want to do, do your best to do it.
How many of us want to do something, but look left and right, and there is no action.
Recently, I revisited the TV series "Please Answer 1988", and perhaps the most regrettable thing is the relationship between Dog Huan and Deok Shan.
Dog Huan and Deok Sun are young plum bamboo horses who grew up together.
At the age of the beginning of the love sinus, the two people had a crush on each other for a while.
But because of Dog Huan's various concerns and countless hesitations, the two did not come together.
By the end, when Dog Huan finally faced his feelings and finally bravely said what he liked, Deshan had already fallen in love with another person.
Because of his hesitation, he missed the life of virtue and goodness.
In life, there are also many people who miss out on people who are important to them because they are hesitant and not brave enough.
Because I am afraid that the other party will not like me, because I am afraid of the gossipy eyes of others, because I am afraid that I will not be able to give the other party the best life, because my friends also like the people I like... And missed many opportunities to be together.
In the end, I left myself in vain, and regretted it for countless days and nights.
Many people will be afraid to start because they are afraid.
In fact, everything is difficult at the beginning, as long as you try, to explore, sometimes you will find that what you want may be close at hand.
Most people can't do something because they don't have the strength and ability, but because they don't have the opportunity to create change for themselves.
Maybe our fearless progress does not mean that we have succeeded every time.
But after trying it, you can know where your limits are, how much room you have to grow, and even gain valuable experience.
Life is short, and if you want to do something, do it.
Do whatever you want, love whoever you want, because if you don't try, even if you don't succeed in the end, you will never be able to reconcile with yourself.
Even it will become an eternal knot in your heart, which cannot be undone, torn, and dissolved, and can only be released by being in it, having tried, hurting, and feeling.
Just like Norma's grandmother, who was once popular on the Internet, at the age of 89, she experienced the death of her husband and her own cancer.
But she quickly decided: she wouldn't take any more treatment and wanted to hit the road right away and see the world.
She said, "Do something that I want to do in my life but haven't done yet, and I should fight for myself." ”
So, accompanied by her family, Grandma Norma went to the beach, went to the hot air balloon, dressed up as a Viking warrior, and even sailed a yacht...
Life is short, many people and things, can not withstand our hesitation.
If you want to do it, do it as much as you can.
Do what you want to do, love the person you want to love, try everything you once dared not get involved in, because you will never know how many surprises and unforgettable experiences will be hidden in all unknown environments.
02
Live a normal life.
Many people's lives are mostly like this. Born in an ordinary family, successfully completed nine years of compulsory education, went to another three years of ordinary high school, and finally entered an ordinary university.
After smoothly finishing college, I found a very ordinary job.
Then I met a lover who was as ordinary as myself, and then gave birth to a child who was as ordinary as myself, living an ordinary life, although life was occasionally bumpy, but there was no major disaster. Although the body has small sickness from time to time, there is no serious illness. Just like that, I lived plainly to another world.
Many people feel bored with such a life, rejecting "ordinary", or not wanting to live an "ordinary life".
Writer Liang Xiaosheng was invited to a university to give a lecture, and when communicating with students, a male student said amazingly: "If before the age of 30, at the latest before the age of 35, I can't get out of the ordinary, then I will leave." ”
Liang Xiaosheng asked, "Then what is extraordinary?" ”
The boy replied: "Either have a certain social status, or have a considerable amount of money, or have a certain amount of power." ”
Later, when Liang Xiaosheng received a European scholar, the European asked Liang Xiaosheng: "You Chinese seem to be secretly afraid of something in your hearts, what is it?" ”
Liang Xiaosheng replied, "I am afraid of an ordinary thing." ”
The Europeans asked, "What exactly?" ”
Liang Xiaosheng said: "I am afraid of ordinary life." ”
Europeans were astonished: "It's so incomprehensible, most of us Europeans are willing to be ordinary people and live an ordinary life, why are you so afraid of the ordinary?" ”
We are really afraid of the ordinary, and we have been taught from an early age that we must get ahead.
But in fact, no matter how hard we try, in the end, we can only be an ordinary person.
According to the survey, 95% of the world's people are ordinary people, 4% of people have small success, and 1% of people can achieve great success.
So for the vast majority of people, going to the ordinary is our ultimate end.
Ordinary or ordinary, nothing bad.
After all, most different forms of life will eventually return to the ordinary, even if it seems to be a wonderful story, it will end in the end.
Life does not have to be rich and rich, famous and profitable, and it is also very good to have some small pleasures and small tastes.
The little restaurant you want to eat after work, and the weekend when you can finally rest, the long lazy sleep at home, the ability to watch favorite movies with your lovers, the monthly salary and the bonus at the end of the year, as well as every holiday and birthday, and the upcoming winter and the first snow...
Such an ordinary life is actually worth living.
If you have mediocre ability, ordinary family background, general education, how to work hard is difficult to complete the class counterattack, it is better to choose to reconcile with yourself: behave in a disciplined manner, do not increase the burden on elderly parents, try to let them enjoy their old age, according to their income situation, they should eat and drink and play, maintain a good attitude, have a healthy body, cultivate hobbies that can entertain themselves, and work and career with the encounter.
Ordinary people's children, don't always think about the pursuit of success and fame, we must first strive to become ordinary people, and the life of ordinary people is also worth living.
The real sense of growing up when a person becomes an adult is to accept that he is an ordinary person.
It is good to be able to accept the lives of ordinary people and live ordinary lives well.
03
Learn to change and make yourself better.
There is a saying that don't underestimate the power of change, you may be able to get a new life.
Many times, it may just be a change in details that will bring you great positive feedback.
When you are less stubborn, when you start to change yourself, maybe many problems can be solved.
Not resisting change is a sign of a person's maturity; not dealing with problems in an old way is the best way for a person to start being smart.
So, from now on, try to change yourself.
Change the impetuous state of mind, do more things that interest you, such as when you are low and sleepy, go out for a walk alone, and feel the natural fun. Don't let yourself be too idle, people idle for a long time, you can't find your own positioning, the sense of value is vague, the easier it is to be sad and vulnerable, and finally fall into boundless anxiety and panic; so, you must not let yourself idle for too long.
Learn to forgive, between people, there will always be friction and contradictions, behind everyone's glamorous beauty, there are too many unknown pain, to the people they don't like, smile in return; for those who care about you, treat each other sincerely. To forgive others on small things that do not involve principle is to spare oneself.
Learn to take care of your body, no money, you can earn again, but without a healthy body, everything loses its meaning. On the shoulders of adults, carrying a heavy burden, we have to work hard to survive and support our families. But no matter how much ambition and pursuit you have, you should spend moderate physical energy and energy to maintain good health.
When li Xiaodong was in college, his body became very poor because of his irregular work and rest, irregular diet.
Later, in order to strengthen his physique, he began to try running.
At first, it was difficult to try. He couldn't run, he could only walk. But slowly, he was able to walk briskly, and then ran.
Later, he was able to run farther and farther and faster, and his mental state and physique had changed greatly.
So don't be afraid of change, even if it's hard to deal with at first.
But take a small step first, and you'll find that it's far simpler than you think.
As soon as you start to change, your situation will change with it.
Coco Chanel, who had been pursuing freedom all her life, lost her mother at the age of six, and was subsequently abandoned by her father and fostered in her aunt's house. In her memory, childhood was spent in an environment full of discrimination, depressed and dull.
Her aunt always hit her, saying that she would not have money, and it would be good to have a farmer willing to marry her in the future. Chanel did not want to be bound by poverty, to lose her freedom, to lose the value of life. Therefore, she put her work first, took "if you want to be free, you must be rich" as her belief, and worked hard to make money.
After the opening of her hat shop, Chanel won the favor of many customers with her innovative designs.
Later, she entered the fashion field and founded the Chanel brand, which made a legendary life.
If you don't change, life will be the same. Only by jumping out of the original thinking to change ourselves, the world in our eyes will change with it, and we can have the freedom we yearn for.
When we change ourselves, everything changes.
If you change yourself, you will become more outstanding; if you continue to grow, you will meet more beauty.
A little change every day, a small amount of accumulation, will eventually bring about a big difference, have a better life.
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